Dating (when you're autistic)

00:00 - 02:00 - first impressions
02:01 - 03:05 - chaos cards!
03:06 - 6:16 - surviving dating apps
6:17 - 10:48 - meeting a fellow autistic
10:49 - 15:30 - turning evil
15:31 - 20:45 - autistic people aren't all the same!

AUDIO EDITOR: Cory

BACKGROUNDS + ASSETS:

Oskar

Nunu

STORYBOARDS:
Tyler

Laddi

Rachel Green

Hannah Jurgens

ANIMATION:

Laddi

Breeezy

Viral

Riah (PUPPET WRANGLER)

Annika

Michael Nahem

CHANNEL MANAGEMENT: Carlee Wilson, David Seelos

#illymation

[shawngaliley]

As someone who found out they were autistic after getting married, this video really explains so much of the relationship dynamics. Thank you

[sari]

My heart breaks for Kermit that his parents didn’t tell him he was autistic growing up. I would’ve given anything to know I was autistic as a child instead of as a near adult

[commentbot]

Being a people pleaser until you get so overwhelmed that you become irrationally angry is so relatable.

[madelynnielson-ps]

Thank you for making this video. it made me cry I was diagnosed at 16 and it was wild to see that other people go through this kind of experience, especially with trying to date and make friends.

[krisdreemur]

"I liked his kermit impression, He liked my big sword" is one of the truest loves there is. One for the ages.

[TooningIn]

“People either got weird or were weirdly mean to me or treated me like I was 6”
That third one perfectly describes like half the kids in my PE class.

As always, phenomenal work, Illy. I hope you and Kermit are doing well.

[MacDoesIt]

I was banned from tinder for the same reason and also wasn’t approved to be on raya lmaooo

[DefrostedChicken]

Empathy is a wild thing because I’ve never even met Kermit’s parents and I already feel like I have beef with them

[DeathAlchemist]

this was super sweet. finding another autistic person certainly can relieve the anxiety of dating and not having to mask and worry they dislike who you really are.

[finianriley]

As a person with ADHD, autism and anxiety, I can 100% feel your pain

[charemchavrutah]

That whole "turning evil" when you're out of spoons is so insightful. I've never heard it described that way, but it makes so much sense!

[shlippykemy]

Not only did this make me laugh, it made me realize that what I'm feeling is real and I'm not just 'being lazy' or 'overdramatic'. It made me feel like someday I'll find someone who's like me too.

Also that's so real, getting anxious when someone says "can we talk about this later", my heartrate goes to TEN THOUSAND BEATS PER MINUTE... also I completely agree with going 'evil mode'. By the end of the school day I'm grumpy because I don't have any spoons left, and people are confused on why I'm angry. Thank you for making this video <3

[fireflyer]

Communicating your needs to your partner is such a good thing, good on you Kermit.

[Kittyboiart]

As a person with AUDHD (autism and adhd, inattentive type) I find this really inspiring. It sucks Kirmet’s parents didn’t tell him he was autistic but I’m glad you guys found each other. I hope your relationship lasts a long time and you can make each other happy together ^-^

[karinaarroyo]

My mom decided to tell me i was autistic when i was 19, she said she didnt want me to feel less than others or use it in my favor...all through my life, mostly highschool i started realizing the similar traits i had to other peple with autism so i brought it up to her and she was like " yeah your therapist told me you are on the spectrum but on the light end" and i was HUUUH?

[arcadius_exd]

18:00 this is my favorite part with kermit releasing his inner frog

[Blobri]

Honestly, a huge lesson in this video is not just finding someone who gets you, but COMMUNICATION. I love that "Kermit" took you away and talked to you seriously, and that you understood and worked through it. Everyone thinks finding a good personality is IT, but noooo it's everything else.

[justyourlocalrat_]

Thank you for making content like this. I'm also autistic/disabled, and it's so difficult in this social order. I feel like I'm so behind everyone and like I'm constantly failing. Videos like this make me feel so much less alone. So just thank you

[Teag_Brohman]

my parents didn't tell me I was autistic until I was 13, when asked why they didn't tell me earlier, they said I "wouldn't have been able to handle it"

[koda_pop]

Similar experience here! My gf and I are both autistic, and hit it off really fast. It is so rare to find someone who you vibe with as autistic, let alone your flavour of autism because it's a spectrum!
We have out meltdowns and shutdowns together, and it is honestly wonderful because we no longer have to do that alone. Took me 26 years to get here too lol.