The Biggest Mistake People Make About Relationship Security

In this video Teal Swan reveals the biggest mistake that people make about relationship security. This mistake can lead directly to relationship hell. Keep watching if you want to know more.

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[annikabirgittanordlander]

”If you don’t want to put in the work of establishing security in your relationships consistently in each interaction with the other person, you are not actually committed to relationships. You are committed to using relationships for something else that you want”. Teal Swan. Thank you Teal 🌎

[resurgam]

The timing, and themes within this video are pretty crazy for me. I know I've spent so many lives dealing with the repercussions of having assumed relationship security, abusing trust, and not treating love as something that always needs (mutual) care and consideration. I'll take this video as a sign that finally the penny has dropped for me, a costly lesson lol. Thank you 💜

[Perception_]

The biggest issue I see in any form of relationship is that most people still don't understand that if you want to impress someone you need to impress *_yourself._* That is what will give you something to share of yourself to whoever you are in relation to. In other words, stop trying to impress other people because that will push them away.
If I want to be liked, I need to like myself first, and that is what others will see and is what will give them a reason to like me for(there's no guarantees in life so all one can do is hope). There's a big difference between trying to be liked by someone, than to focus on oneself and just simply building confidence(something to like oneself for). If we don't know who we are, trying to push ourself onto someone and indirectly forcing them to like us will always end bad. Lots of people will pretend though(which is really tragic) and others will just leave.

It all boils down to that most people have too little knowledge of who they really are, and how can anyone share of him/herself without knowing his/her own true needs.

[jatbatman]

Relationship security is just like any other security. You have to do primary work to set up the infrastructure, but just having a lock, alarm, and cameras doesn't protect your house. If you don't activate the alarm, lock the door, monitor the cameras, and call the police if necessary when you leave the house, you are not securing your house.

Likewise if you don't build trust, make it a point to never betray that trust, be available emotionally, and make the other person feel loved, you are not securing that relationship.

[FrancisTrach]

Everything is relationships, our entire reality consists of relationships . The relationship of course begins our self, but WHO WE ARE is also defined by who we CONNECT with, and the qualify of our life AND the quality of the lives of the people around us definitely DEPEND on relationships . This doesn't mean co dependant and toxic relationships, but it does mean that we are a relational species, and that to be a successful human, and by successful I mean healthy in all areas of our life, where we feel Peaceful, have our needs met, honour ourselves, and others .. In order to achieve this, it requires that we master the RELATIONSHIPS in our life . This is the only way to truly master your life in all areas, is to master your RELATIONSHIPS . Great video Teal ! Thanks for being one of the people that inspires me to also help others on their path as well . Much Love 🙏
- Francis

[xDannyDLx]

Wish I learned more about healthy relationships sooner

[sailyxjupy]

I think the key point here is "Adam" is using relationships to achieve something else. It's not the relationship he actually wants. Narcissism at its finest. Glad I watched this through, Teal.

[sahilingale]

That makes sense, my family is always confused why i dont socialize with them more, and the reason is that i perceive that they might not be supportive when i come out of the closet.

[kimslone]

Relationships are dynamic living entities

[johncox]

We truly are in the emotional dark ages. This is the kind of stuff EVERYONE needs to learn. If all of learned HOW to have good relationships, there would be peace on earth.

[goodhumourman]

Thanks Teal! I recently was forced into leaving a relationship that I wanted to stay in… I was willing to do what it takes to build that security but instead I just got totally rejected. Sadly I think I must have been in denial about some incompatibility, like you say trying to build a sandcastle in the water.

[WithMunchkins]

I'm 43 and surprisingly naive. I recently was married, for the first time. I made a wrong choice. What you mentioned about people being together for a long time, false sense of security, and coping mechanisms - I suppose that may describe the relationship that my husband's parents have. I mistakenly took their long relationship as a token and proof of love, but it looks to have been codependency and manipulation, which seems what my husband understands as healthy, or normal, or what he now follows to be.
I think that if I would have listened to your video before getting married, I would not have understood, would have gone over my head.
But honestly, I wonder who really, honestly is happy in their relationship.
Half of marriages end in divorce, and of the couples remaining married, how many are truly happy and in sync? Honestly?
Well now I'm needing to figure out how to divorce and move on.

[Morale_Booster]

Esther Perel is another amazing resource on this topic if anyone wants more info

[IVICA]

I truly believe that people need to be honest with themselves first and foremost prior to engaging in a relationship!

[heather]

This needs to be shown to all the 15 year old boys who are becoming more and more obsessed w/ ppl like Andrew Tate

[davidbigd]

I agree that you have to constantly work on your relationship security everyday by showing that person how much you mean to them which involves knowing each other’s love languages. Growing up, my whole family was distant and I’ve learned over the last 15yrs of never being in a relationship, that, you need to take the time to truly know the other person in depth and do things every day to make them feel loved and appreciated. Now, as I’m the man I’m supposed to be and know my values, goals and interests, I yearn to put into action what I’ve learned as I’m searching for my future wife to build a family with.

[diroysama]

The idea that you can even have security at all in life is delusional. Anything can happen at any moment in life.

[Morale_Booster]

I love your videos Teal, and it means a lot to me that you included some images of queer couples! 💝 Thanks for this one, I learned a lot.

[kelliel]

I have been in Adam's shoes and now I see better how I played a part in diminishing relationship security.

[Foodloverxx]

Teal gives fairy /goddess energy and I'm here for it 🥰