How To Stop Obsessing About People As An Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style | Limerence

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Stop Abandonment & Rejection in A Relationship (Anxious Attachment Style Re-Programming)

In this video, I talk about how the anxious preoccupied attachment style becomes infatuated and experiences limerence as well as how to overcome it for more authentic and sustainable connections. I'll also touch on unmet needs and how to meet your needs!

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[TruePathLiving]

Whoever says they love the feeling of limerence... Has NOT experienced limerence .. it's horrible... And it doesn't stop. It's like a sickness. A disease. It's horrible. You're a slave to the feelings.

[davidwhited]

It’s been 6 months of excruciating heartache after being rejected by a DA. I lost my sense of purpose, identity, and the most powerful connection I’ve ever felt. I miss her every day. Thank you for your videos. Healing takes time and I’m beginning to heal from my AP / limerence. It’s like emotional withdrawal from a powerful drug. I have to show up for myself now.

[jcman-lplg]

It's hard to be anxious attachment, you get to know someone and then eventually fall for them just for your feelings to be one sided. Sucks especially when you know they're bad for you, don't have the best of personalities, ignore you, etc. But, you still think of them constantly...

[angrychickadee]

This hits home! It's terrible to give other people the power and responsibility over your emotions, especially with rejection sensitivity the other person can do nothing wrong yet I'll have very emotional reactions

[Kumachanchan]

my first adult limerance happened 2 years ago with a coworker. We are both married and she gave me such positive energy and support and I thought she was amazing and became limerant for her. Wow! this was my subconscious mind seeking these feelings I lacked externally thru another. It was a short period and the only great part of limerance is it DOES END. I am now limerant with a girl 20 years younger and this video helped me tremendously to realize it's again my subconscious seeking validation and being desirable since I'm getting older and it's not easy. I really needed this today. God bless all and remember...it does end

[dannyschell]

that got me! The things I'm fantasizing about are the needs I'm not having met now. This makes so much sense. Thank you so much!

[SpicyLunarDust]

This has consumed me for over three years now. I’m honestly so stuck in this right now I feel like I will never break free. My ex girlfriend was a DA and discarded me so matter-of-fact to “experience life and people”. And this is the most painful thing I’ve experienced in my life and I’ve lost a lot of people. I don’t even know where to begin to heal this, I’m a shell of myself who lives in isolation now..

[YaksHearNoises]

In a situation now with a friend I've had for a few months who's shown and verbally expressed romantic interest, but won't pursue a relationship (work, family commitments, baggage, etc.). It has been one of the most confusing, frustrating, destabilizing experiences of my life. On the one hand, he's wonderful when we're actually spending time together, but on the other I fall apart when he's made himself unavailable once again. I need to let him go, but it's ripping me in two just thinking about it.

[FrankyBabes]

The description of limerence as revealing unmet needs is extremely illuminating. Still unsure as to what to do with that information but it's interesting

[ribz]

You have zero idea how much your PDS courses have helped me.. And I've loved your recent videos on your personal experience especially as someone who like you was an FA leaning AP (and much more secure thanks to you!). Thank you so much, despite never speaking nor meeting you have had a great impact on me 💖💖

[embo_]

Terribly relevant for me right now, I know I'm doing it but how to stop it is another matter entirely. Thanks for the illumination Thais!!!

[antonykibet]

You are amazing😊... i stumbled upon your videos and have been hooked cant miss any each day... i discovered my attachment style through you... thank you

[seanaaiolupotea]

i was just journaling about this last night, feels like this video was made just for me! thank you :)

[Katrica]

I'm not sure why anyone would love that feeling! 😱

[primerdimers]

Timely! Sometimes I feel a fear or a burden that when I fiiinally find someone to be in a relationship with, I'd sabotage it because it's not in my comfort zone :/

[Nicole]

Your videos on limerence are life changing. I have been getting limerence many times throughout my life. But your videos make me feel like I am not crazy and you explain it so well. I feel more hopeful now that I can overcome this.

[tammy]

You just helped me put a big part of my puzzle together..thank you so much for your work and your videos. I wish so many more people could find your videos.

[sophiafara]

"It doesn't have to be like that" Nice.

[ew]

OMG I was literally just telling myself I need to see what videos you have on this!

[MarcPrime]

I’ve finally laid out my terms and standards for relationship, now that I’m uncoupled. And I know it’s going to take some heavy work to actually stick to them. I’m inconsistent because when I start to attach, I feel like I lack self-control. So I’m taking one year off from relationship to become strong.