YES, You Can Heal Childhood PTSD Symptoms -- These Actions HELP.

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You've probably sought help for the problems in your life that (whether you realize it or not) are driven by childhood trauma. You were probably told you need to TALK about it (and talk and talk and talk). As you've probably experienced, talk is not enough to produce change in your life. Once you've decided you're willing to do what it takes to heal, don't wait! These 10 tips will guide you toward actions that make a difference.
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[alisoncanty]

"Learning to make money is self-empowerment." This is absolutely true and something I'm learning right now. I love this video, Anna, because I finally feel understood by a professional for the first time in my life. Can definitely relate to the "abandonment melange" because it landed me in a hospital many years ago but also everything else. Your point about choosing friends who are working on themselves is like gold to me because I think this is a huge part of healing, too, since you can get mired down with people who are remaining in their dysfunction. I need to do The Daily Practice. Wish I would have known about all this 29 years ago because my life would have been so different but now I do! Thank you!! 💝💖

[psykmeistr]

1. Learn to emotionally regulate yourself.
2. Save your social and romantic energy for people who can reciprocate. The attraction to unavailable people is very tempting but needs to stop.
3. Get really good at ending relationships that aren't reciprocal. Be aware of abandonment malange (mashup): rage, fear, and sadness.
4. Choose friends who are working on themselves and are doing things you admire.
5. Find activities and hobbies that bring you growth. Take a class, learn about money, etc.
6. Look for people who are wise and fair. Morally good people. Stop crap-fitting like you had to as a child with CPTSD.
7. Seek to be a generous and charitable person. If you're staying in relationships with people who let you down and then you have to nag them, it turns you into someone you're not. How do I feel after I hang out with this person? Inspired and energized? Or drained and bad about yourself?
8. When a good relationship has broken down, keep your words minimal. Learn to apologize for your part without bringing up all of their part. Check your agenda. Do your exits gently and kindly.
9. Acknowledge the suffering you've been though, but focus more on the now; on what you can change now. How to deal with your triggers now.
10. Seek out and practice techniques that actually help you, aka The Daily Practice 🙏🏼

[ShekinahGwaii]

Tears keep streaming 💜
The spinup you described is exactly what happened to me each episode of self harm. My complex ptsd was from being injured by a doctor duringthe Gulf, followed by 25 years of medical neglect by the VA. Many nightmares and investigations, but like you say, even the couple times things went well wasn't enough to build healthy regulatory protocols. Worse was the injury was to the 10th cranial nerve, with ensuing residuals. There's more, but this channel speaks to all kinds of complex trauma 🎉 what a breath of fresh air 😊

[charlottetaylor]

I am so ANGRY. How dare parents do this to us. I can't get past the anger.

[hilary]

Your videos are seriously saving my life. Thank you so much

[kristi]

I listened to this with my father in the car and he scoffed and was dismissive of the information 😂

[hv]

I feel safe and seen when I listening to you.

[SuraDoes]

The emotional dysregulation is TOO much. It happens so quickly. You snap and then you immediately have to apologize for acting out of character. Then you feel shame or guilt. Sometimes the triggers are so tiny you can’t identify them.

[laurier]

I wish I had heard this in my 20’s. Better late than never. I’m 62 and I’m looking forward to learning another way to live. Thanks!

[karenr]

“Feeling your feelings is important, but feeling your
Dysregulation is destructive!” Wow! This is so on point 😮

[TheMidnightModder]

"It's okay to feel your feelings, just don't let all of them manifest into actions." Is a good way of understanding one of your points.

[christmas]

How amazing are you Anna?! It takes a very special and wise person to dedicate their life to first learn, then use that knowledge to aid others in their recovery of CPTSD. Thank you so very much. Xx

[MjF]

I saw a phd that is a trauma expert.
He said a study was done about support groups and medical research proved that re hashing or listening to other peoples traumas makes the trauma more severe.
We absorb positivity and negativity from others.

[hasnachandika]

Just wanted to share that I had a realisation of what CPTSD is.. I have a rabbit - he is cute but he very often bites to get attention so I have to be very aware of where he is when he is outside of the cage. So not long ago there was a cat in my flat for a week. Cat is a similar size to the rabbit, moves quietly, but does not bite. When I was doing my things and noticed the cat moving towards me, I immediately started to pull away or defend myself from reflex. Although there was no reason to defend from a cat, I very often still had the reflex. So bringing it to adulthood - i see now that I have a reflex of defending and hiding myself from people. Even from people who would never bite.

[frappalina]

This is so helpful for me. When someone gets angry at me and calls me out for behaviour that I don't feel should have offended them I often explode in anger (I was punished and beaten for small things so it triggers me immensely) or, at best, I shut down and start to resent them so hard that I end up cutting them out of my life... and it it so hard to apologize. whenever I do that, it feels like abusing myself. But I understand that it is just projection of my childhood trauma on other people.

[lifescalling]

I love the way you can explain such heavy things while still keeping a lighthearted tone. It makes it so much easier to absorb and accept the information that is needed for personal healing and growth. I really appreciate what you are doing! ❤

[Phoenix]

I really love Dr Maté, but man girl you hit the nail right on the head. I’ve been teaching, counseling, and HAD read so many books and have gone to therapy for years and why doesn’t anyone know about this? I was a Chaplain Assistant in the Army and man, we could have really used your advice when dealing with Soldiers and their families too. Because as a lower enlisted person in the military you joined bc you had no other options. Your whole life was trauma and then you live and work around a bunch of other people who are traumatized so we all just fuel each other. And this leads to being very self destructive as a young person in the military. We need this message more than ever right now!

[luise_sams]

12:10 growth can also be physical! It helped me a lot to start training and regain some muscels. Working on outer strength helps the inner strength.

[mygdaliafierro]

I can be a horrible person to others who don’t deserve my anger….then my guilt for being so angry. Your videos are a blessing!!! Being sexually abused, beaten, verbally called a “whore” by my mother at 4yrs old….I can go on and on with the pain. I do want to stop the damage! I want to show love and kindness.

[justinesimone]

I don't feel dysregulation coming on. I am almost totally solo. I have one friend who accepts me how I am, but she has a loving family who contact her and show love and respect daily. She doesn't get it when I try to explain why I must back off from my daughter, who gives me breadcrumbs and disrespect. It's just pain!
You're right about finding joy somewhere! I just took an art course which I didn't need to learn from- just to make me get back into my creativity!
All began when I was a baby. My Mom used to ignore me. She'd leave me in the carriage in the yard even after my nap was over and I was screaming, or in my crib way too long. She didn't want me. Then at 9 years old I became Cinderella, responsible for cleaning our apt. Grocery shopping and cooking. My brother and sister had no responsibilities. If I was out playing and didn't clean the house, my (4 years older) brother would pull me up the stairs by my hair to do "my job." We were all sexually abused by my Mothers Father. We all had a lot of anger or rage. My brother took it out on me. He beat me and stomped on me.
It went on to me attaching to the wrong men. (Abusive, alcoholic, cheaters, disrespectful). I'm now 78 years old, I'm done with crap fitting. Solo is better.
Years ago I went to a PTSD women's group. 12 of them gave a synopsis of their trauma. Each one turned to drugs, alcohol, sex, etc. I realized how strong I am because I became a good citizen. Had responsible jobs until I could buy my own home, had my own business, put my daughter through UPENN etc. Ironically I lost my home (on the water)and all belongings to mold and a greedy attorney. Now living in a low income housing apt.
Thank you for your teaching, it gives me understanding about wrong decisions I've made. Many Blessings. ❣️