Avoidant GHOSTING and GHOSTLIGHTING

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[gayleneflower]

Yes, that’s exactly what happened with me. Ghost lighting is even worse than ghosting…string me along by stopping contact for days…cause incredible anxiety..I’m now in therapy…He would do it at the end of the r/s. “They have NO RESPECT for the person b/c they are WRAPPED UP IN THEMSELVES” thank you Coach!

[Ken-odgc]

Oh my ex was a master of this.. She was "giving me space because I was looking for a job". So glad I cut her loose.

[almosdezsi]

I didn’t know what ghosting even was until it happened to me, the ghost lighting and intermittent ghosting that followed kept me blaming myself for a year, and honestly I had no shortage of disfunction, that needed work. Looking back I see the patterns, the broken promises, the ability to turn off and shut down, the dishonesty…it became too much as I was further isolated by them, and left in limbo waiting and waiting. I realized that I had outgrown these childish games, whereas she had actually in some ways become even worse. God I hope she’s ok, telling her no more is the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life.

[tredd]

Mine always (2 yrs) said, he was just, cooling off because I made him feel *fill in the blank* Never fkg again.
R U N

[jessicajackson]

Im glad you did add a stipulation for the safety factor. Im not avoidant. Im now securely attached, used to lean anxious when i was younger. I had to ghost my ex husband for a few weeks. I left with my son while he was at work with 3 bags, my 4 year old son and my 1000 dollar car that was nicknamed chitty chitty bang bang. I left my cell phone. He had PTSD really bad and he was pretty narcissistic, he had been physically abusive previously. I got pinned against walls by my throat and choked whenever we got into a fight and i stood my ground. I hid this from my family for years but when i left that last time i finally broke down and told my dad. It was not safe to have the conversation until he had cooled off.i went to my moms house first on the other side of town then after talking to my dad later that day I drove to my dads house 2 states away in my mothers spare car, mine wouldnt have made the 7 hour trip. I did give him closure a month later when i had an attorney, and my family and his knew why i had left which was due to the abuse and him cheating. I called him and told him over the phone from my dads house with dad on the other line listening. When my ex got loud and started threatening me my dad threatened to shoot him if he ever laid a finger on me again and he meant it. My dad is also retired military and scary when he needs to be. My ex may not have respected me, but he respected my father and knew he was serious. My dad and brother went and got the rest of my stuff and most of my sons clothes and toys a few weeks later.

[UnexpectedAmy]

Heh, met my ghoster at a set of traffic lights on their bike a while back. They literally cycled into traffic to avoid me even though I didn't say a word.

Their panic was so much they almost got run over. Would have been a strange irony to have been the one to look after them until an ambulance came if they had got hit.

[Amysvinylexperience]

Your channel came in like the wind. Been on a binge listening to your videos all day…you helped me heal in so many ways in such a small amount of time. The heartache has distorted my thinking and reality. Thank you ❤️‍🩹

[feelnice]

That's definitely true. I finally found the explanation that I was looking for. Thank you so much❤

[PinkSummer]

Wow, exactly what happened to me. Like you're watching my relationship with an ex.

Post divorcing a neglectful covert narcissist to falling madly in love with a dismissive/fearful avoidant. WTF??!!

[rebeccamilligan]

Thank you this is helpful I am avoidant I have worked on myself
But the things your going over are hugely beneficial than you for your work🎉❤😊

[GodHelpMe]

Don’t give the past anymore of your energy.

Give them all a big FUCK YOU
by prioritizing yourself
and never EVER compromising!

You deserve the best of the best and nothing less.
You are daughter of the Most High: King of kings

You are beautiful and worthy
of unconditional happiness and love,
it is your divine birthright.

Nobody can take your essence away from you.

I see you.

I love you.

4-part PRAYER:

1) There are 6 things Jesus has shown me I MUST do (this year in 2024...)

- I have to make amends to my sister
- I have to use my voice (radically honestly)
- I have to write the book
- I have to continuously surrender to God, more and more
- I have to completely let go of him (my former "best friend"...)
- I MUST DANCE!

I pray I accomplish all of the above in this blessed Year of 2024.
I pray I don't have to do it alone.
I pray Jesus and his benevolent holy angels assist me
and guide me, and help me through all of it...
So that it all feels joyful and easy!

2) I'm desperately lonely and alone.
I pray for true love (with my twin flame).
And a tribe of real friends.

3) I pray to be healed on every level, in every way:

- emotionally
- spiritually
- mentally
- physically
- generationally
- financially

4) I pray for YOU! Yes you.
You who are reading this.
May you be blessed.
For on the deepest levels...
Crazy as it may sound...
We are each other!

AFFIRMATIVE PRAYER

1) I'm in love with myself and my life

2) I'm in love with being alive

3) I'm a magnet for: love, miracles, money, happiness, joy, prosperity, wealth

4) I have total and complete and permanent: FINANCIAL FREEDOM

5) Always and in all ways: I totally and completely and permanently surrender to Jesus

6) I thrive: in my career and in my relationships

7) I am a master alchemist

8) I am world-renowned in my area(s) of expertise

9) I magnetize my ideal and perfect clients to me: easily, constantly, consistently

10) my twin-flame and I are magnetized to each other, we belong together,
we are destined to be with one another

11) I am the epitome of perfect vibrant radiant health and wellbeing

Prayer to say before sleep...

In the Name of Jesus I close all portals and gateways,
in all realms and dimensions,
binding access to both my conscious and subconscious levels
as well as my spirit being,
I bind plans and attempts to project evil against me and on me.

God knows the plans he has for me
they are for good
and not evil.

I bind every abominable act of darkness and every attack of evil.

I release the spirit of the Living God
to come forth and fill up all my realms and dimensions,
all my portals and gateways,
my conscious and subconscious,
my spirit, body, and also my flesh,
my earthly land and my spiritual inheritance!

[gayleneflower]

Coach-can you please do a video on the anger these people cause? So many reasons…!!!

[malcorta]

Thank you. I think we both ghosted each other. We were both stubborn n prideful and wanted the other to contact 1st. I swallowed my pride n wrote him a letter. We both ghostslit each other...lol😂. I don't know if we will get back together but we are talking but not about our issues.

[LifeJourneyUnity]

Fantastic stuff coach. I've been using channels like yours to gain more insight around this subject and doing my own content on this material (feel free to check out guys, I'm super new and feeling my way into it) I've had major issues with attracting severe avoidants in my romantic life and all this info and insight is life saving ❤

[gregorystinette]

I only ghost DAs & narcissists. Shalom

[GodHelpMe]

MY SOUL IS RAPED

HAS BEEN MY WHOLE LIFE

44 YEARS OF HELL AND SUFFERING

NO ESCAPE

[ThisIsTheRealMe]

I'm so confused. She pulled back so fast and admitted she was scared. She analized the whole relationship. She chopped up the relationship over the course of a week and then wanted to be friends. Was ghosting me and moving back and forth. It mimicked a covert but we dated 27 years ago and it was great for about 2 months then she pulled away.
We are not each other's type but we connect on a different level, always have. I love her so much I can't explain it, I'm so confused.
She even remembered what I was wearing the last time we saw each other 27 years ago, she loved my white shirt.

[virenpatel]

Hey, have been seeing your videos for quite some time and have got many answers of why this are happening the way they are. I wanted to know what if the avoidant try to contact for old photos (after 2 months), I said I had deleted it but I haven't.. Seen her some stories where she post about how she feels about the Breakup, and posts about healing.. I think I should not contact her. As she is not ready to do the difficult conversations. Sometimes I think I too was a problem but all I wanted is the time and effort to sort things out.