How to get your ex back (when you’re the one who hurt them)

How do your get your ex back when you’re the one who hurt them? The center point of your work is to eliminate the 'thing' that caused the breakup. It will take humility and discipline, but if you want them back, this is the key to your success.

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[Donaldhelmick]

I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex girlfriend, and I can't seem to get her out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win her back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss her deeply and can't stop thinking about her.

[leonleon]

This is exactly where I am right now. I am determined to change and at the same time hate my older self. Thanks for providing the last straw.

[alexromero]

She left me for being angry all the time. I snapped on her too many times and she finally had enough. Never realized how bad I got until the final breakup. Finally going to therapy for myself. Maybe for her if I get another chance. But mostly for me. I don’t wanna hurt her or anyone like that again

[iheartfood]

I have to give him and myself time, take things seriously this time. Change ourselves.

[sharathsuma]

Excellent lesson, Susan . Its a pity that many relationships keeps failing and in a good percentage of them people know they need to apologize, change and get their partner back, but the ego or lack of confidence prevents them from doing so . I wish that your message reach many of these couples who are in the starting stage of trouble in their relationship and yet if handled properly can have a long fulfilling life ahead together . One of the best topics that you have covered due to its practicality . I am so lucky that I am able to take a leaf out of all your videos that I have watched . Thank you for being so helpful . God bless you !

[ryanpape]

Give yourself time against the break up.... Separate and work on your flaws... Get to know yourself better and love yourself better. Stay healthy, work out, socialize, try new things in life... Vision the change for yourself, have a vision board and go from there.

[jackradtke]

I'm trustin you Susan. I fucked up and pushed her out of my life when I needed her most. I've done the online apology, I've told her I'm going to change and all we have to do now is wait till the 29. It's been painful but I am absolutely determined to make this work.

[midlanderwbaboothy]

Thank you for this advice i dumped my ex a year back because of my own issues with alcohol, I've never really given her any explanation but have worked on myself and become a better person . This advice will go a long way to explain my hurting from the break up

[insomniaOP]

Hello Susan, I stumbled upon your video while searching for ways to get my ex back. I’m 16 and she’s 15. Her and I were dating for a year and in that year we had many beautiful moments and memories but there were also toxic moments. We were both toxic to each other at a certain point and she changed that and turned it around real quick, whereas I was taking longer. Four days ago she broke up with me and it feels like it’s for good. I hurt her a lot that day and I made her really really upset. I acknowledge what I did to her and that it’s not right and the past 4 days I’ve been working really hard on myself to change and learning more about myself and focusing on making a change. I want to say I enjoyed your video and it means a lot to me and I will follow the steps in this guide. Hopefully her and I get back together because I love her and this girl is the love of my life. I know we’re young but we had our whole life planned ahead of us together. I didn’t cheat on her but I did hurt her emotionally with words.

[wheretoplaygames]

Thank you so much for these words. I broke her heart because I put up too many walls and in the end walked away from her because I was afraid to let her down. I even did things to make myself less desirable to her because I wanted her to have happiness without me. Even if she never comes back into my life, I am changing for the better and opening myself upTo love and be loved

[karma]

I'm going to change for him, i will

[crookamanikk]

I needed to see this video, I just recently broke up with my ex, I was a bad person in that relationship, n it went on for a long time, just today I went through our old chats and I realized with utter shame that I had been cruel and unkind, I'm working on myself now, seeking therapy

[swoldierjan]

LOVE your videos Susan. I’ve learned so MUCH from this. I miss my significant other so much. I seriously have changed so much since being separated from her. Everything you said was on point. Just gotta keep on working. Working in the sense of becoming a better person everyday and hope she notices.

[raycoughlan]

Love this video this lady no bull straight to the real point spot on comes down to what you really want pow 👍👍👍👍👍👍

[tarynvairl]

Probably the best one I’ve seen yet. I will put these things to practice.

[tuff]

My EX dropped me cold. I don't know why. She won't return a letter, email, Facebook, or a series of phone calls. I don't know what I said or did. I have no closure now for two years. She left me in a pit of hell and not knowing what I did...……………...At this stage, all I want to know is what I did. I don't know. She "ghosted" me. It's like she ripped my heart out. In my opinion, her not replying is pure, concentrated evil on her part. I have done nothing to her that makes me deserve this. If I could know, then I could understand. But I can't know because she won't return my messages!!!

[KidslearnplayNfun]

I hurt my ex by breaking up with him twice I love him still even when I broke up with him I loved him a lot. Now he plays games and acts hot and cold but he does not even know why I broke up with him it was because I felt unwanted he started treating me not as valuable once we got comfortable with each other he did not put as much effort when we first got together.

[johnnycalderon]

I got drunk and accused her of cheating smh.. Today makes a month since I last drank. And we just started texting last week. But she says she's not ready to see me yet.

[clintonaldridge]

I've hurt her by being too insecure because she stared listening to my past bad stories and she was never opened. I tried to move on and she also had a side guy but she came back. But her friends told me she don't want me anymore... I've started insulting her and I got so upset. Yet her friends told her I insulted her and she thought I'm a player buy I never cheated when we were dating and she said she's not ready to be in a relationship... I LOVE HER SO MUCH... WHAT SHOULD I DO

[nychansen]

I did not appreciate and accept my gf's love and kindness. She gave me chances during the relationship to show more, to show her that I care, that I love. She said she had been hurting for so long and she can't do it anymore. She said that the door is closed and she needs me to let her go.
My world has crumbled, my heart hurts, i did her wrong by not being present and appreciative. How do i fix that?