What Women With Autism Want You to Know | Iris

Here's what women with autism want you to know.


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[celiceuk]

It would appear that bullies can spot autistic kids way quicker than doctors & specialists can. Certainly was the case with my daughter :(

[TheHybridlogic]

After watching this I feel like it is entirely possible to go a lifetime without realizing one has Autism

[aabracadavra]

"All the little things that everyone does unconsciously, autistic people do manually."

This woman just took a huge weight off of my shoulders just like that. I'm in awe. That might be the best explanation I could use to describe my struggles that I've ever heard up to this point. It's spot on. I feel like I need to thank her.

[jmfs]

"Even with people I care for and enjoy being around, I have to psyche myself up to be around them." That statement really resonates with me, and is difficult to explain to friends.

[TheMan]

“It’s like being bullied for being blind, but being socially blind”

That explains my entire life after being diagnosed at 2 years old

[Ego-dedt]

The woman who rocks as she talks wasn’t diagnosed till she was 32?! That poor woman probably went through so much being undiagnosed for that many decades.

[raedai]

I'm so glad a black woman came in for this video. The black community typically sees mental health differently, especially when combined with religious belief. My good friend had told me this and I see it everywhere now. People don't realize or process that there are autistic folks all around the world! Not just America. That's such a subconscious idea that's just sitting in a lot of people's mind and it's like hey! People in India have autism. In Afghanistan. In China. In Turkey. Everywhere!

I don't know if I have autism. Im about to get an evaluation. My sister is autistic and I understand everything she talks about. And the bullying was relentless for us. For me I constantly got assaulted and attacked at school. I was quiet and walked funny and I was different. I didn't know what was wrong with me until people told me and I believed it and it ate me up. And I couldn't be like everyone else I didn't know how to. But I also didn't know why I was so dang different that I couldn't get along with everyone. It's painful. My heart hurt feeling that.
And then things changed for me. I got some friends in college and people liked me. I couldn't believe it. Nothing changed. Those people just gave me a chance and I loved it. And most people who gives me a chance likes me.
People will see the outside. They'll notice things that don't matter and they may be hung up on it. But you're all gems. Everybody. And when people give you a chance, they see that. I learned that a lot of times you have to fight for your chance, but when I almost gave up, people finally saw me. And I hope you all have someone who will or has given you the chance to express yourself and be you and sees what a gem you are.

[TheGoddessroom]

watching this had me in tears having no friends can hurt hearing "she's slow" can make you hate social interactions even more

[AneesaH.]

“Social skill is like a muscle”
Damn, a lot of this is hitting home.

[AndrewKimmey]

"All the little things that everyone does unconsciously autistic people do manually" Thank you! every little facial expression, tone of voice, movement, reaction, and word has to be consciously calculated. Sometimes I focus so much on properly responding that I literally can't focus on the person and miss the next thing they say.

[babeena_gt_]

We are highly emotional and tend to be more direct, this makes some people think we are cold and over step our boundries

[jaysprezz]

One of the main problems with high functioning autism is that the quirks/idiosyncrasies often come across as being shady or always up to something. And a lot of times its true. Just not shady in the way most people assume it to be. It often gets confused with narcissism or sociopathic. But with autism, the "shady" behavior is usually the result of defense mechanisms. Relationships, even casual, can be very difficult.

[brittanyg.]

The worse part is being completely self aware of what makes you so different.

[ztellarvibrationz]

I was diagnosed on the higher functioning end when I was 2 years old and the woman who diagnosed me told my parents to be prepared to put me in a home once they are not able to take care of me anymore, that I would not be able to find love, or feel love or any other emotion, etc. I'm right now in college getting my Bachelors in Science in Clinical Psychology, Engaged (getting married in 2020), and just living my life the way it should be. My way.

Edit: Honestly didn't expect so many likes, I was just putting my two cents on my experience and how far I've come. Thank you all for the love you have given me <3

[Kristen]

I just got my autism diagnosis this year, at 36 years old. I didn't start realizing that I was autistic until after my daughter got her diagnosis. I started researching autism in girls, and the more I learned, the more I started realizing that it sounded a lot like me as well. I talked to my doctor, went through the process, and got my diagnosis. I really wish I had known as a kid. It explains everything. I've never been "normal" like other girls. I always wondered why. My husband has become my safety blanket. I probably rely on him too much, but he is great about it. I just hope I can help my daughter adjust better than I was able to.

[Becks-jzqc]

I'm 21 and show a ton of signs of being on the spectrum, even at a young age. But I was misdiagnosed with BPD.. Doctors need to stop diagnosing us for our emotional traits and diagnose us for what's ACTUALLY going on.

[jadeykinz]

"Having to psych myself up to even be around family" me in a nutshell.

[PhillipRajcany]

"Except in this case, you're blind socially." *wow* that description made an impression on me.

[brittkneee]

I just realized I was masking my entire life after having a mental breakdown last year. 31 years. I was practically beaten into submission as a child of a veteran who is also on the spectrum and undiagnosed. Generational abuse is very hard to break. Sending everyone love and support!

[lthegreatestdetective]

"To finally have friends it's such a big big deal"
well yea.. Waiting for that day to happen