How To Make An Ex More Responsive (So They'll Reach Out First)

How To Make An Ex More Responsive (So They’ll Reach Out First)

In this video we’ll discuss how to make your ex more responsive to your text messages;

Tip #1 – It’s not about who starts the conversations, but who ends them
Women tend to have this belief that if they reach out first it’s a sign of weakness, but I've found that the opposite is true. You see when it comes to re attracting an ex it’s not about who starts a conversation, it’s about who ends them.

And also. how satisfying that conversation was. Scientists have long known about the peak-end theory, this is a theory explaining the way that humans look back on memories. You see when you look back on memories with an ex, you only really remember two things, the peak and the end.

So, when reaching out to an ex first, were looking for a way to open communication again an olive branch, but when people reach out to exes they usually make similar mistakes, by not keeping the conversation very satisfying, not intriguing and not ending the conversation first.

You'll notice as you start to enact this pattern more and more your ex begins to get more interested and he may start to reach out on their own. But the important thing is to remember the basics of the peak-end rule. Doing so will create a snowball effect where you ex begins to reach out to you.

Tip #2 - Texts that works for responses
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One of the big benefits of this group is any time there is a successful text message, meaning they come up with the text message that they send to their exes, and their ex responds in less than 30 mins of the text and engages in conversation. They screenshot that text message and put it in an album.

What I’m going to do for you now is show you four of those text messages and explain why I think they worked and also how long it took an ex to respond because guess what, we even have that data.

Text #1 - “Hey guess what I finally got around to...”
When this text was sent to an ex it got a response within 15 minutes, but why did it work? A good text message should always make your ex curious enough to want to respond.

Text #2 - “So, have you heard the news?”
This one took 30 minutes to get a respond, this text message has a lot of curiosity involved too.

Text #3 - “I need your advice”
This one was less than a minute to respond, it had curiosity but also had a damsel in distress theme too.

Text #4 - “I have a question, and only really trust you for the answer”
This one took 17 minute response time, and isn’t really that bad compared to the above messages. This text is also very good at curiosity, while having the damsel in distress moment, where you’re pointing out that you only really trust your ex boyfriend to answer the question, this is probably why it was so effective.

[ayrakhan]

If love is true people can get together even years after...sometimes it's the situation that is the cause of break we'll be back together again 😢😢

[heroofkvatch]

Honestly I only want him to reach out first, because he owes me an explanation. He left me/ghosted me/whatever you want to call it without explanation. He lied about unfriending me on facebook. All around he hurt me and it's been 9 months since I deleted his phone number. Haven't heard a peep. Still wish he would reach out so I can have some closure. Otherwise I've moved on with my life and am with someone who actually appreciates me and loves me.

[Atm_Made_It]

Im about to ask my ex does she want to get dinner with me toma after my uncles memorial i left her 5 months ago

[theconfusedgamer]

I hate how most of these videos are regarding help for girls and not boys it’s always how to get your ex boyfriend

[pauline]

My ex reached out and asked if I had a problem with him... I don’t know what that means. We didn’t have any contact at all for 5 months

[gitikachalasani]

When reaching out after no contact, could a more subtle way to test the waters before sending the engaging text messages you suggest be sending a Snapchat or communicating through a social media?

[AntonioCamunas]

yeah these text def work! I always get a response. But after a couple of exchanges starts acting kinda rude and indifferent. What can I do Chris? I stopped talking to her for about 2 weeks after she started acting this way. So far she hasn't reached out...

[christalabcd]

It's been 5 months. I have asked him several times to meet up and he says he's busy. He isn't seeing anyone and gets upset if he thinks I am. I've done the no contact. What should I do next? He won't tell me anything about how he feels or what he wants.

[naomipothoulaki]

So I am 2 weeks into no contact and I fckd up ... yesterday someone honked at me and I thought it was my ex, so I texted him :"did you honk at me ? " and 10 mins later he replied " yes, to say hi " . So today, after 13 hours I replied and said " hi to you too " . He read it immediately and he left me on read ... so what should I do now 😥 I shouldn't have texted him ..

[snehatrivedi]

Whats ur email ..any personal coachin?