Help! How to Deal With ADHD Meltdowns

Meltdowns aren't a disaster, they're an opportunity in disguise.

CHAPTERS:
00:00 - Intro
00:15 - What meltdowns can look like
00:30 - Emotional Regulation
01:10 - How to approach (or not approach!) meltdowns
02:10 - Glitterjars/Calming Bottle! How it can help!
02:47 - Coregulation & Self-Regulation
03:08 - Does this actually help? A message from Ava!
03:32 - Jessica's Personal Anecdote!
04:13 - Video Wrap-up & Outro

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[nicolehunter]

Does anyone else with adhd end up in tears if things aren’t going their way?

[GBfanatic]

"when you respond with anger kids learn to respond with anger" the amount of real that is

[ellyhaynes]

'Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about' was the soundtrack to my childhood

[ashleyarias]

That “I’ll give you something to cry about” thing! I remember thinking, even as a kid, thinking “what is wrong with you? Obviously there’s something that cry about because I’m crying! How is creating more reasons to be upset a solution?” I was raised on sarcasm and criticism. I still think “I’ll give you something to cry about.” is one of the worst most unreasonable things to say to anyone, especially a child. Such a trigger phrase.

[xTheBackwardsRace]

Explains why I’ve had emotional meltdowns into my 20s, I just thought I was bad at being a person

[shannenlibres]

I think the grown up version of meltdowns is crying. You've cried a lot in your videos I always thought that was super relatable. I once cried in public and my classmates were like "weird I've never seen you cry in my life" and my seatmate told them "bruh she cries over math every other day"

[LavenousForever]

So when you’re like me and you have ADHD and these emotions, but you’re also a person who got REALLY good at repressing or hiding true feelings... it causes problems 😂

[JimmieHammel]

Yeah, I burst into tears at work last week. I had gotten all my laundry done and all my dishes clean and I was feeling like SUPER ADULT... Then the very next day, I forgot I was supposed to be in to work an hour early. I spent the entire 30 minute drive yelling at myself for being irresponsible, and when my boss was SUPER understanding about my lateness because she ALSO has ADHD, I burst into tears of self disappointment.

I'm not the over-emotional type of ADHDer. I tend to shove down my own feelings and have a very laid-back attitude. I rarely get angry or sad, and I never cry.

So now I'm wondering if it'll always be a balancing act... As parts of my life get more under control, other parts start come apart. I get my house clean and then am late to and have emotional episodes at work?

But at least I've managed to keep up with dishes and laundry without being late again. Here's hoping for a slightly better, more productive 2020...

[kellyjones]

I was a "good kid" for pretty much my whole life, including in my teens. My mom always used to say she was so relieved I never had a rebellious teen phase. I did, she just never saw it because I did everything quietly or in private. My meltdowns took the form of me crying silently into my pillow at night because I was overwhelmed, or completely checking out of a family outing if I sensed tension. My younger brother had a proper rebellious teen phase and got into a lot of trouble, so I felt pressured to be the "good kid" in order to not give my parents anything else to stress over.

[JAH-iuyh]

The sad thing is so many parents DO go for the belt...including my mother in law😒 now my husband is a grown man struggling so much with his emotions & was never helped with his adhd as a child. Please be kind & patient with kids.

[degroded]

this video made me cry to be honest, because I kinda wish my parents knew to do that for me when I was a kid.

[genevievemason]

did anyone click on this hoping for help with adult ADHD meltdowns??

[thedefaultking]

So, up until this point in my life I had only been told that ADHD affects my attention span. I had no idea that there was more to it. After watching a lot of the videos on your channel I realized that I am not alone when it comes to my personality, emotions, etc.. It's been an eye opener for me, and I thank you for that.

[kimbsun]

I am a mom with a 9-year-old daughter that has ADHD. I try so hard to be the best for her. I have been told so many times that I just need to discipline her more, mostly by my parents. I don't think that works. We have the meltdowns so frequently. I am really appreciating your videos so that I can be a better mom to her. Thank you!

[jujutsucryin]

I’m 22 taking calculus for the first time and it’s so frustrating to not understand the chapters. I was having a small meltdown about feeling like a failure for weeks and like there was no point in trying and my mom said “you’ve taken hard classes before, I would’ve expected you to handle this better” I was surprised by that and I think it shows sometimes family doesn’t really always understand ADHD

[boyandcatmum]

wouldn't it be great to live in a world where we all helped each other and judged less

[blooop]

I am 28 years old, was told I had ADHD when I was a kid. My mom always said their is nothing wrong with me and to just fix my problems. After a long long struggle in life, I was recently diagnosed again, but didn't think anything about it.... then I found you! I have been in hyper focus for 12 hours watching and learning as much as I can. I feel so unbelievably blessed that you took the time to create these videos! I have finally FINALLY figured out why my brain reacts different. Since I'm now almost 3o, I'd love to see a video on how to change 30 years of habits, or how to cope when you have had ZERO support your whole life. Much love and appreciation for you and everything your doing! I'd love to help others someday!

[Ella-wddt]

My mom tells me to "calm down" and it makes it worse, i usually get anxiety and have trouble breathing and cry when I'm late for something or I can't find something. It's so annoying

[Banned]

Recently, after I heard about the traits people with ADHD have, I figured that my wife might have ADHD - im not qualified to diagnose but I had my suspicion. When I talked to her about it she had no idea what ADHD is but felt that there were too many similarities. Again, none of us are qualified to diagnose but I thought that it couldn't hurt seeking more information - especially on how to act as the significant other to a person with ADHD. I have now watched a few videos here and I feel enlightened. Things that never crossed my mind and I feel like I have grown a better understanding of my wife and no matter if she has ADHD or not, I believe we have gotten even closer after I tried to implement some ideas I got from watching this channel. If anything, I love my wife more now than before because I feel like I understand her more. She is the most beautiful person in the world to me and I now have a better idea on how to support her in what she does.

Thank you so much for your videos, they have really helped me - not only when it comes to understanding ADHD, but also to make me understand more people in general. You really do make the world a better place so keep it up!

[lilz]

trying to unlearn my parents anger has taken my entire life. i only realized recently while being in a relationship that i haven’t been doing a great job of controlling it rather than repressing it and just blowing up at a different time. i feel super bad when i do it, and often recognize it’s irrational, but it’s super hard to calm down lol