Break Time: How to not invite your parents to your wedding

Alyssa Pearce style…

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Whenever I hear "Don't air out the dirty laundry", I instead hear "Keep quiet about us abusing you so we don't have to face the consequences of our actions".

[Stardusted]

I’m thinking the parents lucked out there!

[PhoenixBennu]

I find it funny that she posted it online. This was a lashing out in order to conceal pain and to attempt to forcefully put some sort of closure on some of it, or at least to put up a wall to prevent being hurt.

There are many ways to look at it, but only because we all put our own supplant our own feelings onto it. We all put ourselves in her shoes and think that if we had sent that letter what would our intentions have been. However, this is a misleading a way to look at it, because her intentions and feelings behind it most likely differ from each of our own.

As someone who has experienced what she has gone through, and who did run away from home while I was still in High School, it is tempting to cut off all ties with family like this. Ive struggled to maintain a civil relationship with my mom and my stepdad over the years, and there are times Ive wanted to say similar things.

Posting it online is also something we can simply ask ourselves "what would I have done" because it does not really apply. Only she knows her true intentions. We can determine whether we find it appropriate or not based on our own morals and viewpoints, but we really only speak for ourselves in that regard. Though, there can be said the be a moral or philosophical absolute that is independent of person belief, and I believe there is surely more to it than personal interpretation, however, I just do not know if we are capable of fully determining that at this time. However, from my personal viewpoint, I would have to say that putting it online was her looking for support. As I said, this was an aggressive action masking an attempt at healing. By putting it online she is further solidifying and asking for support and assurance from a community of people whose opinions she valued to some degree. It is also an attempt to marginalize her parents. by posting it online, she is taking out any inherently sacred value from it, and treating it like she would if she was writing to tell off a stranger. This treatment not only helps to downplay, to her, her parent's involvement in her life, but also acts as an additional aggressive movement to do more damage to her parents as a means of healing. A sort of, you hurt me so I hurt you and then I laugh while the internet laughs at you., kinda thing