How to Say No (Without Making Everyone Angry)

I think people are sometimes confused about how to politely reject something.

They either avoid the awkwardness by agreeing to things they dislike

OR they give a very firm NO that creates more resentment and anger than it needed.

There are many ways you can handle these situations. This is just how I approach it.

Hope it helps! Timestamps coming soon.

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[Yanex]

i always tell my self. If they do not accept "no" then it wasn't a question. It was a demand.

[yastraw]

I said no and they got angry but I missed the part where thats my problem

[thesmething]

On the "without making people angry" part I just wanna say that there will be people out there who will get angry no matter how nicely you phrase your no. It is unavoidable and it is NOT your problem ❤ Be polite (within reason) but stick with your no.
I used to be really scared of saying no, and I think as a result I had built a lot of friendships where the people I interacted with didn't expect me to set boundaries and would get offended no matter how I did it. My advice for these times is to stick to your guns through this rather annoying transition period and you'll find that the friendships you keep are the ones where they respect your decisions. Trust me, the others aren't good for you and whilst it may hurt initially you'll feel so much lighter in no time. Not to mention that after learning to set boundaries I became confident enough to form new friendships where mutual respect was a given from the start :)

[TheFrogEnjoyer]

This guy is the most wholesome person on YouTube

[FocusedLucas]

If I had a podcast, I would definitely invite you bro, and if you said "no" I would only cry a little now... Jk but honestly this is great advice, saying "No" can be one of the most difficult things to do and this video helps.

[sigh]

My parents didn’t teach me to set healthy boundaries for myself. They constantly invaded my privacy as a person. When I tried to draw any kind of boundaries, I would be attacked and guilt tripped.
So now as an adult… I don’t know how to say no in a nice/normal way.
Even so much so… that I don’t know how to ask for things. I even am guilty of over stepping boundaries. My parents never held up their own boundaries… so it’s like I never learned when to notice that I was being TOO much

[Mrs.WyldRice]

I’ve been a yes person my whole life, I can tell you first hand how burnt out I was.
It was my doctor who told me “you know, it IS ok to say no. Sometimes saying no, is saying yes to yourself” That one statement really helped me stand up for myself and not be taken advantage of anymore.

[sophtware_slump]

You know, this is one of the most important skills that one can learn. I've had my share of difficulties with this very conundrum because of the fear that people might hate me for saying 'No' to their faces. But sometimes you feel like you've become a total sucker for doing every errand they ask you to do.

[davidborger]

Longer videos are NOT a waste of time, they're very much enjoyable. Feels like a conversation despite only one side talking

[docroc]

"The more we try to hide from the truth, the harder things get and the more complicated things get." This is highly accurate!

[docroc]

"What is the truth and why am I trying to hide this from them?" This is an amazing self reflection question! Thank you!!!

[SavioToms]

I always used to say sorry when I did something unknowingly and my mom was like "STOP SAYING THAT" lol and now that I am closer to attending college and stuff I shouldn't be the guy who keeps saying sorry for something they can't control lol, i will definitely watch this video once I am free thanks a lot!

[lemmings]

I learned how to say no after being sexually abused as a child for years. It was a journey but life is so much nicer when my time is not 80% occupied with the needs of other people

[anastasia_w]

Love your videos, thank you for doing them! Saying "no" can be really scary sometimes. Every evening I go to the center of my city to say "no" to the president starting a war, and I see people around me being beaten and arrested for doing the same. And you know what? Dearing to say "no" is the most liberating thing even if you go to the jail afterwards. Learning to say "no" when it is safe but a little bit scary gives people the power to choose the life they want to live, to make that life possible. Say "no" to everyshit in the world, guys! Peace to everyone!

[rosimoone]

my general rule (as a woman specifically for when i’m approached by sketchy people, especially men) is LIE. I lie about everything when it’s sketchy strangers. Name, age, where I’m going, that I’m engaged, where I work. If you feel you’re in danger by someone you don’t owe them anything including the truth.

[chrisrosencrans]

Learning to say "no" without an explanation is liberating.

[sarahkrueck]

Just thank you Hampton. I have struggled with this for a long time and am getting better at it as life goes on, but it's something I continue to actively address. More attention definitely needed to be brought to this issue. Thanks again and love your content!

[JohnBradford]

One of my biggest regrets in life is declining a relationship opportunity from a girl in high-school whom I really didn't have any real reason to say no to. She even gave me a stuffed panda as a gift, which I still have nearly two decades later. I don't even remember her name. I hope she's found someone since then is and is doing alright.

[MadAudi]

So true. Saying “no” is hard. It gets easier when you realize the consequences of not being clear upfront can hurt others far worse than simply saying “no”.

However … I try not to be rude or cruel in the saying. Sometimes tho…. You have to be short and not give excuses or be defensive. Depends on the circumstances.