If We Can Heal Complex Trauma, We Can Heal the Rest @lisamtickel

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It can be hard not to compare our own struggles in complex trauma to those of others, especially if their stories involve sources of "Big T" Trauma, such as abuse, serious addiction, and intense loss. Complex trauma is complex for this reason - no two peoples' stories are the same, and how our experiences affect us is at times unpredictable. It is important to know that your experience with complex trauma is no less valid than someone else's. How we learn, build our toolkits, gain vocabulary, and gain the agency to heal in the long term is what's most important.

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[gwdavey]

Not every addiction is to substances. I was horribly addicted to work and caffeine for many years. My sister chose opiates and alcohol.

[Karlien]

Also cptsd is not only of childhood but all the things that happened all the years after...abandonment or rejection in relationships, work, friendships etc...

[HobsonP]

You said something about how treating the inner child was the thing of the past. At 67 years old I want you to know that when I was 27 I started studying John Bradshaw's learning to love your inner child. It along with a therapist helped me greatly 2 overcome my cptsd

[mac-juot]

I tried to stay away from too many drugs in life ...I have a friend who doesn't get what trauma is and isn't ...neglect is a awful thing it makes us not value ourself 😊

[Joy-wpny]

God has healed my mind from complex trauma. I'm a walking miracle and my wish is to help others

[kimlec]

Being attacked by an organization that was there to supposedly help me - instead they threatened me when I was at my most fragile - that is traumatic.

[ayla]

He's so right !! I thought for years that despite all of trauma that I experienced as a child and later that other people have been through way worse all over the world and survived and thrived so who am I to ever complain!!

Pull myself up by the bootstraps and soldier 🪖 on!!
HUT two three four !


UNTIL decades later when the bootstraps Broke and the buried shock and pain poured out Things that I had totally SOME part of some of us never forgets And I believe the longer it remains buried.... The more painful it is when it resurfaces.

I am so glad to see this generation change the approach and educate Creating TRUE healing on the mass scale that its NEEDED .❤

[Thatsbannanas-dc]

As a grad of the lift program, 2021. recovery is a gift. 🎁. It’s much easier to be me. 🎈Tim Fletcher and his excellent staff, was a quantum healing experience.

[TeaRose]

There are many many toxic behaviors that are associated with childhood trauma. My adult son didn’t even realize the extreme trauma he experienced in childhood from his father because apparently he thought it was normal. Same for me, until I realized it was.

[kimlec]

Having experiences in the mental health system which destroy your hope confidence & trust.. is traumatic. Not being able to trust those in authority when you see what they have done to friends - threats & taking away their access to their own money & property - being injected with meds against their will on a community treatment order - that is traumatic.

[Fetsimo]

Exactly 💯 Thank you so much for articulating this so succinctly and accurately!!! ❤

[yellowdayz]

Tim...what would of happened to us if it wasn't for you folks? Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤ almost got my sense of identy.. Finally. At 55 ❤

[LFT]

I came up with the term complex PTSD a couple of years ago when my girlfriend cheated, and my son was kept away. I didn't know it was actually a thing until I went online searching, now I see things a lot deeper than I did back then, and am still recovering early wounds that I had neglected all my life. I'm 47.

[TheEndsMeatShow]

I don't understand how when we go to therapy and we have all these trauma responses and you explain all the neglect and abuse, they just label us as sick or deficienct. I would always say but I don't think I'm depressed when I'm in a healthy environment, I would be fine if I wasn't getting my ass beat by my alchy dad while my co dependent co narcissist mom would make excuses for him and somehow all three of my sisters.and brother remember the abuse the same way, down to details on specific instances but no the only logical explanation is that we shared a collective hallucination and we are all remembering things wrong because we are just crazy kids and we just made ourselves this way. Couldn't be anything I did while drinking and punching. Turn to he said that never happened. We never locked you in a makeshift room (garage)with no windows, we never killed the breaker to your lights you never had to pee and poo in a corner because we would leave you in there for over 24 hrs without food or water amd you definitely didn't get molested by your older brother during one of your short term imprisonments, oops I mean normal discipline. I don't even want an apology I just want it to be acknowledged that it happened and maybe that's why I've been hooked on drugs for over 20 years.

[sammyspaniel]

One thing I have noticed right away. A close relationship with God eases the pain for me significantly. Almost to the point that the shame is no longer there. But the moment I take my eyes off Christ the shame creeps back in. The secret for me as I learn Tim's tools for healing is to study and pray every day. God is good.

[HeyCoachBarbara]

The book “Love Is a choice” opened my eyes to the different types of trauma.

[melissasue]

I get that all the time when I've had conversations about trauma. so many people believe it's only the big huge incidents that qualify

[JustHereToHear]

I've listened to half this podcast... It's really good, I highly recommend

[kaystephens]

Gaslighting in your home environment. "Its not that bad". That bad. You should not have bad at all in your own home.

[carismacatalyst]

Thank you guys for your information and work...
This brings hope for many of us 🙏