How to KILL your Marriage (Just...like...I...did)

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You can kill your marriage a number of different ways. Relationships are far more fragile then we realize. And if we get lazy, if we get busy, if we just tend to forget to prioritize our relationship or our spouse. If we default to certain destructive behaviors. That only leads to one destination. Distance, disconnection, and usually divorce. Here's how to prevent that.

[adriennefo]

Spot The reason women handle divorce better is because they mourned the loss of the marriage while she is in it. By the time she leaves, she’s over it.

[hgg]

"Marriages die in the conversations that never happen." Yup, that's exactly what happened to mine.

[Laurapolis]

"When she divorces you, you'll be the only one that feels loss, because she's already lost everything." So sad, so true. Gave me chills.

[janetttyminski]

Before I left my husband, I saw a therapist. I felt desperately unhappy.
I wanted to be sure that I wasn’t blaming my husband for dissatisfaction with myself. The therapist pointed out that I was living in an emotional desert.

[janeta]

I remember my sister-in-law asking me if I really wanted to be a single mother when I told her I wanted a divorce from my husband.
I told her I was already a single mother.

[augiemusky]

“You’re teaching her to live without you” BINGO! And then, when he finally takes some time to be home, finally making time for the family, he wonders why nobody cares. He expected everyone to be thrilled with his very presence in the house! Instead, he finds everyone doing their own things, because they HAD to. Yes, in his absence, they learned how to live without him.

[MissDeb-jqnz]

I came to the conclusion that after years of doing EVERYTHING in my marriage -- when you are doing EVERYTHING - that means you are ALONE.

[frankiedfourlegs]

For 20 years, I was a married single. When he left, it had absolutely zero impact. In fact, life was easier.

[beetothebop]

It's not just that your relationship deserves as much effort as your career. If you're the breadwinner and leaving all the household chores to your partner, whether they work or not, your partner is facilitating your career success. If you were to get divorced and get shared custody, and actually had to care for your kids half the time, you'd have a lot more work on your hands and your career would suffer somewhat. You're not successful in spite of your family, you are successful thanks to the load your partner is taking off your shoulders.

[lynneparro]

Married 43 yrs, and yes, he's taught me how to live life without him. It's been a lonely life.
I hope that many men take your message to heart - it would be marriage-changing!
You are an inspiration!
Thank you.

[brendareed]

Remember guys, when you ask her what she needs, do not tell her that you don't believe she needs that, don't discount what she needs, don't mock what she needs, do not judge what she asks for, don't question or challenge her need for something, don't say you can do what she needs and not follow through, don't promise anything you don't intend to do.

[theresahernandez]

As a 70 year old woman, you nailed this. I’m so happy that you have that many subscribers because there’s a great deal of men who need to hear this. For too long women have been blamed for being too demanding; when all they want is a healthy relationship that two people contribute to. May your channel continue to grow. Much appreciation, love and blessings to you and your family ❤

[jannazepp]

My husband has done an excellent job showing me how to live without him. This is 100% accurate.

[jeanniecatton]

Had a husband who often worked out of town. One time he came home and I was waiting with his favorite dinner cooked and ready, my hair nice, pretty skirt on, his favorite beer cold...I put both plates on the table, popped open his beer and sat down, asked him how things were going. He took the beer, said his buddies were waiting for him at the bar, and left. I put my plate away, gave his to the dog, and proceeded to drink beer on the back step til way past dark. When I left a year later he was shocked! Stunned!
I missed the dog and cats badly, since they'd been my only company. I managed to move one cat into my small apartment. I didn't miss the so-called husband anymore.
This video is spot on.

[wildtexan]

Man I'm not even married and now I feel like I've been neglecting a wife that doesn't exist

[Hibbity_Hobbity]

I am a therapist who often works with couples dealing with all of the things you mentioned here. it is SO IMPORTANT for men to hear these things from other men. In sessions, many male clients in heterosexual relationships think I am just “taking her side” when I say the exact same words you say. Usually this is something we can work through. But this step is often avoided when men hear these things from other men. Way to break the toxic masculinity cycle!

[newhopemedia]

Been married for five years and I realise that I have been doing a terrible job as a husband. It's difficult enough commenting about this in public because it's the first time I am coming out about this. I love my wife and I want to save my marriage. I need help but I need to help myself. God give me the strength. Thank you for your video. Hard truths. Needed truths.

[CyeOutsider]

You can't complain that your wife nags you AND that you dont know what she wants.

A "nag" is her telling you explicitly what she wants. And when you dismiss it as just her nagging, that means you dont care enough to listen to what she's saying.

[lesleyannmcdaniel]

This is the pre-marriage class everyone should take.

[Margo_key]

I already started to gaslight myself into thinking that i don't need deep emotional connection, vulnerability etc., that it's not necessary for a relashionship bc my partner doesent treat it like such. Thank you for making me feeling validated and connected to myself again