How do I move on from rejection and not let it affect my self-worth?

Viewer Lola writes, “Hi Susan! How do you move on from rejection and not let it affect your self worth?” Though your ego is bruised, one person doesn’t determine your worth. Here’s how to process what occurred and move forward.

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[stardustastrology]

Guys that rejected me in the past...when I see who they stay with, who they marry, who they cheat them with...it becomes perfectly clear why they did not chose me.

[ghadag]

" the partner what we meet is only capable of expressing love & connecting to the level of their own depth" AMAZING video SUSAN

[whosmira]

Watching this because I have all these terrible thoughts because I was rejected by somebody I truly cared for. My mind tricks me into thinking I‘m not good enough & not lovable. I know it‘s not true, but I know I have to work on my self love now.

[gerr]

Many times rejection can be a matter of poor timing. Someone may choose a match who seems perfect in every way but that person hasn't recovered from a previous relationship. One person is looking for a real relationship and the other is looking for a bandaid and quickly moves on.

[crawfish]

Self worth comes from within not from outside us. When one door closes another one opens to find someone more compatible, so go through that open door. Great video Susan!

[DennisNowland]

Don't look for validation from someone else unless that someone else is worthy of validating you.

[tnt]

It also very much depends on HOW you were rejected and for HOW LONG you have been dating the person. Nowadays people discard and dismiss, which is cruel and unnecessary behavior....and very hurtful and can be very damaging regardless if you have high self worth or not.

[Mastiff-]

Rejection is apart of life. We all experience it. Just take a step back look at urself and move on. Life is good.

[p.rabbitt]

Spot on! Don't sweat the people that can't play on your level.

[sweatslaysparkle]

For me, I think I struggle with accepting people as they are versus the image I paint them to be in my head. I'm a dreamer, so I always see people for what they could be and not what they are. And when my feelings are being over looked and neglected, I always manage to make excuses for the person doing the neglecting; "oh, they're so stressed" or "they're having a hard time". But I don't need to take on someones confusion and problems. I am not anyone's punching bag. I am not here to be leaned on but then deserted when I need someone to lean on. It's unfair and I'm doing myself a disservice when I allow that treatment.

[l.a.poet_]

I handle rejection better now than i did when i was youger. Im a writer, im used to being declined. Rejection doesnt hurt as much if you. Have a strong sense of self. If a person doesnt want you, then theyre missing out. Let it roll off your back and move on to the next one.

[shivafoods]

3 years back, I proposed a girl and she rejected. Not only she rejected but humiliated me because of my looks, financial situation, job, etc... I was devastated and heartbroken for two years thinking something is wrong with me. However, after viewing Susan videos on dating and how to increase my self esteem/worth, I realised, I've suffered for no reason. Now, I am very good at handling rejections. I don't tolerate any BS. If I see any red flags, bye bye, go waste someone else time. Not mine.

[jomr]

It's not just about self-worth for me it's about heartbreak and discouragement. I feel like I'll never find someone who is going to stay. I don't like dating. I don't want to "learn" from relationships. I just want to find someone on the Earth to be with and grow the relationship. I feel like people get married, grow and love each other for years...and I get dumped by the person I love and can't do anything about it. I'm just alone and unloved. It was fine for awhile now I just really don't want to experience rejection anymore.

[lukethompson]

Truly great advice. I know I am worthy of a genuinely great relationship. I've been on both sides of the rejection card. I've stopped looking. Just working on being the best person that I can be. Someday the right lady will find me.

[dlm]

It's hard to find mutual feelings. I've been rejected. I've also rejected. Just enjoy being you because someone will see your happy energy and fall in love.

[meghasharma]

1) Making right partner choices & 2) knowing your own self worth first. Wow. So bang on. Love your videos. Its like a friend is talking to you - honest, clear and upfront.

[Summer-tkyk]

It makes so much sense. I was doubting myself when I was rejected by a man. After spending some time to get to know myself more, I know it's nothing to do with my self worth, just he couldn't provide what I needed.

[annetteelliott]

I've known rejection from the age of four to the ripe old age of hurt never goes away but you learn to live with it.

[sugartreatsuk]

I was in floods of tears up until 7 minutes ago when I accidentally stumbled across this video and heard my name, it was as though this message was for me and I truly needed to hear it. Thank you so much.
From Lola (not the same Lola who wrote in)

[Forever]

“The partner that we meet is only capable of expressing love and connecting to the level of their own depth” so sad when the person needed so much love that the didn’t believe they deserved. But refreshing to realise your heart should be saved for someone who can fully reciprocate the love you have