10 Signs You Are Emotionally Mature

Becoming emotionally mature is not necessarily something that comes with age - it comes from doing the work. In this video I talk about what emotional maturity is and some key signs that you are emotionally mature, and some areas you might choose to focus on developing more.

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1. you don't label people (example: "this is a terrible person") because you know their behavior is a byproduct of their past experiences
2. you don't expect people to give you support, read your mind, and magically know your needs and fulfill them
3. you can apologize and mean it without feeling ashamed or self-deprecating afterwards
4. you have confidence, knowing nobody truly has everything figured out; you don't feel like you need to be special or perfect to feel good about yourself
5. you have the courage to be imperfect; you are kind to yourself
6. you let yourself make mistakes;
7. you let life be hard; no one rides for free, life is uncertain and out of your control; you don' resist discomfort
8. you let other people have opinions about you, without trying to control their perception of you
9. learning to let yourself RESPOND and not REACT (when you have an emotion be aware of what is actually going on); not taking things personally without thinking about it
10. say NO with as much ease as it took the person to ask

[cristinadiaz]

I really like how you came out right away saying that emotional maturity does not make you a better or worse person. It kind of helps bring defensiveness down and makes me listen in a more informational way.

[mediallateral]

Long story short, I've dealt with depression, anxiety, and panic attacks since I was a a young teen, I'm 20 now. Since the beginning I dived into self-help and tried to increases self worth, control thoughts, change habits, etc.. Only talked to two therapists in my life but never went through with it. My last major breakdown was in Dec, 2019 after a few weeks I recovered, since then things have balanced themselves out (something I've only dreamed of before), still have my same habits of being healthy physically, good habits, self awareness, etc..

I've been living normally this year, meaning without mental issues but I've still felt something was missing that I haven't fully grasped. Maybe an illustration will help explain - an elephant that was chained down since he was small realizes its futile to fight against it after years of being tied down. By the time its an adult (weighing tons) its conditioned to believe its still futile to break way from the small chain tied down to a chair.

I am the grown elephant who has not realized he is free. After many years of having bouts of depression that lasted days to weeks that sometimes turned to months. Creating anxiety that eventually led to panic attacks which made it worse. But now I haven't worried about any of this for months, I'm no longer thinking if this is finally the day my family will realize I've committed suicide.

My point is your first few statements helped me realized I was never a less person nor am I a superior person now. But am simply me, someone whos always wanted to feel better to get through the day and successfully do tasks without feeling drained and negative, to feel good accomplishing small goals and setting bigger goals and actually going though with it. To feel in control of my emotions and life. To actually feel anything when something good or even bad happened. To have a conversation and not feel like I'll have an anxiety attack at any moment. To as you put it "like life more" as simple as it is, its true and now that I'm capable of doing so, and that is just it, my next step is to accept that I'm no longer bound to a chain but am free to do anything I want to get the most out of life.

Granted I don't think I'm "cured" and am free from all ailments. So I will continue to be mindful and self aware of my habits, actions, feelings, etc.

Thank you Julia for this video and all the help.

[anbathanga]

I really enjoy listening to Julia. Her teachings come in handy during emotional low times for me. I find them good for bed time listening. It frees my mind of negativity before falling asleep. I also like her lovely voice which has a tone that breaks every few seconds. I find that appealing.

[sron]

Its not their jobs to meet our needs. This hit me hard because I struggle with abandonment and depression. This video really helps me see I need to be more responsible for me and not just others.

[mandyrichmond]

"To say no with as much ease as it took the person to ask" - love this, thank you, Julia 💕

[dkdawe]

OMG Julia.... this is it... this is the growth.. this is the work we are doing in the ‘shift group’... this is it.... yes yes yes x 10.
If we can answer all these things with “yes, that’s me” instead of “yeah, I know”, then we are there....
this one is a BIG one!!!!

[michaelfletcher]

Thank you for putting these videos together for us. I do enjoy the format, your lighthearted delivery making it fun with touch of seriousness when needed. I particularly appreciated your awareness of, and pointing out, that those who have done bad things at some point in their lives, may not necessarily be bad people, they very likely had adverse and painful experiences as a child that left them ill-equipped to manage their emotions.

[earthbabyy]

after finding your channel, i find myself learning more and more about myself everyday. thank you for allowing everyone to be able to learn some new tools and find some positivity in life. it helps a lot 💕

[jennyb.]

You make it very clear and understandable when you say that we outsource feeling good about ourselves!

[Robmm]

One of your best Julia! "The courage to be imperfect" - brilliant!

[SpotterSky]

Wooow JK ... Now you have made the best video of the year!
An awesome in-depth explanation in many areas and with a huge overview that ties it all together in a valuable basic package
and a tool that no one can do without ... Thank you! ! !

[lanishortsunshine]

BE, more, of who and WHAT, I am..( light, love happy ..redpect..self love etc) and just be, human

[burningmarl]

This was great. Powerful content. I've said this before and I will say it again, Julia Kristina. You are one of the most expressive speakers on youtube. I love your rhythm and cadence and your pauses, dynamics and speed variation when you speak. It really makes you compelling. Are you a musician?

[gowtham]

Your videos on emotional maturity is what I really needed to understand myself & others. I am glad that I found you. The topics you covered as so deep and are the core aspects of emotional maturity.

[elizabeth]

i have such anger. you are helping me so very much. thank you.

[nicolelauderdale]

I have so much gratitude for you !!!!
Your work in helping others has changed the way I view many areas of my life . Thank you so very much …. You are amazing . You have a way of teaching that is so relatable and inspiring and of course healing

[captaindan]

"I appreciate you more than you know." That was the best way to end it in my opinion. Right back atcha Julia!

[WilliamJones-wuhu]

I have learned so much about myself watching 2 of Julia's videos that I didn't know before and after watching 27:12 the first one I asked my wife if she had spoken to Julia about me, because I really thought she was talking about me😂. Thank you Julia for your help with my marriage. ❤

[admirbarucija]

I’m looking forward to watching after classes are over for the day, I always find your videos to be really inspiring!! 💜