Understanding childhood trauma in a relationship

Complete transcript: Understanding Childhood Trauma in a Relationship

Person 1: Did you hear that?
Person 2: Yeah, I think it's just the neighbor parking his car.
Person 2: Ah, let me give you a hug.
Person 1: You're actually making things worse. Now I feel guilty because I want you to completely disappear, and you're just trying to help.

[Bokreeder]

Gosh, the sound of car door while you're relaxing is such a trigger

[ozywomandius]

The guilt abt pushing ppl away who overwhelm me with compassion is too real. TY

[wrestlingfanman]

For me it's the garage door opening. When that happened when I was a kid I knew mom was home and any peace or tranquility that was in the house was about to disappear in about 2 minutes.

[theoneandonline]

I can sleep through the loudest thunder storms but the particular sound of someone coming up the stairs to the floor of my childhood bedroom ... has me wide awake, heart pounding, even though nothing "objectively bad" ever happened.

[bobbysgirl]

I hate it when people complain how jumpy I am. Try living inside my mind.

[EllieEveline]

My boyfriend had to tell me that the ice machine in the fridge was what I was hearing because I thought i was hearing screaming outside, and I was getting really anxious.

[amygerstle]

Sometimes hugs are unwanted and people just don't understand why that would make somebody uncomfortable and make it about them and don't seem to understand the need for personal space when processing feelings ❤

[FleetwoodCaddy]

I hate doing that, jumping or flinching from the dumbest shit. I don’t know you but damn it’s nice to be understood. I don’t like hugs or anyone touching me at all really I would very gladly take a hug from you.Thank You 💜

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This is me. And then I gotta try to look busy. Even if its just me. I jump up and start cleaning or doing chores.

[LindaR-xhhf]

These shorts are SO helpful-thank you!❤

[uflsots]

This was me after moving out of my narcissistic abusers house. However it was my teenage kids who were telling me that it was just the neighbor's car and that I didn't need to whisper anymore when I was talking to them.

[Joker-zlng]

I feel that so much, I just lashed out because of a damn chip bag being opened I feel bad about it and apologized but the more stress I’m under the more it’s like all sounds are turned up a 100times and sets me right on edge

[Healingisliving]

Guilt! Not my fault. Not my fault! 🤦🏼‍♀️

[ryanking]

Garage door / front door being opened when you're not expecting it. I've never felt something more in my life. That reaction is spot on.

[letsjustdirtbike]

I have this too! But a lot of times, when I'm home from work, relaxing or sleeping in a little, and I hear someone start mowing their lawn, I immediately shoot up and feel myself going into a panic because I feel unproductive and I'm afraid I'm going to get in trouble for it. 😂 I know, I'm weird. 😂

[roberts.valkyrie]

I used to be so jumpy. Car doors and especially someone knocking on the door is still triggering.

[spacegirl]

Felt. This. Deeply.

Thank you, Nicole.

[eatnplaytoday]

Whenever I heard my parents coming home, I quickly hide in my room

[Sophie-urqb]

It's hard to overcome. Have to remind myself after sudden loud noises that im safe now. Being on edge all the time is exhausting 😮‍💨

[karisattler]

I resignate with that a little bit and I try hard to not push the person away. I cry & just feel my feelings.