Signs You're Afraid of Intimacy

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shot by Eric Lombart

make ups by Caitlyn Brisbin

produced by Reed Hedani

grip - Melissa Gasca, John Lee, Megan Pham

sound - John Lee

edited by Zac Surprenant

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[yayarivera]

“Stop sabotaging your love life” I sabotage my entire life

[CTProjct]

Anna - paying for therapy, so we don't have to 😂

[me]

“The Buddhists say if you meet somebody and your heart pounds, your hands shake, your knees go weak, that’s not the one. When you meet your ‘soul mate’ you’ll feel calm. No anxiety, no agitation.”

[thedifferent]

I'm so afraid of dating, I actually panic whenever someone expresses interest in me.

[gamania]

You are in love with the idea of being in love, not love.

[lalaumaaa]

i always feel uncomfortable when someone compliments me as if i don't deserve it but yeah this is it this is why

[baekhyunschopsticks]

1:26
Anna: “this stems from...”
Me: Childhood Trauma!
Anna: “Lack of self-worth!”
🙃

[clashsmchitcle]

I like someone and once they like me back i dont like them anymore

[anonymousmeraki]

anna is the therapist, life coach, and dating coach i can't afford.

[sghost]

“If I’m not suffering I must not be in love.”

I’m glad we are on the same page.

[willbyers_clizzy]

"feeling bored when the other person does everything right" I feel very attacked

[ladysnake]

The smartest choice to ever make when it comes to relationships, have a friendship FIRST!

[chrisjfox]

The kinda girl that likes a guy until she finds out that he likes her too.

[LordBloodraven]

My sister's first good boyfriend was a classmate named Elliot and he was *perfect.* My parents saw it. Her friends saw it. I saw it (and as a younger brother, I should have been to sabotage him).

When she broke up with him, he didn't get mad or clingy. He said "I hope you fall in love with someone who sees you for the incredible woman you are."

I base my relationship decisions on this question: "What would Elliot think if I did this?"

[bima]

this person text me goodmornings and say nice things to me, admitted that he was flirting with me, and i was like 'hold on, okay, but this is too much...'

i think im afraid of intimacy too

[loquaciousvi]

this is where I struggle - I used to think there needed to be a spark on the first date, then I tried "well, maybe it takes time to build chemistry" and subsequently went on 2-3 really tedious dates following the first one. And now I have no idea. My current baseline is I need to look forward to a date with someone *at least* as much as I'd look forward to hanging out with a platonic friend.

[ianmortensen]

I'm afraid of intimacy because I'm 23 and have never had a relationship, and I feel like I'm the only clueless one when everybody else at least kinda knows what they're doing.

[zaptolite]

You made me self aware of how i can sometimes be weirded out by love so thank you

[hungming]

Pain, abandonment, longing, tension and anxiety. Got that. Thanks.

[Rosalindxxxxxx]

what if you have been working on self worth and compassion so much so that you came to love yourself and find your worth, you feel comfortable alone and ready to date, but as soon as you go and meet someone and they show interest you get turned off? I know I deserve to be loved, but I still am uncomfortable with intimacy. HELP. I had a massive crush on this guy and he was unavailable. Now he showed interest and I'm like "boy, bye."