10 Signs Someone May Not Be for You

Are you trying your best to save what is left of the relationship? Are you making the "right" decisions for the wrong person? Breakups can be painful but it may help to understand that it’s worth having a good, healthy separation with someone rather than staying in a dying relationship. This is why it is helpful to understand the signs of someone not being a positive impact on your life in a lot of ways.

Writer: Mary Li Chamae G. Quiachon
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Thu Nguyen (new animator)
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

We have a new animator on the team for this project. If you support this style (her), let us know by commenting below.

[syahirahnazri]

Just two days ago, my ex boyfriend told me that he doesn't have feelings for me anymore, and I didn't see it coming at all. I was still in love and trying my best to improve the relationship. I begged him to stay at first, until I realised that there's no purpose of being with someone that stays out of pity. I believe that I'll be alright; because I'm surrounded by people I love, and it really helps to talk to them about it. One day I'll find someone that's right for me, but for now, i'm gonna focus on taking care of myself ❤️

[Simon]

For those in a hurry

0:24 You feel like you can't be yourself around them
1:08 You always initiate conversations and dates
1:48 You don't feel their trust
2:30 You fight instead of having healthy arguments
3:11 You can't open up to them about anything
3:48 You're very defensive when asked about them
4:32 You're afraid to let them meet the people you're close to
5:25 You're constantly on the lackout for new partners
6:26 You don't feel like you're becoming a better person
7:18 You're staying in the relationship out of comfort

Sometimes, you can can try to let go of your relationship
if you can't take this anymore
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[WojtiGrzegorz]

6:19 "I'm gonna leave you for Glamrock Freddy
Good bye." the best thing ever

[thechancellor-]

To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️. Love is the greatest.

[OscarButDumb]

The new style feels fresh, modern, and still keeps the phsyc2go charm. Whoever animated this, you did a great job! :D

[anotherhealingjourneybegins]

I suffer from Major Depressive Disorder, ADHD, and Anxiety and I find that sometimes watching these videos makes me feel like I start looking for all the wrong in my relationships with people. Anyone else feel that way? I feel like after watching so many of these, I just become more paranoid and 'omg is that how I am/we are too?' All I know is this:

Life is a constant struggle and I've been through a lot with the people in my life. But it's the fact that we come together and not give up on each other that makes us strong. It's so easy to just say, 'This isn't working out' and remove yourself. But to remember the good and keep in mind There is NO set rulebook for living life, forgiveness and learning to keep being there for each other even when you feel weak, THAT takes strength. You can grow together if you actually remember to be present and forgiving. Live what feels right for YOU, not what others tell you what should be. Because at the end of the day, every single one of us is just trying to figure this life thing out. Every single one. No one is perfect.

[sonalmundhra]

I was in a 8 year marriage with a physically abusive narcissist. I have been separated for a year, but getting mentally and emotionally out of it is taking its own sweet time. This video just hit so many spots. I still question my judgement, but I am getting there small step by small step everyday.

[charlottemuylle]

I broke up with my boyfriend around september and most of these signs I recognized. Now I feel more confident that I made the right decision. Thanks.

[scottmeager]

In my current relationship, now 4 years in, we've definitely had phases where we went through some of these mentioned.
But we've worked through a lot together, and continue to grow and learn and support each other, I've been into psychology for 8 years, and convinced her to join my academy I'm in, she's now 3 years, so our arguments get... Deep and very complex lol, we both know a lot about each others subconscious patterns, which helps us support the other, but in times of heated arguments good god we can press each others buttons Moreno than anyone else either of us have been with hahaha.
But at the end of the day when we cool off, we both take responsibility for the projections we've thrown at the other, and take responsibility for the our own patterns we played out in the other.
She's genuinely the most loving and affectionate person I've ever been with by FAR!
And I for her, although she's only been with one other person before me, I've been in 5 relationships before her, and had one/two off dates with about 20 other girls, so I know she's top tier on the market, and never take her for granted. ❤

Because of her lack of relationships and her perfectionism, she sometimes wonders if there's someone even more perfect than me for her out there, which I think is totally understandable and normal given her only being with one other guy her 30 years on this Earth lol.
But she keeps coming back every once in a while saying "I saw another guy I found realky attractive today, and when I asked myself what I found attractive in him, it was all the same stuff I love about you, and think to myself, I already have all of that at home for me 😊" and gives me a hug. Which some people might take as an offense, but I find it really flattering. Because no matter what relationship you are in, you don't suddenly find other attractive people non attractive, every client I've had has admitted this to me, our teacher as well.
It's totally normal human biology to find others attractive when you are already taken, and SO many people judge themselves for it and see it as a red flag, it's not, it's normal.
The true red flag there is if you start falling in love with someone else, and/or find yourself chasing something with someone else.
Not just simply finding someone else desirable.

[sugar_fairydesu]

I'll watch these videos until I get married and all throughout my life. You've helped me through many stuffs. I'm slowly learning how to be myself, how to love, how to be loved and how to be happy. Thank you.

[Alimaway]

I always say its a two way street. Whether you dating, in a serious relationship or even platonic relationships. Dont always wait for the other to text first. Especially if they wrote to you last. We all on our phones way too much to not take a few seconds to say hey how are you.

[Kneirros]

Poor Itto on the thumbnail 😔 he's a very sweet and caring guy to his gang, granny, and generally all of his friends so he surely deserves the best.

Edit: they changed the thumbnail _(probably for the best because even I myself feel very sad when I saw Itto beaten up by Sara)_

[laramila]

This video was very real, and brought tears to my eyes. I feel like we stay in relationships due to comfort. We are often afraid to leave, in fear of being alone. Sometimes we have to listen to our intuition, when it pokes at our spirits. We often ignore those red flags that someone isn't right for us, and end up suffering in the end.

[MC.Tengu]

The Freddy part got me dying on the inside. Good vid tho, keep it up.

[cosmicoindustries]

It feels like a chore being in the relationship I'm in.

[The_General_Zubas]

1:05 "Your value does NOT decrease, due to someone else's inability to see your worth."

[Moony_editsGacha]

1. 0:24 you feel like you can't be yourself around them
2. 1:10 you always initiate conversations and dates
3. 1:49 You don't feel their trust
4. 2:33 you fight instead of having healthy argument
6. 3:50 your very defensive when asked about them
7. 4:34 your afraid to let them meet the people your close to
8. 5:27 your constantly on the lookout for new partners
9. 6:26 you don't feel like your becoming a better person
10. 7:20 your staying in the relationship out of comfort

This took me forever TwT

[paulamartinez]

Having gotten out of a toxic relationship not that long ago and after two months of depression watching this video made me realise how messed up my relationship was and how I kept romanticising shit that was really wrong. It is very important to share videos like this so people in unhealthy relationships know when to get out. Although I am extremely grateful for that relationship because it taught me a lot about myself, what I want and how I should be treated. I’m happy to say that I am now in a healthy relationship that makes me really happy and brings me peace :)

[olivergreen]

Thanks so much for this video!! I found it super helpful. My experience in a relationship has been very supportive and patient. My partner is someone who is an introvert and so finds it difficult to open up, but I use kind and gentle word to create a safe environment. Asking questions rather than demanding and not expecting results or a response straight away. I check on her day to day with spaces in between to breathe and if she would rather talk by text, then I accept her choice and adapt myself. She really appreciates this. Also, she does the same to me and this is what strengthens our relationships in times when it gets tough. Humans are like mirrors: you give them happiness, you get happiness back, but if you give them negativity, you get an argument and a sense of brokenness.