Tips on Dating Someone With Autism

[BrinleyLloyd]

My boyfriend is on the spectrum, and he's the most amazing man I've ever met ❤️

[yucatansuckaman]

I think everyone should do this for their spouses/partners regardless of autism.

[JessClare]

Tip: use direct communication! Don’t drop hints because we will not pick up on them. We don’t do well with ‘reading between the lines’ and can often get upset when people don’t clearly communicate their feelings or intentions.

If an autistic person is comfortable with you they will probably be very direct with you. Don’t try to find hidden meanings behind what we say, there is none.

[genkiferal]

yea. be direct. i just told a guy what I planned to do tonight when he asked me what I was doing tonight (friday night). I am guessing in hindsight that he may've been trying to ask me out. Still not sure. I would've said yes. Tomorrow I will tell him to be direct with me. I told him I have Aspergers already

[dontaescisson]

I dated a girl this past summer and when we first started talking she asked if I had Autism I nervously said yes buy she was so understanding and didn't make fun of me. I never felt judged by her, she was very nice for and our first date she let me use her fidget cube to calm my nerves.

[Trent]

I’ve learned so much from your content I’ve recently entered a relationship with an amazing woman and I am learning to be a much better partner the more I understand so thank you very much also please keep up the outstanding work

[wotomelon]

I like telling my friend about pretty much everything that happened during the day and I think he finds it to be unusual or strange. I just do it out of habit and its how I show trust! I don't talk to people very much if I dont trust them.

[bedazzledmisery]

Can you do some tips on help the neuro folks get a bit more in control of how they reciprocate being a good listener back? I have such a horrible time with trying to talk about my day concisely, but I swear I just get on a whole roll of being stuck rambling too long, and then I realize I've been such a terrible partner because I have been taking up the WHOLE time and conversation with my crap and just feel really bad for leaving the other person feeling like they're just always only listening to me but don't get to have the same amount of time or energy to express back. And it makes them feel like their experiences and day and etc is just not an important interest for me.
When, in actuality, I literally just keep on waiting for them to just sort of interrupt me like... Way earlier in the conversation because I apparently am ONLY used to always being cut off by the other person in the conversation because that's how most others had treated me for a long time. And I would not even notice, would just figure that the other person jumped in with their take at the right time.
However, I absolutely hate that I cannot like... Find a normal stopping point for myself? Almost like when given the space to let me be myself, I just have hardly any stopping control until I just get exhausted of whatever feelings I was "locked in" on?
It's not the case EVERY time, but I'm just having a hard time lately with that.... Maybe I just suck at communicating because I got used to being the one listening to others ramble on like that, so it's just really jarring to realize that I'm this much of a steamroller in convos...
Maybe I should set a timer or something next time.. lol. Or do a little system of 15 mins them, 15 mins me, or etc etc. Idk.
I just talk a crap load and I wanna get some kind of starting point with guidance there.. or what speech/communication courses/counseling/skill workshop thing there may be to consider?

[thepeacefulhappyandbountif]

my number 1 worry is for our autistic kid to be alone in life when we are all gone. im scared they wont be able to have a family of their own someday. learning now that they can atleast date and maybe find someone calms me a bit.

[Kilonovae]

i want to infodump about my day BUT I also wanna hear about my gf's day too!

[bedazzledmisery]

I like to implement the rule "explain like I'm 5" to make it more direct and clear.
And then I turn around and wordpasta at them.... I hate it. I really want to be there for my loved ones in conversations way better than I am being now...

[rita_]

As an autistic woman, the biggest issue I have had in relationships is definitely communication. Ideally if something is up I need my partner to tell me 1) what they have noticed 2) how it makes them feel 3) what they would like me to do about it. Otherwise, I often have difficulty understanding and picking up on it. My last romantic partner did not communicate at all. He would give me non-verbal signals and get upset when I didnt know what he was talking about

[fine]

Develop a good relationship with their family/the people they love

[miap]

This is a strange question, I know, but do you know any common symptoms of people with mild autism/low on the spectrum?
Watching some of your videos is making me question whether I do suffer from autism in some way.
Thank you. Xx

[PandaHopeful]

These comments made me really sad. I’m autistic, or have what we used to call Asperger’s

[Puppyloafva]

I feel like that applies to everyone though. Like i dont want special treatment i just want some help with things thag are hard for me

[grabbelton]

Do you have More Info about this for me please?

[samanthalopez]

I am currently struggling to have Anyone i can trust to be open with and feel safe enough to talk about personal things with . So I lean on Jesus and pray for myslef

[zacharypiech]

It’s a travesty how some teachers and faculty treat my neuro-divergent, brilliant, son.

[MsG-db]

My 16 year old son, with autism adhd, has absolutely no interest in girls and dating. His physician said it's normal, he will discover girls in college. Any truth to this???