SIGNS SOMEONE WAS RAISED BY A NARCISSIST

Narcissism is such a trending topic -- identifying narcissists, understanding different types, how to identify abuse, etc.

But what are the signs someone was raised by a Narcissist?

What are the impacts upon children in homes raised by Narcissists?

Given many the many psychological, neurological, social, individual responses to stress, etc factors--- we cannot say that every child will be impacted in the same way.

Some will develop significant symptoms and issues (Ie complex trauma, or self esteem issues, anxiety, depression, etc) some will not -- at a minimum, it's common to have some self doubt - but there are often many other impacts upon children, as a result of being raised by a Narcissistic parent.

Also, protective factors (ie response to stress, family dynamics, neurobiology, genetics, parent's role...etc) can make a difference in how we are impacted.

But is NARCISSISM rooted in biology as much as environment? Is it only related to parenting or environment?

Research has begun to show some significant genetic and biological links to Borderline PD and Antisocial (as well as environmental) and so the questions about whether or not the same is true for Narcissism remain to be examined and demonstrated.

So, we are still very early in understanding Narcissism - but what is clear is that Narcissism is not going anywhere --and it can have a significant impact upon the development in children of Narcissists.

Just some interesting info.....

A study led by University of Chicago Medicine psychiatrist and personality disorder specialist Royce Lee, MD, finds that Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is marked by increased oxidative stress in the blood and is also connected to interpersonal hypersensitivity.

While not many biology-based studies have been done on NPD, there have been some encouraging biological studies of BPD in recent years, opening the door for more brain-based NPD studies, Lee said.
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“BPD went from an untreatable, so-called character disorder to a medical condition we now think of as highly treatable. NPD remains in this category of mysterious, stigmatized, misunderstood conditions. Clinicians aren’t sure what to do with it. In the science community, there’s been this renewed interest in trying to rehabilitate NPD. That’s what’s behind this paper,” Lee said.

The study “Narcissistic and Borderline Personality Disorder: Relationship with Oxidative Stress,” was co-authored by David Gozal, MD, MBA, from the University of Missouri School of Medicine’s Department of Child Health, Emil F. Coccaro, MD, from the University of Chicago Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Neuroscience, and Jennifer Fanning from Harvard University, PhD, Harvard Medical Hospital’s Center for Depression, Anxiety and Stress.
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And...."Pathological narcissism is associated with reduced cortical thickness and cortical volume in the right dorsolateral prefrontal cortex, according to a study published online this July in Neuroscience, which may explain impairments in the regulation of emotion."

Highlights (of another study)
(Brain structure in narcissistic personality disorder: A VBM and DTI pilot study

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First combined grey and white matter analysis in narcissistic personality disorder.
Narcissistic personality disorder is associated with frontal grey matter loss.
NaPD is also associated with right frontal white matter alterations.
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[freeandfabulous]

I remember my therapist mentioned in session that I was lovable just because I exist. I was shocked that was a thing. So sad.

[HuricaneChampagne]

fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, hypertension tension, hyper vigilance. the stress is astounding

[DarkLightHuntress]

Signs someone was raised by narcissists aka the invisible chains that a child raised by a narcissist must break in order to be a whole person.

[jenaya_laila]

it felt like you were describing me 100%. This is my final confirmation that I was raised by a narcissist. My mind still wants to protect my caregiver and just say that she had some mental health issues and it wasn't her fault. But I think if we want to grow up we have to finally admit how it was and stop trying to protect the parent...I still want to protect her though..but I have to start standing up for myself and validating my experiences as a child and the resulting difficulties as an adult.

[accidentalsanctuaryph]

This is why i don't remember my childhood much. Now I get it. Thanks.

[Scarzkira]

My mum snatched my degree out of my hand, she told me my wedding wasn't about me, and she's even told me she wants to write a pregnancy diary now I'm pregnant. I was the 2 year old who played alone, I've never felt safe to show emotion, and I've never felt loved by her. I'm just bragging rights for her.

[tiablasangoriti]

"Repeated disregard for you as a human being." Wow! That was my experience living with a birth mother who was an sexaddict, alcoholic and a rageful covert Narcissist. You know your stuff Dr Sage.

[deirdreryan]

I was raised by narcissists. I just got out of a narcissistic friendship. I didn't realize how much power she had over me. I feel exposed and hurt.

[Thomas_Winters]

During a mental breakdown I told my mother that I felt like she treated me like a dog on a leash and she gave me a silent dead-eyed smirk.

[nvr]

My father was a narcissist. My mother his hostage. My father would abuse my mother if I ever expressed any type of negative emotion. At a very young age I learned to be quiet and never express sadness, anger, frustration, wants or needs... At 45 I broke down, ended up in debt, lost my job and now feel I am utterly worthless and that it is best for me to just end it. I feel like I have a giant sticker on my forehead that reads "inadequate".

[georgiaanderson]

This explains why I have very few memories of my childhood. One of the phrases ingrained in my brain is "It's better to be seen than heard."
This video is my childhood explained to a T.
WOW...

[gojiberry]

I don't know if my mom is narcissistic, like the disorder, but she did a lot of things that don't make sense. I remember I was in a daily program for mental illness, and my mom came to every session/class with me that she was allowed to. She started talking about me with smiles and grand gestures, talking about my puberty and when I got my period and stuff that I was humiliated about. She was the only parent there. I relate to this video a lot.

[outrageousmermaid]

No one in my family understands the truth of my narcissist verbally abusive mother. Before she died the nicest thing I remember that she ever said to me was that I like to spend money and that I needed to marry rich. She was diagnosed with breast cancer when I was seven and died when I was fourteen. Parents also gaslighted us about her sickness among everything else. The adults in-charge were more like headless chickens with the added weekly domestic violence, door slamming and lamps hurling across the room. My therapist said, "You went through a lot. A LOT." My response, "I did????" Oh I'm definitely a colorful butterfly with some wing damage and proportional reality distortions.

You videos are helping me a lot thank you.

[darthlaurel]

When I realized my mother was a narcissist, I finally was able to come to terms with how she treated me and how she saw me. She didn't see me. I didn't exist for her. That was a huge revelation for me. It enabled me to finally be who I really was and I eventually stopped having a relationship with her because she wasn't willing to accept who I was and I was no longer willing to pretend.

[janetcrawford]

When I watch your videos I think to myself that is how everyone is. Then realize not everyone is like that, but I am.

[entrotlek]

Jesus christ you just explained my entire existence....thank you

[marylindasmith]

This is the most accurate description of my life that I've ever heard. And yes, I was raised by a narcissistic mother and it still feels very disloyal to say that, as loyalty ia one of my own personality traits. I have never even grieved for her when she died, and that feels weird and rather disloyal, too. I do grieve for the relationship we could have had. She may have loved me? But I never felt as though she liked me. She was critical and controlling her entire life. What has been confusing is that she was actually a great mom in so many ways and worked so hard I called her martyr mom. But there was little emotional support or empathy from her ever. I never felt heard. And I don't think I ever heard her apologize for anything. And as Dr. Kim mentioned, I have several chronic diseases/health issues. I could write on and on, but this video so closely mirrored my experience, I just wanted to say "thanks" and that it feels good that someone understands. Are there any videos that are really helpful in how to overcome a lifetime of these issues (once and for all???)? I'm so tired of dealing with these things. I've forgiven and worked hard to get clear of all these experiences and sometimes feel that I'm pretty much there. Then something/s will come up and the memories and feelings regurgitate themselves back into my life and consciousness. Perhaps it's so that there are further opportunities to deal with them and recover more fully. I don't know.

[VeganTrove]

Your content is so well put together. Really great Dr Kim. Thank you

[Winterlandzzz]

Loved it....we are "HumanBEINGS and not HumanDOINGS" 🥂🌻

[opticalman]

narcissit are demons in human form and the soon people wake up to that reality the better