Get Your Ex Back When You Dumped Them

YouTube! What’s happening! Welcome to my latest breakup video… breakups, of course, are what I do. My name is Brad Browning, I’m located in beautiful Vancouver Canada, and I’m possibly the world’s most experienced breakup coach. So, folks, if you want to get your ex back …. Get out your popcorn, because that’s what this video is about.

In this particular video, I’ll be explaining what to do if you dumped your ex but now regret it and want to get back together. This is actually a lot more common that you might think, so if you’re in this situation -- where you initiated the breakup, but later changed your mind -- here’s what you need do to get your boyfriend or girlfriend back.

Oh, and this applies to some other slightly different situations, too… for instance, maybe you and your ex agreed to a mutual breakup and just ‘parted ways’ for whatever reason… or maybe some of you out there broke up with your ex out of anger because he or she did something really nasty to you, but now you’ve had some time to think it over and forgive your ex…. Whatever the specifics of your situation are, most of what I’m about to talk about still applies to you.

Now, let’s begin with a word of warning…. There are a lot of factors that will determine how difficult winning back your ex is going to be. For some of you out there watching this video, it may be a matter of simply meeting up and asking him or her to get back together. That’s obviously pretty unlikely, but in some cases -- such as if it’s only been a few days since your breakup, or your ex clearly didn’t agree with your decision to break up -- it could be that simple.

Time is the biggest factor here. The longer it’s been since your initial breakup, the more difficult it’s going to be to re-build your ex’s attraction to you to the point where he or she will want to get back together…. That’s not to say it’s impossible to win back your lover after a year or more apart, but it’s definitely going to be a lot more challenging.

Partly, the reason it’s tough to get back together after a long time apart is because your ex will probably find someone new in that time… and I think it goes without saying that you’re going to have a tougher time if your ex is in a serious relationship with someone new.

So if you’re in that kind of situation, where it’s been many months or even years since the initial breakup… and you already know your ex is seeing someone else, and has been for some time…. Then please think about moving on. I’m not saying you can’t get him or her back, because I’ve seen it happen with my clients many times in the past, but you definitely need to be ready for the possibility that you won’t be able to get him or her back and you’ll need to move on.

Another thing that will affect your strategy and your odds of success is your ex’s attitude and overall feelings towards you… did you dump them in a brutal fashion, or was it a tough decision you made together after shedding a lot of tears? If you were a complete dick and kicked your ex to the curb, that may not actually hurt your chances of getting them back, believe it or not…. But generally speaking, the ‘cleaner’ your breakup, the easier it’s going to be to get back together.

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[VictoriaGisele]

i dumped the love of my life because i couldn’t handle certain aspects of our relationship. i’m so heartbroken to have caused so much undeserved pain to him. hopefully the universe brings us back together when it’s time

[isaacsmith]

I love how the dumpers think they’re in control... it usually backfires if you don’t reach out to your ex soon.. only so much neglect and sadness they can take by you leaving them.

[gabrielavega]

I GOT BACK TOGETHER WITH HIM. YOURE THE BEST

[savenification]

Sometimes they act a certain way for you to break up with them and them going with another person right after and not feel guilty about it .

[Comindance]

I wish my gf is watching this who dumped me :(

[laurierussel]

Thanks so much for the video! It's hard to be hurting and feeling so much anxiety. I'm losing sleep over it, it's been torture. Thanks for explaining this so calmly and making me feel like it's possible for us to start over.

[theTVremote]

Doing "no contact" in hopes to get your ex back as the dumper is the wrong way to go. If you feel regret, you need to tell your ex straight up. Don't wait until day 30 because your ex may move on and not want you back.

Don't make the same mistake that I did.

[DerpyChipmunk]

We had a mutual break up, she suggested to do something because it wasn’t working and I initiated the breakup. I broke no contact multiple times afterwards and we ended up arguing a month after the breakup and blew it. I’m devastated and depressed because she was the love of my life, but I will start employing the no contact strategy in full effect this time so she forgets the argument. I apologized maturely and left it at that. Day 1 of No Contact is today, wish me luck and I’ll make updates on the journey. Thank you Brad.

[kinesonc]

Wow.. dude u made this video just when i emailed u that im the dumper.. wow thanks brad

[poepanfitness]

This video helps a lot Brad. I was in a long distance relationship and pretty much believed I would live out the rest of my life with my partner. These initial advices to work things out seem really critical . I will try my best, despite love being hindered by many miles.

[rutherhood]

I want to get back together with him, I broke up with him yesterday, I was in a relationship where I was loved so much and I loved him so much, but I worried that I was becoming all consumed in it and neglecting my life, I miss him so much and we both said we loved each other but I thought it was for the best, I now feel after sleeping on it that I want him there with me, we were in a relationship for a year and a half, I feel like it's just throwing away one of the best things that's ever happened to me when in reality we could learn to approach these next year's of life as a pair, I feel my mind is clearer on that now

[ultra-chad]

I dumped her and I felt fine. She begged for me back, and I wasn’t having it. But then 2 months later she reached out to me, just wanting friendship + telling me about the men she’s been with. I started missing her and she wants nothing romantic or sexual to do with me again, and now I really want her back. I spent time alone, slept around myself, dated, and none of it is helping. I’m a wreck and I miss her so much now, I hate myself

[sosiamya]

Sorry, I think it's strong to text you ex, be fun and vague when you messed it up. You need to step up like a mature person and expose yourself.. Mentioning that you had your chance to see what you did and grow up. If you behaved poorly that's the only way. The last thing your ex wants.. Is receiving random texts full of nothing...they are irritating and distracting for someone who is trying to go through a breakup and move on. She might ask you to leave her alone for good. So no games or the game might be over. I'm the one who's seeing this strategy applied and doesn't work. There are women/men who have a certain level of self-love and expect mutual understanding.

[jin]

I disagree. The no contact rule should only apply to the Dumpee, not the Dumper. I was the Dumpee and the no contact rule worked. My ex ended it, so she needed to be the one to win me back if she wanted to be with me. The power will then shift. Always strive to have equal power. Unless you want to be completely in control or have none at all—finding the middle ground is key to a happy relationship.

[swativirdi]

This comment section feels good to read. I'm glad that i'm not the one who dumped for loosing feelings temprarily and being uncertain about the decision yet taking it, after 6 years of amazing and beautiful relationship. Its been 3 weeks and i'm in my worst condition. I cry my eyes out i canr see my future, i've lost epitite and feels like its the end, but i'm gonna get better i know. This is not the end, its just a BIG CHANGE. ❤❤ *but i really hope he comes back until its too late bcz even after 2 months i can give him a chance, but if its too long, then its gone*

[kybanainsuvan]

Your video really helped me in my situation. That's exactly what I needed to hear. THANK YOU SO MUCH! Have a great day :)

[ariesariesfearless]

I broke up with him bec he doesnt respect me but i love him but i cant take on how he treated me he just blocked me in wats app withouth a word

[staceya.]

I’m pretty sure mine dumped me because his ex wife guilted him in to it. I TOLD him she’d do this as soon as she found out about me 😥

[SAMEntalhealth]

I watch these to see where her mind might be sometimes

[rezurkt]

Brad, i broke up with my girlfriend and then came back after a month. I told her when we broke up that we needed to be alone and become better people before we could work again. I we tried talking for a month but she all of a sudden didn't contact me, i found out she went on a date with a guy. I followed her in my car and poured out my heart one last time and then cut off contact. Its been 1 week since we talked. its been hard since its out of my control now. We were togther for 4 years, from 17 to 21 years old. She said she still had feelings but was scared to try again. Im confident its not gonna work out between her and this guy but is there hope?