How to Stop Being a People Pleaser (with Amy Wilson, author of 'Happy to Help')

Stop being the default person in your life! Author Amy Wilson shares powerful insights from her new book "Happy to Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser," offering a candid exploration of why women take on too much and how to break free from constant people-pleasing.

In this honest and often hilarious conversation, Amy reveals her journey from being the person who could handle everything - from managing three kids on public transit to working as a personal assistant to someone with no boundaries - to using "no" as a complete sentence. She shares how medical challenges, family dynamics, and even developing vitiligo taught her crucial lessons about letting go of her need to do everything for everyone.

Through personal stories and research-backed insights, Amy dismantles common myths about women's supposed natural multitasking abilities and the pressure to be the ultimate helper. Whether you're struggling with being the default parent, the office problem-solver, or the friend everyone relies on, this discussion offers practical wisdom for reclaiming your time and identity.

Here's where you can find Amy:

Here's where to find more about Amy:
@amywlsn on Instagram
@amywilsonauthor on Tiktok

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ABOUT THE WHAT FRESH HELL PODCAST

When you're a parent, every day brings a "fresh hell" to deal with. In other words, there's always something. Think of us as your funny mom friends who are here to remind you: you're not alone, and it won't always be this hard.

We're Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables, both busy moms of three kids, but with completely different parenting styles. Margaret is laid-back to the max; Amy never met a spreadsheet or an organizational system she didn't like.

In each episode of "What Fresh Hell" we offer lots of laughs, but also practical advice, parenting strategies, and tips to empower you in your role as a mom. We discuss ways to prioritize your own needs, combat stress, and despite the invisible workload we all deal with, find joy amidst the chaos of motherhood.

CHAPTERS:
00:00 - Amy Wilson Introduction
01:00 - Inspiration Behind the Book
02:55 - When No One Offers You Help
05:10 - The Challenges of Multitasking
08:35 - Understanding Shapable Identity
14:32 - Navigating Medical Crises and Expectations
17:17 - Complex Pain Syndrome in Children
21:53 - Coping with Vitiligo
27:15 - Final Thoughts from the Book
28:33 - Practical Solutions for People Pleasers
31:13 - The Martha and Mary Parable
33:46 - The Power of Saying No
37:54 - Understanding Extinction Bursts
40:35 - Amy's Self-Perception Journey
42:45 - Where to Connect with Amy and Find the Book