7 Reasons Why We Avoid Intimacy

Are you afraid of intimacy? Do you find it difficult to get close to people? If you answered yes to either of these questions, you may be suffering from a fear of intimacy. In this video, we're going to discuss the reasons why people may avoid intimacy and how you can overcome that fear.

By understanding why you're afraid of intimacy, you can learn to overcome that fear and start enjoying relationships again. We'll discuss the different types of fears and how to deal with them. In the end, this video will help you to overcome your fear of intimacy and start enjoying relationships again!

DISCLAIMER: This video is made for educational purposes and may discuss highly sensitive discussion. Feel free to skip to the part as advised in the video.

Writer: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Micoflores
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

[ampisthebest]

I don't like being here before the people who do the timestamps

[thedetective]

0:43 Rejection and Engulfment
1:32 Fear of abandonment
2:20 Avoidant personality disorder
3:05 Childhood sexual abuse
3:44 Previous abuse
4:43 Parental neglect
5:49 Separation and overdependence

[jaughnekow]

I don't avoid intimacy, I just don't wanna weird her out or make her feel uncomfortable.

Edit: I have genuine feelings towards someone and I dunno what to do about it. I hate myself for having emotions.

[DrawsJanella]

Communication is key.

See, that's the thing. No one wants to communicate anymore. We'd rather just pull away and avoid talking about what's bothering us.

[davidvashum]

1.Rejection and engulfment
2.Fear of abandonment
3.Avoidant personality disorder
4.Childhood sexual abuse
5.Previous abuse
6.Parential negligence (Fearful Avoidant Attachment)
7.Separation and overdependence

[ORProductionss]

0:43 1. Rejected And Engulfment
1:31 2. Fear Of Abandonment
2:19 3. Avoident Personality Disorder
3:10 4. Childhood Sexual Abuse
3:44 5. Previous Abuse
4:42 6. Parental Neglect
5:49 7. Separation And Over Dependence

[Carolina]

1-. Rejection and engulfment (00:43)
2-. Fear of abandonment (01:30)
3-. Avoidant personality disorder (02:19)
4-. Childhood SA (03:10)
5-. Previous abuse (03:44)
6-. Parental neglect (04:42)
7-. Separation and overdependence (05:49)

[bluebee]

0:45 Rejectiion and engulfment.
1:32 Fear of abandonment.
2:19 Avoidant personality disorder.
3:10 Childhood SA.
3:44 Previous abuse.
4:43 Parental neglect.
5:49 Separation and overdependence.

[khalilahd.]

It’s sad to see so many people relate to these points (including myself) but I truly hope being aware of it is enough for people to want to try and change those behaviors. That’s what I’m going to try and do ❤

[BCSchmerker]

+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the list of contraindications for intimacy:*

0:42 (1) Rejection and/or engulfment
1:31 (2) Fear of abandonment
2:19 (3) Avoidant personality
3:09 (4) Sexual abuse in childhood
3:44 (5) Previous abuse
4:42 (6) Parental neglect
5:48 (7) Separation and overdependency

[reverie]

0:43 - rejection and engulfment
1:31 - fear of abandonment
2:19 - avoidant personality disorder
3:10 - TW; childhood s**ual ab*se
3:43 - TW; previous ab*se
4:42 - parental neglect
5:48 - separation and over dependence

hopefully i got all the points right… anyways have a great dayy 💗💗

[Lianna_Is_Me]

1. Fear of rejection
2. Fear of abandonmemt
3. Avoident personality disorder
4. Childhood sexual abuse
5. Previous abuse
6. Parental neglect
7. Separation and overdependance


Ngl I have some of these and Insecure of my kinks and thinking they will abandon or laugh at me

[jayymorris]

When you hit me with the "Is extremely avoidant to intimacy but is simultaneously craving it", I damn near spat out my drink. That was such a stellar explanation of how ill have been feeling in closer friendships

[shaadekun]

all this is me. im an avoidant, i crave intimacy but i avoid it completely. i had such a lovely partner and i never questioned their love for me, yet i was still so afraid of being dumped, or lied to. I had trouble trusting, even though they deserved all my trust. it ruined our relationship and they fell in love with their friend a few months in, but didn’t tell me til much later (december 2022) and i was so heartbroken i stopped taking care of myself. I haven’t spoken to him in a month and I feel so lonely, and so much regret and guilt. i wish i saw these videos before we began dating

[KayLee-xzkg]

I was just telling my friends today that I'm afraid I'll never have a romantic relationship bc of my disorganized attachment and fears regarding vulnerability. I grew up with parents who were verbally abusive and emotionally neglectful, leading me to believe as an adult that I am not allowed to have needs and be comforted.
Yet, I crave that closeness and comfort in a partner. I don't have a very close relationship with my parents anymore, and tend to rely most on three friends, two I've known since elementary school, and one I met my freshman year of college 3 years ago. But even then, I don't even rely on them emotionally that often, bc even platonic emotional intimacy is hard for me.

[andrewm.]

I know both my parents have extreme trauma from their youth, and it has affected the way they were able to bond with me. Growing up I was kind of resentful of them because I didn't understand that they tried to protect me from themselves.
Now as an adult, even though I struggle with an extreme fear of intimacy, I realize that they are just people too. They tried their best to not be the way that their parents were, but trauma tends to come out under stress and push through our filters. I no longer blame them, and I am doing my best to push past those barriers intentionally, even when it feels unbearable. Growing is hard...

[smogged]

0:43 Rejection and Engulfment
1:31 Fear of Abandonment
2:19 Avoidant Personality Disorder
3:10 Childhood Sexual Abuse
3:44 Previous Abuse
4:43 Parental Neglect
5:49 Separation and Overdependence

[strawberystar]

it hurts when kids at school say things like “you’re not funny”, “EW”, “I don’t even know you”, or “no one likes you”. Like bro I’m a person too and when they say that kind of thing because you can’t really fight back especially when they’re popular.

[wanderingthoughts]

Summary with timestamps 😄😄

0:43 rejection and engulfment
1:31 fear of abandonment
2:19 avoidant personality disorder
3:07 childhood sexual abuse
3:44 previous abuse
4:42 parental neglect
5:48 seperation and overdependence

[yeqru]

0:43 - Rejection and engulfment
1:31 - Fear of abandonment
2:19 - Avoidant Personality Disorder
3:04 - [Trigger Warning !] - Childhood sexual abuse
3:44 - Previous abuse
4:42 - Parental neglect
5:48 - Separation and overdependence