Stop Being A Low Value Man

Today's topic dives deep into the idea of 'low-value males.' Join us as we dissect this concept, unraveling the myths from the reality. In this video, we scrutinize the misleading aspects of this ideology, shedding light on what's genuine and what's merely misconceived.

Through this discussion, we aim to empower individuals by debunking stereotypes and offering insights on embracing a healthier self-image. Tune in to learn how to break free from societal pressures and foster a more authentic, positive perspective

▼ Timestamps ▼
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00:09 - The low value man isn’t BS
02:04 - Why is the red pill “Manosphere” growing?
05:38 - What makes a man a low value male
08:25 - Where does the shame come from?
10:14 - Exploring dating app statistics
13:55 - How to stop being a low value man
15:50 - Reducing your red pill content
18:18 - Get off dating apps
20:00 - The emergence of third spaces
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[BrianZappia]

I think the problem of the human brain not being designed for a 600:1 rejection to acceptance ratio applies to job applications every bit as much as it does to dating apps.

[SeanLuse]

I had this therapist one time who was very gritty. I remember complaining to him that I didn't date and all my friends did and I didn't know why. He straight up told me, "you aren't particularly good looking and you aren't particularly ugly, you're very average. You're part of a large group, maybe 90% of men, who are average, you aren't unique in that way. So how many women have you asked out?" And I replied.... "well none". And he said, "well, that's your problem". I actually really liked this answer, it put agency over my dilemma in my hands and let me know I didn't have barriers to overcoming my problem except myself.

[suhailballim]

Shocked at how you're always capable to give such clear honest content. A real Gem of a channel

[shmackydoodRon]

Social media did to mental health what smoking did to cardiovascular health.

[Ro]

Exactly my thoughts, "meeting people where they are" is the fundamental way to convey trust and cooperation to the people you're trying to influence. The moment you start invalidating someone's experience is the moment you will be "identified" as an opponent instead of a person that is trying to help and then starts the argument and the other guy goes into defense mode instead of a cooperative communication with the common goal being the solutions to the exact problem.

[oleksandr]

I love this approach to controversial topics like redpill: acknowledging its flaws, but finding something useful in the pile of BS

[Hemings]

Absolutely profound. I love how you talked about how the internet is BIASED towards negativity due to happy people not making content and enjoying life!

[traillesstravelled]

Confidence has to be built on real things, not just mental gymnastics.

[stronkwurks]

I wonder what a healthy functioning society is like

[bobowon]

one thing that frustrates me to no end about the whole red pill community is that many people will rightfully point out the flaws and issues with the red pill community, and then in the same breath belittle men and treat them like crap for listening to it.

People like andrew tate are popular because there are very few alternatives. Feminism gets brought up a lot in these conversations and as a man I find feminist circles extremely hostile feeling because I could literally get run over by a truck and most of the time i'll hear "well somewhere a woman got run over by two trucks", but in the red pill community you get a pat on the back and some sympathy.

Don't want your kids or male friends to fall into the red pill rabbit hole? just treat them nice. listen to their problems.

[morbid.]

I hate "dating economy"... before apps were made you didn't just go on dates, first you met someone, then friendship started then that friendship evolved to this magical moment of dating and relationship. Now 90% of the process is gone, the most important part is eradicated. Dating sucks because it's all fake, make believe.

[chrisbarry]

Dating app rejections are nothing. It's when you go on dates and the person is immediately not interested. My entire life and presence and physical appearance changed due to an injury and now I'm realizing that I had no other value besides appearance

[seiko]

I'm a 30 year old german guy fighting depression, ADHD and many other issues since over 10 years and maybe more and was always alone with it.
Even after seeking therapists, none of them were really able to get in to my thoughts and so I tried learning to somehow "therapy" myself, which is going kinda well, but is often connected to the anxiety of getting schizo and not always being able to think "objectively" without any subjective bias.
Then I found you (through Asmongold :D) and things started to get clearer way faster, 'cause I would say I'm a pretty fast learner if someone explains something logically to me, which your metaphors support really well.

Thank you very very much for your videos and I hope there may never be a negative influence, that succeeds to rob you your kindness. You're helping 100% more than you're aware of.
Good Life, sir. :>

[devankurmitra]

It sucks when your own family does it, and society enforces it through loneliness.

[lordvermintide]

Hard truth is men will always be looked at in some sense for their "value" in terms of what they can do or provide. It's not fair or just or healthy, but it is what it is. As a dude, you just have to value yourself, and remember that anyone who can't love and respect you for who you are and what you have to offer isn't worth your time to begin with. Don't accept the premise and try to appease those people and live up to their standards, because that's a game you will never win.

[iluxa-]

I am 25, single and I spend hours every day playing videogames and watching porn. Yet I live by myself, graduated with honors, have a stable job (and I'm one of a kind specialist at my facility), am very supportive and kind, spend a lot of time with friends and family and so on. What I want to say is - don't be handicaped by your drawbacks. We all have them, and if you focus on them too much - they will destroy your mental health. Focus on what you're good at and be proud of what you've accomplished, yet always strive for more. Could I (or anyone else) be a better person or "have more value"? Of course. Should it be bothering you? No, not at all

[kal]

Brilliant!! My experience is that one of reason's why it takes so long to climb out of the hole you find yourself in, is because 95% of the ropes thrown to you as a vulnerable person, are attached to predatory people waiting to exploit you. Isn't that sad? However, if you can make it out, you will be hella strong. Don't stop trying.

[Atoll-okzm]

One of the best things I ever did was take a sociology class. And I won't claim to remember most of it, but it did teach me one important thing. The "sociological imagination", basically a sociologist must attempt to find and compensate for their personal biases when interpreting data and whatever else.

But what that really means is that you must very carefully consider your perspective. Because more often than not, your perspective is the single most significant factor in how you interpret the world around you. It influences your biases, your beliefs, down to your most core values over the course of your life. And you have to be aware that your perspective is not necessarily in line with the material reality of the situation, nor is it in line with another person's perspective. So you have to step back and try to have a wider more absolute look.

[tandrobinson]

Dr. K, This is an amazing approach. You’re speaking directly to people who have been unknowingly sucked into the Manoverse and using the vocab theyre familiar with. Male loneliness is pervasive and these content loops prey on all of the hurt for their own gain. Stay strong bros, you are all high value! 👑👑👑

[olivierbloemen]

I’ve followed and watched stuff from Joe Rogan and Jordan Peterson and ended up buying one of Peterson’s books. Since engaging with them, first binging it and now sometimes returning to topics I wanted to learn about more I’ve made improvements. I am going to the gym, my outlook on life is much more positive and I’ve become a better brother and son for my family. I’m far from where I want to be but my main goal is achieved: I can see the way ‘up’ again. Things don’t seem as hopeless and I’ve found my value as a person in the little things. What is important to note is that I’ve been in therapy for 8 years between my 18th and 26th birthday, I am turning 30 in April. I was bullied for over 10 years in my school years and considered obese for a lot of my childhood. Though I am still overweight I do my gym exercises at least 25% heavier than I used to, staying at the gym for 1, 25 to 1, 5 hours as compared to 0, 75 hours when I began. Though I have a long way to go, I am getting there. I don’t watch manosphere content as often anymore but sometimes I do return to the above mentioned for a pick-me-up or when I see a striking video title. I am getting better and I feel in control of my progress and I feel good. Thank you for your insight, dr. K. You’re doing great work. Though some of it is not my cup of tea (the buddhist approach) I always like your view on things.