How To Say No - Teal Swan

All too often, we say yes to others whenever we are asked to do something, but deep down we feel resentful even though it was our decision in the first place. We suppress those feelings of resentment, but emotions like resentment are energy and energy has to go somewhere. So it does, those negative feelings express themselves through your body and begin to corrode at the bond between you and the people in your life. What we really resent is the fact that every time we are asked to do something, we feel faced with decision to do what would make us happy and be a bad, unlovable person or to do something we don't want to do and remain a good, lovable person. We develop the habit of never saying no because we want to be loved.

We set ourselves up for failure by never saying no because we commit ourselves to a life lived for other people and not for ourselves. This isn't sustainable, because it takes a toll on our energy, body and relationships. In this Ask Teal Episode, Teal Scott teaches us how to say no.

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Teal Swan is a revolutionary for personal transformation and is one of The Most Spiritually Influential Living People in the world. As a renowned author, speaker and social media star, she travels the world teaching self-development and teaching people how to transform their emotional, mental, physical and spiritual pain.

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[sannajohanna]

To say "No" to things and people I do not want I say "Yes" to myself.
I've read this idea somewhere and it is so true!

[celestialhumanoid]

this makes so much sense bc as a kid i was punished by authority figures for saying no to things (mainly social events i had no interest in attending/sporting teams.  i was being told to believe that no is not an option, that saying no makes you a rude person.  thanks much from the bottom of my heart for this!

[TheInnerQuestJourney]

What it really comes down to is that it's about honesty. Honesty is the most important trait in the universe. If you don't want to do something but you say yes to it purely out of obligation, then you are being dishonest with yourself...and you are also then affirming that dishonesty within others is okay, which just perpetuates more dishonesty. Time to be radically honest.

[moniqueantoinette]

I'M SELFISH! Thank you for posting this video. For the first time in my life I got selfish and said “NO, ” to being in relationship with family members or anyone else who disagrees with my gift of Mediumship. I've been in communication with the spirit world since age 7. I'm done hiding! I said NO to judgment and disapproval and guess what? I just released the pilot episode to my new psychic medium reality show here on YouTube. Thank you Teal for this video. You rock!

[johnm]

The power of NO is powerful
I have little respect for a person who keeps saying yes
I have great respect for a person who says NO
People who say no, know where their going in life

[Ale]

This relates so much to my life at the moment that I nearly cried while listening to your words. I felt the freedom on my skin, thank you.

[zabelicious]

I say no all the time and never ever feel bad about it. Knowing how to say no (without lying) is a very important part of it. Sadly, most people don't understand the concept of dispositions. If you need to rest or don't feel like doing it, just say so. It is easier to say that you are not available or perhaps low in the energy department then lying about it. You can always say maybe next time or take a rain check. Your health should always come first no matter what. Mental health included

[sisteryaya]

This is so important.  Thank you Teal.

[melonsoda]

I listened to a loved one complain about something she did not want to do the other day, and I encouraged her to say no. Today, she told me she was "unable to say no." I've told her that I will no longer listen to her complain because she has made her choice.

[lightconnection]

so honnest so real and so wise are youre words...

[MissTiescha]

I am moved to tears right now, thank you so much for sharing these tipps! Very helpful and important :-) Greetings from Germany, Andrea.

[lynndan]

Teal Scott has THE best videos... for everything you maybe encountering!!
I am a YES person, so this is very helpful!

[nushinselseleh]

I been seeing teal swan's videos the past 3 months that o changed my life.. she helps me so much.. today i was almost puahed to do something u didnt want to do.. but i was worried if i didn't do it.. would the universe will get mad at me?.. so i did it.. and cost me some anger and unconfortable feelings i had towards that.. so i was chicking ur videos and starting seeing this one.. and now i understand that is ok to say no in order to do what i feel is better for my soul. Thank you so much I feel much better now that I understand.. ❤

[tusharkapur]

For a few years now i have struggled wid the complexity of saying yes and no. i cannot thank you enough how each video i watch at random its like perfect timing! the emotions i struggled wid till now i was soo confused and angry, and i could not get over the past. i tried forgetting ang forgiving but the anger never faded. THANK YOU for all that you are and you do Teal. You truly (quoting the late great MJ) HEAL THE WORLD.

[ekonexus]

I so needed to hear this. I've been realizing how going along with things out of fear isn't serving my soul purpose. Thank you. <3

[shilohloves]

I cannot believe how timely I viewed this video. I've heard it said that "when the student is willing the teacher appears". So at a place of being overwhelmed with pressure to say "yes" I have heard words here telling to examine my automatic responses vs my needs. Thank You! Thank You! for these wise words. MUCH appreciated!

[SonOfTheMorning]

I'm so happy to have found Teal Swan. I can't even begin to say how much shes helped me heal and continue to heal. Any time a friend of mine has an issue they're are dealing with I'll send them a Teal Swan vid!

[sunstarsmoon]

Beautiful message! I have been verrrry guilty of that and have found your words to be true. The more I took care of myself the better my life has become!

[monzaseals]

Thank you Teal I have all of these symptoms I have been ready for change but did not know were to start thank you for blessing me and others may God bless and prosper your work you make understanding things so simple.

[ivanamarsic]

thx Teal, I especially love the idea of saying no not from the place of the resentment, but from the place of allowing something better for our selves.