5 Signs You're Afraid of Falling In Love

Are you afraid of falling in love and you are not sure why? In this video, we share some of the common signs that you are afraid of falling in love. When you're self aware, you can start changing.

#love #relationship #dating

Researcher/writer: Syazwana Amirah
Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

1:45 Actions/Intentions
2:48 Overly Critical
3:36 Detached
4:16 Second Guessing
4:50 Secretive

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[Psychgo]

We also made videos about bad habits few days ago too, did you get a chance to watch them?

[lonewolfnergiganos]

It's hard to fall in love when you are extremely anxious to think that the person who claims that they love you is just putting up a front when they are actually lying to you.

[FaolanHart]

I'm not afraid of love.
I'm afraid of loving the wrong kind of person.
Love blinds us, makes us accept things a logical mind wouldn't.
& there are plenty of people out there who will gladly take advantage of that.
You can lose a lot more than just a partner if you fall for the wrong person.

[PrinceZayy_]

I don’t think I’m afraid of falling in love; I don’t even recognize it when I see it, because I’ve never seen it really happen in my life.

[AC-nigt]

For me: I'm not terrified of love. I'm more of terrified of being hurt by the one I love. As a result, few of the signs are relatable. I never know when I'll find someone.

That's if my stupid fear can stop being that way.... Not as a first step but more of an interference.

[admirbarucija]

I’m very afraid of love. Can’t stand the thought of any more hurt or disappointment

[Marlon_]

1:45 Actions/Intentions
2:48 Overly Critical
3:36 Detached
4:16 Second Guessing
4:50 Secretive

[GlyphxAstraea]

I've never really let myself fall in love. I always wanted to do what adults around me seemed to be saying: prepare for your future. So I never made time to be social: it seemed natural for an introvert like me, so I wasn't too worried at the time. But I did develop big feelings for someone, just for them to use me as their emotional safety net. And that future I prepared for never came: I missed out on relationships for nothing.
I'm not bitter anymore, but love for me at this point in my adult life feels like a fiction, something that I can dream about but never really experience. Almost 30 and never been in a relationship, never really loved. I wish, but I do not will.
Hopefully I meet someone that makes the risk seem worth it.

[UhKimboze]

1. Philophobia - an excessive fear of falling in love
2. Actions ≠ intentions
3. Overly critical
4. Second guessing
5. Secretive

[jwanie]

I've usually been afraid to admit my feelings for someone I like, out of fear that those feelings won't be reciprocated. But I also suffered from a low confidence issue back then and am slowly building it back up. Hopefully my confidence boost can help me find the right partner!

[MixTheMetal]

I have not been someones first choice as a romantic partner in over 10 years. I am always a plan B, and they always cheat / leave for someone else even when it gets going.
Its not worth it anymore. Spending time and money with my friends and family with 0 romantic distractions for years is the best decision ive made.

[TDUShelby]

One of the most eye-opening things I ever read was a text from a friend that said to me, "Your level of self-loathing is astounding."
It's difficult for me to even imagine someone actually loving ALL of me, not just as a friend. Likewise, I abhor the idea of using someone for my own benefit, so I feel like I need to fully self-improve before I can allow myself to even begin the pursuit. Once that happens, where's the line between expectations and reality?
I don't want much. Someone with shared core values, who shares similar interests, and shared fascination in what the other has to say.
Show me a woman I can live for, and I'll show you how far a man will go to make a life worth living.

[KiallVunMyeret]

"Isn't it better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all?"
In todays age, i honestly can't say it is anymore tbh

[ginnungagapabyss]

I'm just somebody who finds alone time/isolation far more peaceful, and honestly, I've never had the desire to form relationships, I've always rejected women who asked me out.

[alvarosamaniego]

I'm afraid of falling in love because I've never being loved.
I no longer even try anymore, the last time I tried I was the best version of myself, I was even a little proud of what I've had become, and yet, I wasn't enough, that was like a year and a half ago, and still haunts me that "I will never be enough" thought

[flamegamer]

In this day in age, it’s hard for me fall in love. I’m kinda afraid because I’ve been turned down by a lot girls in the past and they don’t want to see the real me. I feel that the pattern is going to repeat every time when I like someone new. I hope I can overcome that fear someday and find someone who will know me truly.

[theeFBI]

I struggle with thought of getting into a relationship with someone. I desperately want that connection and everything that comes with it, but I can't stop worrying.

Whether it be the worry that the person might be crazy and i miss the redflags because I latch on to the attention and the feelings, and then they ruin my life one way or another (I had a friend who broke up with his toxic girlfriend, and she threatend to accuse him of assaulting and sexually abusing her)

Or I simply end up not as happy as I thought i would be in a relationship, and end up dragging them down with me. The last thing I'd want to do is get into a relationship with someone who truly loves and cares for me, only for me to not be able to reciprocate properly because of my depression.

[Peter-rnbu]

Communicate feelings and intentions to important people about important things. Don't rush love, build a strong and trusting relationship. And be level headed. You want to find love, not someone you see idealised through rose-tinted glasses.

However, I think it's good to not be love-averse. Forming a beautiful relationship doesn't have to come with a high cost. Don't avoid being in the presence of people you are attracted to. Love, care, connect, be inspired.

Loss of a loved one whether because it didn't make sense for them to stay, or because you happened to find out so many things which were deal-breakers, doesn't rid the fact that you were able to have beautiful interactions and was positively influenced by their actions in the past. Just be aware that it may not last, for whatever reason, and let go of things which you don't have a choice but to let go.

A relationship not developing in the way you hope or imagine doesn't rid the relationship you've built until now. Work on maintaining healthy and positive connections. More positive means more worth your effort to maintain relations. Some relationships are not worth as much time and effort, I do hope this doesn't become apparent after finding out someone was lying about themselves and their intentions, but this is why building trust and understanding is so important. For feeling assured and trusting of the relationship, but also to just feel closer and more connected too.

[HeadsmartMc]

I had a crush on one of my best friends and it was a train wreck. I very attached so it hurt so bad and it still does a little bit. Sadly I lost that close friendship with her. I see her everyday but it hurts to look. I distanced myself for a while and it definitely helped with feelings. We talk again but not like before. I miss that awsome friendship. I’m scared of love now cause I don’t want to loose that connection like I’ve done literally every time. It’s gonna be really hard, so I just try to be kind to my friends now and treat them lovingly the way they deserve. That’s what friends are for right?

[T.Alexis]

OMG!!! My childhood was exactly as described in this video! 😫🥺Depressed and anxious mother and an emotionally distant relationship with dad (due to his drug addiction) And I can relate to all these signs as I navigate this new relationship I'm in. 🤯