4 social anxiety skills you need to start using now

Learn these 4 skills to feel more confident when you're socially anxious.

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For information purposes only. Does not constitute clinical advice. Consult your local medical authority for advice. The information in this video was accurate as of the upload date, November 11, 2022.

If you or someone you know needs help immediately, you should take one of the following actions:
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[freakahoe]

i have social anxiety and i dont mind complimenting people, my only issue is how to give follow up reponse. 😂

[trappart]

And the other part is you have actually be connected to yourself and genuinely have a good time while having a conversation. Without it people will not stick to you

[MrCOh]

I have absolutely nothing to say.. I can see how awkward I make other people feel. I mirror my anxiety onto them. Ugh it's terrible!

[alexanderaIeV]

Im usually forgetful i see a lot of tips but when i try and use them irl situations they just blur away

[MandanaTamizi]

There is one problem.
I am social anxiety but with my friends I'm really open. And that is the problem, I open to people really easily and they seem like they don't care and it just makes it even more worse.

[nickp]

A lot of it is HOW you say it though. If you’re clearly nervous and not saying anything and then you randomly say “so…what do you do for fun?” And your voice is shaky or it comes off like you’re afraid to speak, it’s gonna make them feel really uncomfortable and now you’re just making your situation worse.

See, in my case, I have the self awareness to know that when I attempt to speak when I’m nervous, it just makes my situation worse because my voice projects fear, anxiousness and low value. This is why I’m mostly quiet in groups, I know that if I speak up I’m gonna isolate myself even more. One on one I’m completely fine, it’s just groups I can’t do, because if you mess up, now everybody knows, and everybody knows that everybody knows that you have low value. So you’ve just tossed yourself down to the bottom of the totem pole.

[Raphails]

Good tips I'll forget them tomorrow 😅

[maiianthe]

This came at a really helpful time, thank you!

[mikasa]

When i see through the comments iam really there is more people like me i want someone who can talk to me about social anxiety it would be better if they have social anxiety

[wvover]

These tips might be good for someone who may just be socially awkward, but for a person like my daighter who has severe anxiety....she wont even go anywhere to be around people, except work, because she has to go to make a living, but she is miserable all day, eats in her car alone to avoid having to be around people... she wont even stop and run into a bathroom if we are out and about, because she is afraid someone will see her and she may have to talk to them or answer a question she may not be able to answer.... she has a severy anxiety aroung the fear of the unknown... annything out of her normal daily routine.... how to you overcome that with just learning how to ask the right questions or say the right things in a social which sje could never get herself to even go to such an event????

[letsallgoforawalk]

I wouldnt call this "getting out of your head". Im very good at doing all those things but I am still in my head because these are all things to continuously balance and more.

[Combatwombat]

As a supervisor it sucks. Gave up on myself for not being strong

[ElemonAdventures]

These are all good, but I don’t know how I’d do any of them when I can’t even say hi or get out any words

[jimoncken]

Also, if I go around all day making others feel good, I end up feeling spent. Especially when it is not reciprocated.

[ThisIsAnInactiveChannel]

In my case, the problem is that pretty much everything I have to say is about me, and when talking to others, I honestly don't think they wanna listen to stuff about me, so the best tip I have to fix this is to listen to what they say and have to say way more, and probably the best way to do this is to think of questions to ask to them and just ask them since it will keep a conversation going. The other problem is that, even though I'm aware of this, I always forget it when talking to others 🙃

[chicago]

Hey everyone. Let's create a chat room for those with social anxiety😊

[jimoncken]

Nice advice, but I frequently get accused of being patronizing and/or phoney when I do that.

[himanshushinde]

But the thing is the colleagues in my office interest don't match my interest so it is very difficult to start convo

[aasaiselvam]

Dear Doc Ali, much gratitude to your generosity 👍❤️
I Noticed anxiety since pandemic, whenever I have dinner, I feel anxious and bloating discomfort, please help me out..

Love from India

[catsozen]

Dr Ali. I'm not sure if this common, but have you had clients who have trouble balancing the converstation equilibrium? These suggestions are good, but it always makes the other person go on and on only about themselves. It never becomes a two way street.
In a relationship, it gets exhausting when the other party tunes out from what you have to say and get interested only when it's about them. Do you have an idea on how to balance the conversational equation? Thank you.