Midweek with Dr. C- When Narcissists Refuse To Reason

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[ChildoftheLIGHT]

They turn reasonable conversations into arguments and then accuse you of wanting to argue!🙄🙄

[INCYTER]

Hi Dr Les, I'm am old man now(they tell me) and you taught me a few new tricks. You've helped change me and I've been so blessed through you. I can't tell you how much I appreciate you, and although I feel like I know you, I know you don't (yet) know me. Though I think we have a mutual friend in common. And I am sure one day you will hear from Him, "Well done thou, good and faithful servant".

❤
Thank you Dr. C

[sbgever]

I’m finally realizing after 4 years of marriage to a narcissist that I will never be enough in his eyes and certainly never an equal partner with an equal opinion. God bless you, Dr. Carter 🙏

[deborahnorahmc]

Dear Dr C & the rest of the team healthy. I found your channel here on Jan 1st 2024. I did not realise until then that I was ina full blown narcissistic “relationship “. I’ve believed for over 10 years that I’m a truly despicable person. Now that I have been enlightened I have completely altered my engagement with him. I really work hard at not being drawn into the crazy baiting and childish sulking. So now it’s getting through and he wants to know “what is going on with me because something has changed “. I felt so grateful to this channel when he said that. Unfortunately now - 2 bunches of flowers & a dinner date later - I’m trying hard to believe this is not a new him, just a hoovering operation. I’ll keep watching and stay vigilant. Thank you everyone ❤🙏🏼🙏🏼

[BaraSchmidt]

My biggest takeaway from this live is how physically exhausting dealing with narcs is. This was very validating, Dr. C! Thank you! And, SIR GUS - scritch, scritch!

[anacardinale]

Thank you Dr C!
How can anyone reason with arrogant, proud, self grandiose people who feel entitled to control everyone with their false narrative. There is no dialog only bullying. The constant invalidation is a sign that there is something evil in these people and the best thing to do is walk away. Who cares what they say to others behind your back? Isn't it better to cut your losses and re-invent your world with people that actually love you?

[sbgever]

“Not just a complaint session, but a springboard toward growth.” Gold! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[kellyandaaron]

That was one of his favorites. 'You always act like you don't like me' It was his go to anytime I wanted to talk about feeling hurt by his behavior.

[bereal]

My main narc: when you're in pain im going to complain about my own stuff; when im in pain you need to give your full attention while I pretend I'm not in pain. Loose loose, can't win or do anything right. Then when you're I im will pretend nothing happened and I will carry on with my day and put on a big smile for distant relatives. Translation, you carry my pain

[marclee]

One can't reason wit any person who's mind is set in unreasonableness... 😢

[yelodoggie]

I stayed many many years. My narcissist had been deeply wounded by her FoO. She had a narcissistic parent and was physically abused. She died 9 months ago (feels like Years, because my life is so radically different now) and I've been in therapy. I've learned that my own childhood trauma of taking care of an alcoholic parent, sexual abuse, and all the shame that came with those things made me into a rescuer, unable to talk about the misery I was experiencing. I am happier now than I have been in more than 30 years. Still healing.

[splainyourself]

My narc x husband would block me in a room and yell at me for hours. He pushed me to the brink and of course I wound up being the bad guy.

[carrie]

I’m 75 years old I’ve been married40 years to a narcissist! THANK YOU dr carter … I didn’t know this for most of my marriage until I came upon your videos . My husband and I talk about nothing because it always ends up in a fight . I’ve been called names for years.. the last one was “ your a fn whore” he also kept trying to make me hit him .. hit me hit me I’ll call the police “ that when I put all my knowledge ( thank you dy carter) together and started to put my dr carter knowledge to work . It’s been a couple years now that I’m working on me . TRYING to ignore ‘ the nowhere man” . THANK YOU dr carter … and GOD bless ALL of US 🙏

[PaulineMesplou]

After putting me through the wringer for 20+ years, my ex claimed that I wasn’t being reasonable when I decided to leave. I guess they do reason, they just operate with their own set of standards, bending facts to suit their weird reality 😅

[denisewalker]

Hello everyone, I hope that everyone is fine.
Thank you Dr Carter, I totally love your videos.
from Australia

[AnnePerkins-pojo]

Yes, sometimes you don't want to tell a controlling person what you had for lunch because it will trigger a long lecture about the evils of having eaten that particular food. They might criticize what you buy at the grocery store in the same way, so you don't feel like discussing those apparently trivial things with that person.

Also, with reactions, it is amazing that you can respond in as bland a way as you can muster to some outrageous statement, only to be accused of 'flipping out, ' 'paranoid' or some other psychological dysfunction. You'll never win in their games.

[mday]

Their entitlement can be they have the right to take your things or break your things.

[DonSmith-nvmv]

Omg. So relevant. I'm watching a guy in my town who has lost custody of his kids due to his own behavior. He refuses to acknowledge he's done anything wrong and the kids/teens don't want to see him. He's convinced he is a victim of parental alienation yet his house is filthy, he randomly shows up to his kids school and blames his ex for everything. He's laid complaints against every professional he deals with when he doesn't get his way. He's laid frivolous complaints against every school, the principal, the school district, every police officer, their supervisors, the court judge, lawyers and clerks, also the sheriff's at the court house. He's been doing this for years even though he's never been successful in any of them. He constantly claims to be the victim of abuse...ie didn't get my way. Now he's about to sell his house to hire an out of town lawyer (none here will touch it) and Parental Alienation expert. The judge already refused to put the kids through a full psychological assessment and for sure it'll be turned down again. No one, not even his family, can get through to him.
He'll never change.

[judyoltman]

Thank you Dr. C. I’m determined to be healthy.

[DiscipleofHim]

These shows are a big help in sorting and justifying my feelings. I grew up around these types.