All narcissistic men have a big mother wound #narcissism

[VanessaWills-uf]

He wants another mother, constantly comparing me to his mother!
So tired of this-

[avicennitegh]

You're awesome - great analysis. The mother is always the elephant in the room.

[nancyhjort]

One day I asked my (then) narcissist husband, who blamed me for everything wrong, discarded me, cheated on me...." Do you think that I'm your mother?" He violently screamed YES in my face, with his neck stretched out and his veins popping. His mom had "loved" me, until we got married, then she started attacking me, done best with the element of surprise and a family audience present. Oh, just wait for hell when I discarded them. It is a very high price tag, but worth a quiet home and personal peace and prosperity.

[cherylberk]

Absolutely correct. My ex husband's mother died when he was 13, 27 years before we met. In business he acted like an adult, but privately he was a teenage brat, demanding, self centered, never satisfied, critical, etc. On our honeymoon he threw a fit bcs I hung up his trousers " unsatisfactorily, " His older siblings were very nice. After the divorce, I had enough space to realize he had Mama Trauma but it was way too late. I was not, or would ever, be, his mother. Thanks for another great explanation.

[itchocolateforever]

This is so true!! Just ended my 17 year relationship with a narcissist. Thank God I made it out!!!

[ChavoMysterio]

I also feel that all male narcissists were raised in single mother households as well as households consisting of an overbearing mother and an absent or weak father.

[charmee]

they do want a mother, I used to tuck him in at night which he loved, you become their mother and then they go looking for a lover.

[annettejohnson]

He liked to call me a "ho" all the time, even though I wasn't. I found a list one day, my name and a couple of his ex's names, was on this list. It was a list of all the women he had been with. 77! 77 I had been with 4!!!! 4 before him! Im 58 and thats it! 5 men my whole life! I said, how dare you call me that! EVERYTHING nasty you call me is you!!! Not me!!!! You can't stand

[ValerieRoberts-uvkf]

My husband never speaks of his mother. That's how I know he had a bad relationship with her. She had already passed when we met. I've told him many times I'm not his mother. Based on our marriage, you are so right ❤

[coralmccrystal]

I've never heard of this before, but my narcissistic father and my narcissistic husband both had mother issues so I recognise it now you point it out.

[NoliesonLysatya]

We inherit a defective toy from the manufacturer (the mum) and spend years trying to fix it, getting injured repeatedly in the process.

[Queen-bdnz]

We were talking and I pointed out his passive aggressiveness and how it was not fair to expect someone to be a mind reader and he kept saying "show me how it's done" and I said I am not your mother. Ask your therapist to teach you how it's done. That was one of our last discussions.

[N.O.W.]

The accuracy 😢... thanks Danish for the video 📹.

[BikeLife]

Right on. His mother is a piece of work. The entire family bows to her. She tried to "love bomb" me, saying i was the daughter she never had, how wonderful it is to have another female in the house, we'd go shopping and to lunch together. That was a 180 from how I grew up with my controlling, abusive narcissistic mother. Until... I tried to put up personal boundaries. Then things quickly went downhill and she got nasty. Instead of going into a confrontation herself, she would sick her husband like a dog on anyone who crossed her, to verbally and emotionally annihilate that person. And yet, my ex would still bow to her and put her ahead of me, his wife. And treat me like a slave. Danish is 1000% on point.

[sweetlynn]

I could never understand this odd relationship between narcs and their moms

[TeaRose]

So true. Most don’t want to acknowledge it whatsoever.

[jellybean]

Yes and yes. My partner told me that I was criticizing him when I was just standing up for myself. He said his mother use to criticize him. So yeah. I’m paying for the sins of his relationship with his mom.

[maryw]

I am sure this is right I see this patterns in families where the mother is cold aloof detached from her children I am tired of this behavior you validated it as I had untangled it years years ago thank you dana❤

[DH-tpit]

My deceased ex said to me all the time when I was trying to help them out “Leave me alone I don’t need a mother.” Wth? He then said he truly hated women. So glad I got rid of him. 20 years of insanity. He passed away from drug addiction this year. Oh well.

[deedoyle]

This might be hard to believe but it's happened to me. He got very drunk one night & we argued... he ended up with fists high in the air and shouted at me: "BUT YOU A*R*E MY MOTHER!!!"
That't still a shocker to me since we were both in our 70s at that time.