how to stop being jealous & comparing yourself to others and become obsessed with yourself instead.

This is how you stop comparing yourself to others and feeling jealous. In this video we dive into the causes of jealousy, how to overcome envying the success of others, how to beat feeling jealous of other people and how to get rid of FOMO for good. The end of the video includes 10 affirmations and a few tasks you can start using on your healing journey. GOOD LUCK XXX

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[uneedtherapy]

I read a quote that put an end to my cycle of comparing. It went like this: 'Their success is not your loss and their loss is not your success'. Everybody's paths are different and timings are different :))

[avrilpena]

"think of it as a walking Pinterest board, everyone is an inspiration so that you can level up" the best advice I have ever gotten

[atmakhalsa]

“Please don’t ever skip on the self-care because once you get comfortable with neglecting yourself, you also get comfortable with putting people on a pedestal above you—because you have low self-esteem. You get comfortable with living every day in a low vibrational state.” PREACH GIRL PREACH

[__yussra]

One quote I heard that helped me IMMENSELY with comparison and jealousy is that: “Once you compare yourself to them, you already put them above you”.
Once I hear that sentence I’m immediately back to my senses

[nivekkito]

I am a guy, but I love these videos. I've been in denial for so long and I honestly just want to heal, love myself and enjoy this journey. I find Tam and other confident women on yt more inspiring than men who claim themselves "high value" and then only care about repressing their feelings and making money as a way to escape from their own emotional needs

[rosie]

their win isn’t my loss. I am happy for them. I will not waste my precious energy being jealous, instead I will work harder to strive for my happiness ❤

[koshka]

<3 AFFS:
1. I release jealousy and welcome positive energy
2. I am safe, secure and confident enough in myself that nobody else could ever feel like a threat to me
3. I release the need to validate my worth through the comparison or competition of others
4. I only compare myself to who I was yesterday
5. My confidence grows stronger and stronger every single day
6. Other peoples success does not symbolize my lack
7. I am SO thankful for everything i have in my life
8. I am SO lucky to live my current lifestyle
9. Everything i want is already on its way to me
10. I am abundant in all areas of my life
11. I am not diminished by the success and happiness of others
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GOOD LUCK EVERYONE !!!!

[emilka]

The quote that changed my mindset was "Don't compare your beginings to someone's else's middle"

[arisantosz]

I’ve always been insecure since my teenage years, so this group of “mean girls” were always bullying me, I spent years of my life wanting to be like them, trying to make them like me.
So now as I’m 23, I recently graduated on university of london (outside my country, im originally from Brazil), and is quite a big achievement. And one of those mean girls sent me a message, I was about to be ready to fell that anxiety of getting bully all over again, but this time, the message was different. She said “congratulations!! You did better than all of us did!”
I will never forget this day, and I will NEVER compare myself anymore.

[happycreature]

i started meditation, journaling, yoga, gym, jogging and calisthenics. i also started new hobbies such as cooking and playing chess! i decided to learn new things such as dancing and learn new languages. i will be the DREAM GIRL. i promise that to myself

[bbquin]

It's so sad that comparison literally starts from childhood by others and it gets developed within us as we grow older.

[Dark]

"I know I'm gonna get my cake, just vaise you're eating it first doesn't mean I'm not gonna get mine. Enjoy it!! Enjoy it!! Cause my time gonna come that's fine."

[Julia-djkp]

What I do instead of a grateful journal is that every day I take a picture of something I'm grateful about. This can be a sunset, a meal with friends, something cute I saw... I find it more interactive and it is always fun to watch back on the pictures 🥰

[hafsat.a.]

I need this because im so confident but then that one girl is around me and I suddenly feel insecure and so envious im tired of that.

[dhruvii]

Girl, you literally SAVED MY LIFE! You're legit my fav influencer! I've had a MAJOR shift in my overthinking mindset and my life's been sm easier than ever!!! Goddd you don't know how much my day brightens when you upload a new video and my brain gets clicked how 1more new video = 1 more step in achieving better life! Ik life's all about ups and downs but genuinely speaking, ilysm keep uploading such great videos no matter what!

[jean]

1. Use them as source of inspiration - if it triggers envy, then it’s clue of what you want. Think that envy isnt really envy but guide for your future by refining goals and thinking how to improve yourself
2. Invest on yourself
3. Drop scarcity mindset
4. Manifest - affirm that what you want is on the way and visualize
5. Create an alter ego and let them step up when you feel inferior
6. Get to the root of your triggers
7. Self care
8. Gratitude journal

[izzymoon]

I love the quote you said:
"The only person tou should be comparing yourself to is who you were yesterday"

Thank you 💙

[esspanaj]

The only thing that made me stop being jealous and comparing myself to others was the realization that these two things will give you wrinkles.
Comparing/ jealously = stress = wrinkles = depressed

[avasheppard]

I think also being jealous/envious is us automatically thinking we should have the blessings that others have - when it's kind of bold of us to assume that. I love the idea that each path is beautiful for a reason - I have especially struggled with comparing myself to girls that have boyfriends or got a lot of attention from guys. I always wondered, why them and not me? Now looking back I see that this was always meant to happen - finding love for myself before finding love from a guy - which is in so many ways a much better gift that the universe has given me. I think often the universe gives us what we need and not what we want - In my case, what I wanted was a boyfriend, but what I really needed was love in my life, from myself, so that I could feel that everyday, relationship or not. There's this quote from business owner Alex Hormozi that goes something like this - he says "If you were to create a human - what would you put them through in order to make them a humble, strong, resilient person? Every good trait - humor, confidence, warmth - has a price and a journey to acquire that trait." So look at your life - what are you being put through that is going to give you a trait you are proud of? Looking at it that way has definitely helped me. I now look at that period of loneliness as me acquiring the trait of patience and motivation to create a life I'm proud of regardless of attention from men. Self love is something that is lifelong once you begin it, and I couldn't be more grateful for that. P.S. Now I'm noticing that because I'm grateful, I'm attracting guys of a higher caliber into my life. This stuff really works! Thank you so much Tam for spreading this advice. ❤

[alejandragalvan]

I unfollowed a lot of celebrities and people who just felt fake to me. I agree with you when you said that you leave social media feeling refreshed and inspired.

People think social media is evil but we are in charge of what we see. Now I see people who inspire me, who support my content and make me feel good.