When the avoidant GHOSTS you

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[cantonio]

We were together 13 years, and she didn't want to try any type of counseling or anything. She said she had been feeling like this for the past 2 years. I thought we were doing good, but in our last conversation, she brought up many things that she didn't like about the relationship or things I did. It made me question our whole relationship. I was heartbroken 💔

[amberbailey]

It hurts my heart to see so many caring ppl wanting to make sure the other person is okay - they don’t pick bad ppl to do this to they pick good people - but you cannot help them. this is a path THEY have to take and learn from.

Move on - close that door - if you give them another chance they will do the same thing. (10 plus years of experience here) it’s going to hurt, but your not the one who is broken. they are

[srxx]

HS sweetheart of 10 years ghosted me for an entire month then ended thru text. We lived together too. He just stopped coming home. No txts or calls. It was so painful and traumatizing. Coward.

[Chrissycolelive]

I’m only here to remind myself of all the things I don’t miss. I don’t have much of anything left for what I feel and absolutely will not allow a FA that close to me again. I hope he heals quickly

[RancidPetals]

I use to think It was something I said or did! But your so right it's a reflection of the person ghosting ❤

[bamess]

21 years of him coming and going with empty promises. We were finally in therapy and I thought things were going to change as they were tiny improvements. Nope. He’s taken off again. It is so hurtful. I don’t even have words. I’ve wasted my entire life.

[arankagionetti]

DEEP DOWN THEY ALL KNOWS THAT THEY ARE A BIGGEST COWARD !

[mcl]

The first time after he ghosted me, a few weeks later I asked him if he was okay. He then apologized with a long text. After that I withdrew because I was just so hurt. He then came back to me just to ghost me a second time, that was two years ago and it still hurts

[whitneytravels]

Kills me because I know if we try it a second time, he’ll just leave me again. It hurts my soul to know I can never be with the person I love ever again😢 I’m healing now

[ConnieMichelle]

my boyfriend of almost 2yrs ghosted me while we were living together (packed up his stuff and left while I was out of town) and i broke up with him. 2mo later he came back and promised he would never do it again. i forgave him and 2 weeks ago he ghosted me again.

[MrKelso]

This is awesome and bang on! Not saying it was a perfect or healthy relationship and don’t have its faults - but at the time she’s just said “I’m going through severe emotional turmoil don’t contact me again” after an anniversary dinner and 1 year together deep in love - mental and so avoidant and disgusting the more I think about it

[archstanton]

Anyone ghosts me, regardless of relationship. I simply use that contact chat as my new shopping list. I let them see all the wonderful and weird sh*t I’m buying. Places I’m going and things I’m doing, people are so nosy they can’t help but react, that’s your cue to say goodbye in whatever way you chose.

[jungleflowerwellness]

Following to hear you explain more things in this gentle and loving way. Thank you!

[MsYooToob]

Can you discuss how those feels WILL come up eventually? Because we can’t push feelings down forever. Eventually this will haunt someone. We can run from our subconscious.

[nurseyox]

He ghosted me out of nowhere when things got too deep but he's been in a relationship with someone else for 7 months 🤷

[naus]

I would rather find out my girl is trans than avoidant type. At least you know straight away and it is easier to cut feelings. Thanks for this vid Ryan, you da man.

[bruhh]

Why keep me on socials if you’re ghosting.

[CaraVinh]

Its been a month he ghosted me

Edit: its been 2 months

[Flower-vw]

But they come back, right? Actually I ghost them better than they can ever ghost me lol. Yes it hurts for a while, but then when i climb back out of the rabbit hole, I come back stronger than ever, after having learned my lessons, I beat them at their own game. I'm a sigma female super empath, exponential Scorpio, and have lions and tigers in my chart, I have a badass reputation to uphold after all lol.

[lindseygasparino]

So do you move on not reach out or try and be there for them?