Do Narcissists set out to hurt people on purpose? | The Narcissists' Code Ep 585

Do Narcissists set out to hurt people on purpose?

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[bigboislg]

It's not love, it's infatuation. They're obsessed with a person until they're not anymore.

[anonymoususer]

They want to hurt, harm, terrorize, and destroy their targets. They are sadistic.

[debbieramsey]

A narcissist is a evil monster. Hurt doesn't even come near to what a narcissist does to you.

[GreeneChakra]

In my Opinion, Deep inside of a Narcissists Cold Heart, is the Deep Desire to make you Hurt MORE.

[GothicVioletVixen]

It almost seems like hurting someone is an easy trap to fall into for a narc. They naturally take note of weaknesses. When they shut down, they use the info to lash out. It seems like a control thing. When they cannot control themselves, they will control you instead.

[WhatTheFk]

I was a naive & sheltered kid, couldn’t date in high school & had a curfew as a college student. Met a guy who KNEW I was “green” & used it 1000% to his advantage. Proposed, made me feel like the luckiest girl in the WORLD! Set a date & weeks b-4 the wedding, he said “sorry, I can’t do it” & was GONE! I was duped & it was ALL a game to him. I was emotionally, mentally, physically & financially DESTROYED! I ended up in the ER as I could NOT take the pain - it took a toll on my body & soul. My health & job security were at risk as I couldn’t function. 25 years later, I still bear the scars of him purposely setting out to destroy my life. I’ve moved forward, but you never forget the pain & shame they purposely inflicted. You go from an “innocent” outgoing person, thinking everyone is good (has your best interest at heart), to a wounded & untrusting introvert. I’m a firm believer that Satan exist - I met him…he came into my life to steal, kill & destroy! 12/20/22 @ 2:13P.

[Foxfire]

This is exactly what happened between me and my ex. The moment he saw I was a real person with real life problems, he shut down and was in and out of the relationship over and over again. He started contacting other women on social media, etc. I never had solid proof he was doing this but I knew he was by his behavior. He’s with someone else now. I feel sorry for her.

[sylviacrout]

Anytime I ever tried to tell my narc husband how he was making me feel, I was told my feelings didn’t matter or “that’s your problem!”

[skyinverted]

Yes I agree with this. I do believe if they think you are trying to hurt them on purpose they do try to hurt you on purpose. He used to always say "why are you lying to me? You don't love me." I tried my hardest to prove that I really did love him and still wish him the best today even though he wishes me the worst.

It wasn't that way in the beginning though. It hurts my heart to think he probably really did love me at first, to the best of his ability. It's just too bad that he would let his thoughts run away with him and ended up losing someone that really did/ does love him.

[bduodwj]

When you get narcissistic rage. Run and don’t look back. The rage will get worse. Actually leave at the first sign of toxicity. Different than imperfections. They show who they are. Repeat patterns of their behavior. Don’t keep take them back. It will get worse each and every time. Love isn’t chaotic.

[thenorthface]

I’ve dealt with some deeply narcissistic people that were a sociopath and psychopath. I loved them deeply from the bottom of my heart and they discarded me as if I was absolutely nothing and they have zero remorse. I was discarded and cheated on a month after my wedding and my husband told me our wedding day was just another day and our wedding vows meant nothing while he was sleeping with another woman to bring him instant gratification. Even if he was trying to hurt me so I’d never take him back, how malicious can you possibly be destroying someone’s soul.

[peachesjeter]

Do narcissists set out to hurt you on purpose YES 😆

[Slimnbonez]

The self aware narcissist I dated had a plan. I actually heard him say under his breath “I can’t wait to spend all your money “ he didn’t realize I heard. When I repeated the phrase back to him, he thought I was a mind reader. 🙄

[aleacejordan]

It’s a cycle 🔁 it’s a vicious one at that . They aren’t happy with themselves or their lives and they feed off their ego ! So they use you for that purpose. They don’t love ❤️ to me at all, bc as soon as something goes wrong 😑 you’re the villain 🦹‍♀️! Then they all the sudden they don’t love u. Biggest hypocrites known to earth .

[LaniSnowTheLeenieBeenie]

Honestly dude you’re awesome for making these videos. We need more people in the world talking about this stuff.

[flutterbybird]

No disrespect, but what I've been through from my estranged husband, even if I know that a narcissistic person is telling the truth... I don't believe a word they say.

[greylizard]

I would say that Lee's point of view is more from the perspective of the "covert / vulnerable" narcissist. There are definitely narcissists who are very cruel and enjoy making someone suffer, especially if that person has done them wrong from the narcissist's point of view. Even if the narcissist is simply jealous of someone else, I have seen them set a goal to do some kind of damage to that person that has done nothing directly to the narcissist. Unless that is just straight up psychopathy.

[stephanie]

Hey Lee, I just wanted to say People Really Need To Study What The Jezebel spirit Truly Means! I Guarantee When They Find Out You All Will Be Surprised! It doesn’t mean what people say… it’s a whole notha’ level man! Have a great day with family and thanks for teaching & reaching me so I could break free and have been for over a year! I’ve learned to study patterns and heart while dating cuz I am a super empath and narcissist are definitely attracted because of my giving & nurturing heart and habits. Thank you 🙏

[mikehinson]

Man I just found you and love your content. You are so on point with my ex wife. Biggest problem is we have kids. I have been no contact since 2019 when she took my kids to a rape clinic, of course I was the accused. 🤮. Since then I have got full custody of my daughter for 3 years and son 50/5O.
RESPECT FROM NC👍🏽

[anneyoung]

I'm glad you said it, malignants actually do set out to hurt and sometimes to destroy you.