The Number One Secret To Getting Your Ex Back (And a Strange Truth)

In this video, I’m going to tell you the single most important secret to winning back your ex. If you’re not aware of the important tips I’m going to reveal in the next few minutes, then your chances of saving your relationship will be next to nil. I know this because I’ve watched many of my clients ignore this advice and, predictably, throw away any shot at a second chance with their ex. Don’t do that… just trust that the techniques I’m going to share in this video WILL work, and WILL give you the best possible chance of getting back together.

So, what’s the #1 secret to getting your ex back? What is it that separates those who fail and those who actually do build a new, healthier relationship with their ex?

The secret to winning your ex back is to fundamentally change the way your ex thinks about you and your relationship. To re-wire their brain so that when he or she thinks about you, they think about your positive qualities, how much fun you are, how many great memories you’ve shared, and how great life is when you’re by their side.

This is crucial because right now, if you’ve been dumped or if your ex isn’t interested in giving the relationship another shot, then he or she almost certainly thinks of you in a negative light. Even if your breakup was totally amicable and he or she has told you they still love you, the reality is that your ex just doesn’t think of you as someone they want to be with. If your breakup was ugly or you’ve made a lot of mistakes since the breakup, it’s more likely that he or she sees you as “that desperate loser ex”.

If you want him or her to take you back, then you need to change that… you need to make sure that they think about you in the same way they did when your relationship began, when things were amazing and you were madly in love. If your ex were to feel that way about you again -- if thinking about you brought a smile to their face and sent a surge of attraction through their body -- then he or she wouldn’t even think twice about getting back together!

So, really, the key to winning back your ex is to re-wire their subconscious perception of you. You want them to feel like they NEED you in their life, and stimulate the kind of strong emotions and feelings of attraction that will overpower logic or reasoning. If you do this properly, then all the reasons your ex has given you for the breakup will become meaningless or be forgotten completely. We humans are emotional creatures and we’re slaves to our sexual and emotional desires… so if you can stimulate those feelings in the back of your ex’s mind, then he or she will come crawling back to you asking for another chance.

I know what you’re thinking at this point… you’re thinking, “Brad, what’s with all this psychobabble? How does it actually help me get my ex back?”

That’s a fair question, to be honest… but if you think about it, what most people in your situation do is actually the complete opposite of what I just described. Most people -- and I can’t blame them, because it seems perfectly logical -- try to convince their ex to take them back. They beg, plead, or just generally reach out to their ex and attempt to do things that they think will change their ex’s mind about the breakup.

Unfortunately, this never works. In fact, most of the time, any attempts to talk with your ex after the breakup will harm your chances and drive him or her even further away. Begging, pleading, apologizing, bribing… It is absolutely awful because all it does is re-enforce that image in the back of your ex’s mind - the one that makes them think of you in a negative light, as someone whom they wouldn’t be their romantic partner and isn’t what they want in a boyfriend or girlfriend.

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[mellytv]

You are such a blessing . After I watched your videos and followed everything, I got him back and we have never been the same because I learnt from you how to handle a relationship after getting back . We have been happy and healthy from 2018 after I followed what you said . Thank you Brad

[sheldonwilson]

I used every tip that brad said in his videos and I can honestly say that I wouldn’t have my girlfriend back if I hadn’t have watched these videos, we are both so much happier than we’ve ever been and we’ve been so devoted to each other since we’ve gotten back together, thankyou so much brad

[bugdoodle]

I definitely agree. They never listen when you talk to them, and act like everything was your fault instead of accepting that no one is perfect

[jamesishere]

Too many people end on bad terms and this severely hurts their chances of getting back together or delays the ex contacting them sooner, so always end on good terms and then give them all the time they need to contact you. It will be hard but trust me, when your ex misses you enough, they will reach out to you and just don't blow it by talking about getting back together right away or going into your feelings, just have a good laugh with them along the way, nothing serious and get them relaxed talking with you again, before long your back together without actually talking about getting back together, it's worked for me.

[bryans_main]

I am currently one month out from the breakup. Tried no contact and failed. I need to start again because the contact we did have set me right back to square one. I'm stronger than I was a month ago, but the anxiety kicked right back in. This is extremely difficult but like I said it does get better. I'm going to go no contact again, and keep the faith. God will bring my wife and 3 kids back together! Thank you for the advice!

[Ernestrealdizzo]

This guy is the best coach.. i have watch a lot of videos about break up but Brad Browning have best advice..100%

[bethanymarie]

The no contact rule works 100%. I left my ex alone for not just 30 days but over 60. Then he said how much he would like to be back together and have another chance. Were not together right at the moment letting all the tips set in. Yet he for sure missed me said how he still loves me and hopes I do to. It was hard not talking that long but I feel it worked. Ive been folllowing all theses tips thanks for your help Brad.

[cyberpunk]

Great video, but TBH i don't think the ones who got dumped should do the reaching out first

[Dekosternowa]

Hi Brad! My ex and I recently broke up... It hurts like hell! I really can relate to your videos. Now I'm starting the 31days without communication, it will be deficult but I'm so desperate and I'll hope that everything will go back to the way it used to be... wish me good luck and thanks for the amazing videos!!

[kidtweezy]

Thank you so much Brad. Me and my girlfriend broke up she initiated the break after 3years due to me not caring and thinking she was always going to be there no matter what. However one day she broke up with me and even gave back my stuff and thats when reality hit me and realised someone special i lost and was sad and depressed for months and kept watching your videos on repeate just waiting for her to come back. We would meet up as friends cus we still had strong feelings for one another and she realised the changes i made during 3months of breakup. The no contact rule worked but took me longer than expected it took me 2months but you have to keep strong and think positive. Me and my girlfriend have been back together for 4months. During the breakup it makes u think and to make changes within yourself to become better.

[tarugart]

Hey Brad, I’ve recently stumbled through your videos, so my situation is this: my ex boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me saying that he didn’t love me anymore and didn’t feel like he was in love. I did develop an emotional dependency on him and i did suffocate him. He does have a hard time knowing what he is feeling and after the breakup we even had sex a few times and cried bc of the breakup. I went back to my country and didnt talk to him for 3 weeks, after that we decided to talk again bc we are best friends, me and him would text everyday and even sleep together in video calls. But recently i did realize that he isn’t in love anymore and this is only going to hurt me, so i told him i needed time from him until i felt like i didnt love him anymore, he understood and was even sad about it. In 15 days im going back to his country to continue my studies and he told me a while ago he wanted to get me at the airport and wants to see me. Idk where to start to get him back, I miss him a lot, even tho he wants my attention and wants to be cute with me, he said that he cant be in a relationship rn cus he has a lot of problems in his head. Idk how to make him fall in love with me again…. Please im begging you 😭😭

[LoveLove-krvc]

thanks to your informative, effective videos and advice i watched i followed all the no contact rules.He's back to me and were okay again "stronger than before" a tears of joy in my heart.

[realloreal]

Everyone is different.

We all have different reasons.

[justbeyourself]

I was ignored for three months. I was not the one.. taking him back is not an option. If you need to be responsible for your actions than do so instead of playing this game. Sorry I strongly disagree

[Lucifer-rhjy]

Brad.. I've been watching your videos and following your advices, and the only improvements is that we're talking online and she's still cold around me, but in person she seems so avoidant.. I really want to win this girl back to my life.. she told me she's already healed and she's moved on, and her friends hate me and they keep telling her negative things such as I'm not worth it anymore and they helped her find someone better than me.. and it's my fault actually.. I cheated on her and now reflecting on what i did, gathering all the help i need, and living my life full of regrets and pain, crying myself every night.. I'm so devoted to this girl and I do hope I can win her back.. hoping and praying that we can still be together again

[Monalisa]

He said that he doesn't have feelings for me anymore after 9 years

[matyaskatona]

I fuked up. I lost my love of my life . after ~3 year She gave me a more than once chance to change, but I didn't reginized that I'm mentally not okey. angry issues, and yeh mental problems...Now its too late, I fucked up the rule don't contact her....But I know now what I fucked up I wish i could go back in time and watch this sooner, maybe that's the key. I don't know if i have a chance in the future or not. But we didn't give our stuff back yet. 1 moth almost passed ... But i fucked up, and i really love her. i feel like She doesn't believe my words anymore....

[richwilliams]

My ex and i have just had a son. I was by her side through the pregnancy, helped financially, helped get things for maternity and for our son. Now, she won’t speak to me or look at me when i visit my son. She has her mum message me. She hasn’t opened a message i sent asking how she and our son are i sent in march 10th. She was “taking it slowly” with someone in September but he apparently ghosted her in January. I want us to be parents. Not this crap we are. I’m going to the gym a lot, lost some weight. So, any advice about this situation?

[ellibrador]

Im back again omg ! That quickly the no contact period didn't even last a day, mr brad you are a genius, this is insane thank you very much for everything you do for us, everything worked out insanely fast even better than i expected now i'm back with my girl and she's even desiring me more than ever !

[christalbernard]

everybody here talking about their ex that broke up with them 1 day to 3 weeks ago ...and I'm like my ex and I broke up 13 months ago 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂..

why yall stressing yourselves ...if it's meant to be then it will be eventually ..bruh..and for a relationship to last you Need God in your relationship 😄