How to Say No at Work | Christine vs. Work

You may have wondered how to say no to a not-so-great request from your boss. Here’s how.

Innovation Editor Christine Liu tries the one thing that’s seemingly ingrained in our workplace brains: saying no to your boss or co-worker. It’s hard no matter how you slice it, but a clean framework can take the emotion out of the statement and soften the blow. In this episode of Christine vs. Work, Ruchika Tulshyan, an inclusion strategist and author of, “The Diversity Advantage” helps Christine out by presenting a formula and discussing why deflecting a workplace ask can be so difficult.

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[harvardbusinessreview]

How comfy are you right now saying no to your boss? —Christine

[AkashBhojraj]

Omg! That was so intense! Talking with your boss in reality.

[beatadunn]

Thank you, I like that you’re authentic and real. I can relate to this - be more specific on other projects so they know you’re sincere when saying you need to prioritise- but love seeing this, being vulnerable. B

[DerChristian]

7:20 killed me. I have to remember that when I ever become manager lol

[socialist-strong]

Christine made me laugh out loud and the exchange with her and Maureen were priceless. Thank you Christine for so courageously showing us your learning curve!

[faridrezaei]

During this pandemic, we are working remotely, and since I can't see other reactions to what I say in a meeting, I get frustrated and nervous. I am constantly worried about what they think about me? Are they laughing at me?
This makes me so insecure that even sometimes, it is affecting my performance.
It's a good idea to review the insecurity caused by a persistent need for approval.

[sarahevelynlaurence]

This is so brave to do, and do for a video audience. Great tips, thank you!

[jjb]

Showing this to audience is not an easy thing, so thank you so much for doing this, and being real. I can so relate to this, and I am loving this series.
Could you do prioritization tips at work, when you are swamped?

[darcyeikenberg]

Every request is not equal. When we over-answer, we teach people that they can talk us into doing something that's not right for us.

[cj-dqut]

My problem is I get things expected of me that are not expected of people who have worked there longer. Also I was told im getting a raise for a while but ive not been given the raise.

[alienlovetunes]

Imagine working in a normal workplace where your manager understands your bandwidth and you do what you were actually hired for… 🙌 wishing everyone a healthy environment

[rashmi]

I love this series. Very practical advice. Ofcourse it is scary to put it into practice but learning to say no is so important. Thank you for making this video.

Could you make a video on resolving conflict at work or about conflict of interest or discussing expectations mismatches with your boss?

[shelltown]

What I and my friends have struggled with is being salaried and the work load is requiring almost all all of our days off to be spent working to keep up.

Even after more employees are hired, the workload continues to grow back to this same scenario. Boss says you are in customer service and the others are expected to provide the same excellent customer service. But I doubt they have a life either. Any advice when boss doesn’t care, plays other employees against you, snd your salary, and paid quite well?

[malibublue]

Loved this content. Also found great humor at certain parts as well :) Will be having a similar discussion with my Manager today. I’m anxious, however I am ready. Tired of my strong work ethic being taken advantage of. Thank you :)

[GeminiPlatypus]

I would be too scared to be fired. Confidence? Whats that? 😂

[jennysoapdish]

This video started off great, but then you lost me on the inequality BS

[jamescaffrey]

damn that Ruchi chick HOT! Those eyes killed me

[charbel]

This is so hard I'm scared is there an aura so ppl won't ask you to do more

[renzokouken]

OMG the time management clause

Thank you for this

[ayshadinius]

This was incredibly helpful! The struggle that showed is so real!! I especially loved seeing your initial (unrehearsed and impromptu) go at it :):)
Thanks for the framework and advice to practice, practice, practice...