Raising a Narcissist

In episode 3 of our Narcissism in Relationships series, Dr. Ramani walks through the signs of narcissism in your child in adulthood.

What happens when your child grows into adulthood but never grows out of narcissistic behavior? Coping with that behavior in this relationship can get complicated. This episode shows parents what they can do and how they can cope.

Make sure to watch the rest of this 6-episode series on narcissistic relationships to learn how to deal with every type of narcissistic relationship in your life.

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[MedCircle]

Which of Ramani’s points most resonates with you? Let us know in the comments below. We want to hear your story.

[QuinshunCarswell]

Single mom here! I tried to break the cycle, so I thought. My mother was cold, harsh, and never showed love. I overindulged and I was the helicopter mom. I wanted my daughter to have everything and have a better life than me. Now, as an adult the only time she is nice (brief moment) to me is when I'm doing something for her, other than that I get the silent treatment. She's entitled, selfish, and blames me for her failures. I'm done! I'm tired of her making me feel like a piece of crap.

[HoosierMama]

That chubby dog is the perfect mascot for this video. Sleeping and totally unaware of the problem...

[palmamingozzi]

The hardest thing is to walk away when you feel your life wrenched out of you.

[geofferypmeyers]

The parents who never say no. that is the one that drives me crazy

[rachelhope]

The angry son who hates his mom is not my son. I’ll always remember the sweet child inside lost forever. It’s been 6 heart breaking years. Im cutting all ties. I love me.

[vonniecronje]

I have watched many of Dr Ramani's videos. This one was made specifically for me
Nothing in life can be more painful than having to let go from your own child for the sake of your own mental wellbeing. When we reach old age it is so hard to accept that your own child is unable to have any caring love empathy understanding or any positive emotion or feeling towards you. Thanks so much for teaching us how to cope and manage the relationship. And hopefully eventually to heal

[angelmason]

I'm here for the information but can we acknowledge the fact that the dog is an entire mood

[lulabella]

Honestly Kyle these convos with Dr. Ramani are ground breaking. My ex-husband is an undiagnosed narcassist who continues to brainwash and turn my son against me. My son who is 16, is mean spirited, entitled and troubled. When he speaks it's like my ex is speaking through him. Unfortunately, I am guilty of feeling guilt from the divorce and caving to my son's whims from time to time. Now that I am beginning to set boundaries he has become extremely beligerant and disrespectful. My ex doesn't support me at all, saying that he never gives him a hard time and that since have one child it shouldn't be so difficult to have him obey me. I am a 7/8 grade teacher who gets more respect from my students, it breaks my heart that my only child is slowly becoming estranged from me, and sadly there's not much I can do about it .

[xnichole_mariex]

My son's father was an abusive narcissist. Removed him from our lives. My son now has ODD and I'm working my hardest to make sure he is a compassionate, accountable individual. Proud to say after 3 years of therapy we've seen a tremendous improvement in behavior. 👌 wasn't easy but worth it.

[marypelton]

My 42yo narcissistic daughter has blocked me on social media and has not spoken to me in 2 years. My 3 grandchildren don’t know me, except for what she tells them. She has broken my heart, but my life is so much easier now. Her father was a narcissist and an alcoholic. He shot me in the head on his way out the door. My two babies were sleeping in the other room. That was 42 years ago. He drank himself to death and we survived. I’ve lived alone most of my life not understanding what narcissism is. At 73, I am finally seeing my part in all of this. Having firm boundaries is something I’m learning! Thank you Dr. Romani for making it possible for us to understand what this means.

[spaceanon]

I'm so glad I watched this. I believe my daughter is a narc. It was enlightening but heartbreaking to hear all the traits they have. I'm 63 and homeless for approximately 3 years now due to serious health issues. Just today I gave her my last 8 $ to survive on for the next 25 days, in order to help her with some funds traveling 3000 miles away from me. She's leaving to pursue yet again a better life. I will be left of course in a car and it doesnt seem to bother her. In fact she has done nothing but cuss me for 2 days. I'm terribly lonely and have no friends here and I still worry about her. She's 36 and i love her so, but she is so hurtful. I thank you for your visa. And I learn so much from the responses that are given. I just don't want to hurt anymore. I understand people over all aren't interested in others that aren't physically well, but once upon a time I accomplished alot successfully and had friends. I used to laugh and smile continually and was so, so hopeful. Now I'm invisible. Many thanks to you all. I'm sure your beautiful people.

[JWIA]

Emotional blackmail is an effective tactic as well to parents

[amandachpmn]

Thank you for this video, I really needed it. The hardest thing for us was having to tell our son that if he was going to continue to manipulate, cause drama and abuse us that he could no longer come around. we haven't really talked in over a year now. I never thought we would have to end a relationship with any of our kids ever. We just could not take the verbal and emotional rollercoaster of abuse anymore. The heartbreak has been unbearable.

[TradBarbie]

*That's me with my oldest two!!*
I'm like "Now that I've done THIS for her she'll be nice and appreciate me!!" Then I'm crushed to see they still behave exactly the same.

[nolanrobertson]

I cannot take it anymore and yes it hurts. I cannot take the disrespect, the lies, the neediness or the hurting words my daughter calls me. It hurts less not having to deal with it.

[peacefreedom]

This makes me so sad. I was in a relationship with a covert narcissist for 10 years. At the time I didn’t know anything about narcissism. I had one child that I ended up raising on my own and now I’m questioning if she’s a covert narcissist. I’m absolutely crushed. It was not easy to get out of the relationship with her father and the mental and emotional damage remained. I am forever changed. But now my only child seems to be someone I can’t trust. I am devastated.

[cellostrings]

Lack of responsibility - this is one of the main problems (if not the main problem) with our society and with narcissists. When parents over indulge their kids and do not make them responsible for their own actions, you have raised an entitled adult. I constantly see adults who blame others for their misfortune and do not want to be responsible for their own lives. Entitled people are miserable big babies and I stay clear of them, if at all possible.

[rebeccatrono]

I have tremendous guilt around the fact that my son is a true narcissist. Tremendous guilt. Because of this, I overlooked so much of his behaviors, his lying, his manipulative behaviors, and of course that didn't help at all, only hurt and might have kept him from realizing how narcissistic he is and hopefully getting help. The guilt some days is overwhelming, because I can see how anxious and unhappy he really is, how he lacks self-worth. "I made this...." yes, so painful.

[fit_gma]

Just realized that my daughter is a adult narcissist. I was married to a sociopath and didn't realize that until after the divorce. Now it all makes sense. Thanks, good information.