I Hate My Husband: How To Stop Resentment In Marriage

I was watching a reality show the other day, and a woman was having lunch with her girlfriend at a restaurant, and flat out said, "I hate my husband". Then her girlfriend responded, "Me too! That's totally normal from what I hear."

Now, that short yet very important conversation really threw me for a loop. There were two women, both talking about their relationships, and both stating they hate the person they share their lives together with. And not only that, then they justify it to be a normal thing! Like everyone hates the person they're married to.

I'm here to tell you that hating your spouse should not be something that is accepted as a way of life. Sure, we can all have our moments where our partners get on our nerves and we hate certain behaviors they do or things they say, but to hate your spouse all together and hold on to resentment in your marriage?! Nobody should have to stay in that type of a relationship.

6 steps to stop having resentment in marriage:

1. Be willing to open up about smaller issues
2. Take responsibility for your role in what is not working well
3. Work on apologizing
4. Forgive hurt feelings
5. State your needs respectfully
6. Put in effort to better yourself

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[leslieinadress]

What about when you state your needs over and over again and they ignore them? I find it very hard to “move on “ from something that keeps happening.

[subekennedy]

I've only been married for a year and a half and I'm starting to really dislike him. Our connection is so weak and I'm just so angry and lonely

[abab]

My problem is my husband has no depth and his priorities are....work (that’s it). He doesn’t listen and as a result we have a superficial, “politically correct” relationship. It’s hard to turn a brick wall into something more. I’ve stopped caring.

[sugabrown]

Number 1 is difficult if your spouse is the 1 who can't talk about small issues or issues in general. It's a problem when "you try to talk about what bothers you".It comes out as "your nagging or your complain too much" etc..

[pgt]

He’s emotionally unavailable and selfish. I try to explain what I need in our marriage and he says I’ll do better. But he changes for a few days and it’s like a switch has been flipped and right back to being a heartless turd. I feel like I’m slowly giving up. I know I can’t change him and I’m not going to beg. My first husband was the same, they both have been really good men in the beginning but after that ring gets on our finger it’s over. I just want to be single forever!!

[xozoey]

Ever since my husband cheated. I've felt this disgust and hatred for him. And I do regret marrying him. I wish my life can start again. Back to when I was 22, I would have married someone else

[cricketkiser]

I hate my husband.... I resent him and he is mentally and emotionally abusive

[Gumblossomhomeschool]

I’m really struggling with this. I feel like we’ve been through so much that I struggle to respect him. It an awful feeling. He is sometimes revolting to me.

[PintoPintoBean]

I do all these steps but he doesn't. The resentment cycles.

[meaningfullife]

Talk about all the little things I dislike? I do that and he hates it, calls me a nag and continues doing what he's doing.

[mailorlee]

Ummm what if your husband is a complete asshole? It can't be helped. I hate my husband. deeply. He's a complete controlling narcissist and doesn't allow me to breathe. He does what he wants and what I say or feel doesn't matter to him. Yes, you might wonder why I'm still stuck with him then? Because I put my children first. They're too young to know that their says m dad's an ass. He's occasionally nice to them, so I'm making a sacrifice. I'm willing, but I still hate the guy no matter what.

[samhas]

I tried talking about my feelings he doesnt care

[alyssanoe]

I don’t hate my husband, but I feel like he hates me. I know that when we fight sometimes I say things that I shouldn’t. But I also feel like when we do fight I’m always the issue or the problem and then he turns around and says mean and hurtful things. So I don’t fight back after that nor do I defend myself I just let him because he can never be wrong. And lately I feel like he resents me because I recently lost my job and I can’t contribute when it comes to paying bills, rent, our cars etc. and he’s been throwing that in my face a lot. I just don’t know what to do anymore I feel so lost and defeated.

[hidenseekhayley]

My husband makes me sick to my stomach. I was looking for chapstick in my nightstand and he yelled” God Dammit! I have to work!” Im ignored everyday. I’m always alone. I am not going to make this work. I deserve better. He only talks when it is time for dinner. I’m done! He repulses me. I feel like puking right now. It’s emotional abuse. 🤮🤮🤮🤮

[Mrmustard]

This advice is good maybe for a young couple, but useless for actual problems. I've done all this over and over, it means nothing.

[raycabassa]

Once the trust is broken it's a long road, don't ever betray your spouse!. Don't justify your cheating, if you betray your spouse your spouse is going to act like a total jerk. Be faithful and your
Marriage will be wonderful

[kathrynaddante]

I don’t know if it’s that I hate him or if it’s that he annoys the fk out of me when it comes to his way of dealing with my son sometimes. He can be amazing but most of the time he’s just a bully and his tactic on teaching my son is counterproductive and pisses me off. He can’t handle me mentioning anything to him that he does wrong he’s overly sensitive and everything turns into a war with him. He’s unreasonably angry. I don’t want to deal with a man child.

[humilis]

I can’t believe I’m even tuning in to this video.20 years of marriage and I have had it with him. Marriage counseling was a waste because he still doesn’t listen. He is not available emotionally for me. He just dismisses my feelings and expects me to grin and bare it. Everything is funny to him. As long as he is dancing around looking ridiculous he thinks things are fine. The minute I voice a concern about something serious he either nods his head in disagreement or tells me I’m basically thinking incorrectly.

[Battlesweface_Podcast]

I think what is failed to mention that sometimes you need to “man” or “woman” up and leave the marriage as sometimes all the advice in the world doesnt do crap all if two people are willing to do all these steps. It also doesn’t work if one person is doing all these steps either.
Some marriages just dont realise it takes “two” and remain complacent and some couples just settle because they dont know any better of how to have a healthy relationship

[lizbear]

Is so easy for you and others to say not to hate your husband. My husband keeps hurting me and do things that bothers me, but yet he never changes he continue to do same things over and over. Im so fed up with it, i want to get divorced, but at the moment i dont have the money to start on my own. But i promised to myself for my sake that i will save up money to get divorce and be done before one of us ends up in jail. I dont want my kids to see that I hate their father. I do apologize for everything i do, but he never apologiezes when he does something if anything else he blames me for his wrong doing. I had many times tried to forgive all his mistakes but he continues to hurt me. So this is not working for me anymore