4 ways to identify narcissists at work

If you recognize an of these behaviors in a coworker you may be dealing with someone with narcissistic personality disorder. Once you have 'figured out' that these are repeated patterns and not isolated or occasional situations you can give yourself some peace of mind.

[hermausmora]

I work with this girl she watches you all day to make one mistake so she can call you out in front of everyone and make herself look smart

[BeautifulManifestations]

The wild thing is that how do managers “not notice” these types of people and why does HR “protect” these people?!

[angelamwatts]

In my experience with narcissists in the professional work place, the first thing that they will do is start violating other people's boundaries. They will do it subtly to see what they can get away with. They target empathic people who are willing to go out of their way to help others. They may call you at an inappropriate hour to complain about something that was done wrong or to simply complain about another coworker. They can come off as very charming and animated and before you know it, you end up being sucked down a rabbit hole to the point where your professional life will become a living nightmare. I went through this with a co-worker and had to block him on my cell phone just to set the boundaries. The level of inappropriateness that he exhibited towards me is embarrassing. I felt so violated. I set strong boundaries, stay to myself and focus solely on my work. I don't take orders from co-workers who I do NOT work for. The best way to deal with them is to set strong boundaries and do not let them cross those boundaries. Learn to assert yourself. Say "no" if it's inappropriate and tell a safe person what is happening if you can. Sometimes you may even have to find another job.

[martaxiaoping]

Ive seen too many horror films and I got scared when I saw the chair turning expecting something scary. Fortunately it was this cool woman.

[cosmic-fortytwo]

There are a lot more than 4 criteria to identify a narcissist. Childish, attention seeking behaviour, inability to handle even the slightest criticism and trap-laying behaviour to put themselves in a position of victimhood are among them.

[FyreSturmOfficial]

I had a narc at EVERY job I ever worked.

[beasaroseco]

All I know is that the work day goes alot better when they CALL OUT. They are a pain in the neck.

[hanabihaku]

I have a colleague who tried to show that she was very kind and helpful. She had been criticising the way I handle my work, and she often said she cared for me so that's why she gave me a lot of 'advice'. She often asked me for help and messaged me about work at night. Thinking that she was a sincere person, I had been helping her until one day, she gave a criticism about me in front of me and my boss. I was so speechless that I couldn't react. After that, I stopped helping her and also ignored her late night messages. I realised that she is a narcissist and have been avoiding her like a plague. Now she started asking another colleague for help.

[sissi]

I've been in touch with the author of "Wolves in sheep's clothing", George Simon. He's got an important message to all shrinks. Not all Narcissists and Sociopaths had bad childhoods and were traumatized. Some of them had great parents. They are just bad people who actually enjoy the pain the cause. George gives the example of a cat, who doesn't play with the mouse and slowly torture it, because it's hungry. I just likes doing it. I think that some people are just really, really bad. Born bad. Evil. And us "normals" need to be educated, so that we don't employ these bastards and let them anywhere near animals or children or decisions involving the environment and nature.

[marciloni]

You would think one that has been abused as a child would want to be a better adult!!

[jimmim]

They absolutely refuse to learn anything or do any work, even with a high executive title.

[nonamenoface]

A malignant narcissists is the work of the devil. I have co-worked with one for several years before I finally had enough of his BS. Constantly critisizing me, putting me down. Then I figured out he felt threatened by me and was jealous. After several arguments I decided enough was enough I could no longer co-work with this person but for the sake of the job I remained civil and spoke trying to keep it all work oriented until be through me under the bus about an incident which had happened. I calmly called him out on it asking why did he do that? (Which was a mistake I know, but I had to) and now he completely blanks me. Using passive agressive tactics every day. I used to let it annoy me but not anymore. I am free from his bullshit and just concentrate on doing my work. All of them traits you mentioned in the video rang so true I could almost swear it was specifically him you were speaking about, great video! 👍

[Jjerichoooo]

The last generation
To all empath and spiritualminded people.

To all those that feel the awakening of the light that brings truth and knowledge, understanding wisdom and insight.

The time has come where we are being targeted by those who have no love and are empty inside. They hate what they can’t be and what they can’t obtain, TRUTH WITHIN.

We have a real spiritual fight on our hands for these Narcissists have no mercy or empathy and want to hurt and destroy us, they do not care about the lies they spin and tell. Learn more about Narcissists and toxic people.

[bambipardis]

They steal your credit.naking up new rules everyday

[weirdalpleasenoticeme]

Thank you for this video. All I could think during the video was "yes, yes, yes, check, check, check". I think its safe to say I'm dealing with a narcissistic coworker.

I have had 2 narcissistic bosses before and for both, I ended up leaving the jobs because the bosses were crossing my boundaries. Both very upsetting experiences.

This time, it is a coworker. I'm feeling ready to fight this fight and get my supervisor/HR involved, be resilient, set firm boundaries, and win this time. Instead of leaving like I had to at my other jobs, I'm staying.

[toneman]

The Narc "objectifies" people plus they have no empathy for others.

[whale]

Thank you for this awesome video that is direct and to the point. I especially loved the point in how narcissists "steal". They plagiarize your ideas, listening to you intently so they can pass it off as their own.

[FruityHachi]

my "best friend" in elementary school stole my favorite pens, and then when i found them in her room she lied, saying those are hers
i knew back then when i was 9 that she was trying to manipulate me and i stuck to my reality, but as i grew older i kinda forgot how to stand up for myself and now i'm learning it again

[kchild]

Omg yes. I was destroyed by a narc boss and have been healing for 4 years. I saw the ingratiating and couldn’t do a thing about it. It was the beginning of my spiritual awakening.

[BeatsMe]

Some people in charge of others become 'drunk with authority'. It is so common in small town style organizations, especially education(paradoxicallly) as to be indemic. It is time those truly responsible were held to account where our children are concerned.