How To Get Your Ex Back (Follow These 8 Steps!)

What’s up YouTube? I’m Kate Spring, a dating and relationship coach from Canada and I’ve got a pretty serious topic to discuss today, one that I want to jump right into and that is how to get your ex-girlfriend back. A lot of people have contacted me seeking more guidance with this. I have a problem, they say, and I’m here to help!

Just before we get started, if you have any questions, please leave them in the comments below, and I’ll get back to you, personally, as soon as I can.

The first thing that is important to understand and acknowledge is why your ex left you. There are so many reasons, and the first thing you need to do is seriously look at the relationship and take ownership for your actions or lack thereof.

Here’s a quick list of common reasons why couples breakup:
-poor communication skills
-being complacent and routine.
-taking your partner for granted.
-cheating—yikes
-inability to grow and evolve together
-want different things
-stopped trying.

But the main reason why most couples split up is due to a loss of emotional attraction. As you can see, there are many reasons why relationships end, and your ex might be lying about the reasons as to why she broke up with you. But I would say that the main reason why most couples split is due to a loss of emotional attraction. A loss of emotional attraction is not sexual. But sexual and emotional attraction are what distinguishes a romantic relationship from a friendship.

[juanrodriguezmedina]

This has been a great video I’ve been on no contact with my ex for about 2 week now and a week ago she texted me how wired it was for her to not text me everyday and was wondering how I was doing. I told her I was ok staying busy with my wood working project and and hiking, something I always wanted to do with her. My ex was really nice after seeing her being really nasty to me on break up day. My ex and I had an amazing relationship and with time going by I see where I was wrong and things she was wrong with, this time way as much as it breaks my heart to be away from her sucks it’s teaching me to be a better man and boyfriend. I still love her and one day hope to win her heart back. This video gives me hope thank you.

[ossaj]

I have done these things even before watching the video. It works. It’s hard at first but it works. Done this at least 5 times. But I’m good without her, don’t want someone back who took me for granted

[Luke.ChristWalker]

hey i just wanted to say that the quality of your video is great and your voice is clear, no awkward background noise, and i just really appreciated the detail to the editing

[johnbishop]

I believe you uploads are helping me. I use your stuff for advice and affermations for subconscious training. Thanks Kate.

[msvalina]

This is a great video. Will watch this multiple times. Wanting to get back with my ex so bad. I'm trying to be strong and not creepy or stalkish. I want to better myself and therefore make us better. She's the woman of my dreams. I can't imagine life without her.

[stangreyjoy]

Its been 33 Days Nc. Since this I've been going to the gym. And running 3k 3/4 times week. I'm also doing other activities to benefit myself and also to keep my mind busy. I've got a video of something that I'm shure she will find funny that I can send as an ice breaker. I've done alot of growing recently but I'm scared to reach out. Should I reach out or keep going nc? Ahhhh! Great video Kate thank you x

[hopefulromantic]

Interesting video, Kate - thanks! I'll share with a friend who's going through a rough patch.

[shaunvanwyk]

Kate..your advise here is astonishing. I am truly greatful for the information that you share here. It has helped me in life changing ways. Know this..that you have helped someone change and reap benefits of it. Thank you again*

[Outdoor.pixels]

Hey Kate great video! I’ve noticed a lot of coach’s have said that you need to take time to work on yourself after a break up so if your ex does come back then they can see you’ve changed but if your ex breaks up with you because you stopped trying as hard to please her and they feel like they deserved better and that they didn’t feel like a priority anymore how do you work on that? I dated my gf for 3 1/2 year and took her for granted and don’t know how to work on it. Thanks for your advice!

[desirllama]

4 years later and this video is helping me so much. Thank you

[robgonzalez]

I’m so glad I watched this… my ex broke up with me a couple days ago and I was gunna wait 2 weeks to text her and agree to be friends for the sake of trying to get her back. Thank you, I’ll wait longer and work on myself. I just gotta stop thinking about her every second of the day.

[jayespi]

Thanks for the video Kate. My girlfriend broke up with me for reasons for her going back to school with her online classes and is too busy between her classes, work and her kids. I don't ask for much, 15 min here and there would do justice. But she doesn't even give me that. She did a total 360 in a matter of a week. I put her as a priority and I would like the same in return, but dont. I used to, but not now since school came in the pic. My friends say she might be seeing someone else which is quite painful knowing we really had love in the mix. It would've been a year the end if this month. Worst of all, she works with me and it ms kinda hard to do the no talk to for a month thing. What should I Do Kate! I really love this woman. What started out as a game or just playing the role, ended up being serious with lots of love, passion and emotions. She hates hearing the word love but I show her by making her priority and kissing passionately. I tell her she's my dream girl and she is, and there nothing I wouldn't do for her cuz it comes from the heart. Kate, what should I do? How do I get her back and interested. Is she lying to me about not having time? I say if u really into the person, u make time no matter what. PLEASE GET BACK to me Kate...Thanks

[XZAYLO]

Hi Kate, I’m glad I found your video. She sent me a long text last night telling me we shouldn’t see each other anymore and that she doesn’t want to try anymore because she needs someone that acts and has the same mindset as her. I have changed a lot during the past year and she is proud. The things I wanted to improve are doing uncomfortable activities with her which she wants but she says she doesn’t feel the same . She still loves me a lot she says and I’m the best that ever happened. Should I reply and if yes what do I say and if no do I apply the absence for a month. I feel numb right now because I am so surprised by her msg. She also says she wants me to still be in her life and won’t delete me from social media networks.

[Yourkstateofmind]

I did the 30 days of no contact. Now it's been 2 weeks after that and we have been talking a lot. She's flirting with me both in person and over text. She says how terrible this is because she still misses me. But she has a new boyfriend. Although she texts me all the time when she's not with him, she still is with him and not me.
Any suggestions on what I should do?

[zelkobuitelaar]

Hi Kate,

My girlfriend and i broke up 2 weeks ago. The reason was that we expect different things in the relationship. And she said it didn’t match.

After the break up i’ve been thinking a lot. And I have not properly addressed things in our relationship, I should have listened to her better and understood that I was overwhelming her with my love for her. I should have taken more slowly between us. I started talking to people about this and started looking at my self.

It came out that the loss of my mother still caused a lot of grief. And by being with her and also with her family gave me a sense of home again. What I had missed all for a long time. Because of this I wanted more, too fast. I also realized that I am not the only one in her life, that she also have family and friends. And then, besides her work, she also still need some time alone. I started working with myself and start to understand these things better now.

I’m giving her space now, and want to give here the space she needs. I’m reading books now to read more about my mind set and i’m also seeing a therapist for the losing of my mom.

It has been, and still is a emotional roller coaster for me! I really want here back in my life, because we had such a great time together.

In our break up talk I sensed that she was not sure about her feelings. She mentioned that we always had fun. But I wanted more time together, thinking about the future and that suffocated here. Something else what I haven’t experienced was that while we were breaking up we still kissed, a bit strange.

Do you have some personal tips for me? How to contact here after two months or so!

I really want to contact here, but I will not do it for some weeks.

Thanks in advance

[jasontbrock]

I really like this girl not only issue super beautiful but her advice is original is not cookie cutter same as every video out there. We'll put together I can't say enough this is my third video

[brianlee]

She is spot on compared to all the other "get your ex back" coaches. I will follow her advice with confidence

[chawesss]

I took her for granted and i was too much into my work so she left after 7 years. I feel hurt and dont have my mojo and not sure thst i can be ready in 31 days

[sctabt]

Hi Kate, great advice thx. I have just one question. Basically I have broken every rule in your book as far as what not to do as far as getting my ex back. We broke up in Nov 2017. She’s still in contact with me but ignoring all my pleas as far as getting back together again. Do you think it’s too late to apply the 30 not contact rule now?

[dzhuraaminov]

Hi Kate where have you been your videos were always very helpful for me thanks for your videos I met my fiancé and things did not go as well but we were together for quite some time would be nice to have you go back on YouTube videos your videos were always very educational you’re the best