Understanding Your Avoidant Ex's 5 STAGES in No Contact - *Bonus STAGE*

Assessing the stages your ex goes through is important if your goal is to get your ex back after a breakup. In this video you'll learn how to summarize the way your avoidant ex feels in the relief/guilt stage of no contact, by recognizing the behaviors your ex demonstrates in the different stages of no contact.

You'll also be able to interpret signs no contact is affecting your ex, be able to recognize the different stages of no contact, and be able to identify the different things your avoidant attachment ex feels during these specific stages of no contact. Its critical to know how your ex behaves in this relief/guilt stage of no contact

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[samdath]

Your ex mainly wants you back when you don't want them back.

[DarkTiding]

Fearful-avoidants typically do not reach out quickly after a breakup. They tend to struggle with conflicting emotions: they desire connection but fear emotional vulnerability. This creates a push-pull dynamic where they often withdraw after a breakup to protect themselves from further emotional pain.

[tonyasherrod]

He never attempted or gave a clue that he wanted to end the relationship. I never heard of a dismissive avoidant partner. But it wasn't hard for me to cut him off. It was the worst feeling in this relationship. I don't think my ex has any idea of his behavior. He just does something that makes him feel better. I'm working on me, and God is going to bring into my life with a man I'm equally yoked with. I find this a sad feeling to have. I'm a woman who's passionate. If he has a problem with intimacy, passion and communication. He can stay away from me.

[PrettyTasha-kq]

Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for her, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.

[Bella.Italia]

We all have growth to do, no matter what...
Great video... my ex is fearful avoidant. I am sure he is still in the relief stage, but he never reched out to offer help. It's been 5 weeks since the break up.
I am working so much on myself. But the more I do, the more I realise his behaviour has been soooo toxic... this is the third break up, he always came back... I honestly don't know if God wants me with this man...

[kayluv]

Omg... while i am not sure what type of avoidant he is, this definitely reasonated with me. I need to listen to this video every single day.

[djmikey]

I just ended it two weeks ago with my avoidant as I just couldn't take the merry-go-round/ups and downs anymore. We almost made it to 2 years and it was a struggle. I gave so many hints, had conversations and she just didn't get it as it was all about her and her needs. I could provide facts, examples and back that up with my feelings and she just dismissed it or contradicted everything I said. I began to check out months ago but wanted to try to see if it would get better and of course did not. She acted surprised when I ended it and even tried to act out emotion when I saw her for the last time. Avoidants are not capable of showing empathy or emotions for you and will take until the very end. She is now breadcrumbing me on the no contact and trying to analyze my attachment style which is odd. She sent me a long email saying she is researching our attachment styles and wants to work on it, and just confuses me even more. I don’t want to go back to that chaos, shallowness and being used again. I have thought about being friends but not sure that will work with her as I don’t think they’re capable of that separation.

[tiny_tim_needs_love_too]

Wow, it truly amazes me. How on point you are until this video I wasn’t for sure if mine was a dismissive avoidant or just a fearful of weight I know now by what you just told me this video hundred percent that mine is a fearful, and I did mess up when she reached back out Unfortunately, she accused me of being jealous when I wasn’t. It’s more about a respect thing, but anyways I do work and better myself, and I am in no contact again and hopefully one day she will realize that talking to other men isn’t a good thing when you’re with somebody else, and that doesn’t make me jealous to tell her that I don’t appreciate it. Has everything to do with respect.

[StarryLight-ev]

Was wondering if avoidant people go through the same stages when they were the one that was left for not putting in effort/communicating. Would like to see a video on this.

[robertanderson]

If getting an ex back requires this level of mental/ emotional exhaustion, find a mature female, who stands by her man when he treats her right.👎 Let the ex go. Let someone else deal with her grade school immaturity.👎

[jennieschneider]

Who actually wants anyone back
that behaves this way? 🤢
Trust In God Ya’ll !!!
HE has YOU !!! 🙌👑✝️🕊️

[nybellagirl]

My ex broke up with me after he cheated, lied, was sneaky throughout the 4 year relationship. He basically said I couldn't trust him or let him have freedom (I wonder why) and we faught too much. We lived together 2 of those years. We had 2 cats who he loved like his kids. Now that we are broken up and live separated and I have the cats, he sends them food via Amazon, toys and whatsapp messages a few days after the break up saying "I hope the cats are OK. I'm sending them food". I ignored his message. Seems like he only cared about the cats and could care less about me. Messages stopped completely after that. We are now 2.5 months no contact but cat food still comes once a month lol.

[Pearlie]

Coach what if you thought they wanted to come back because you had no knowledge they were in guilt stage and pull back when you start getting close . Can no contact fix it ?

[hutchsrevenge]

Me and this girl split after only about a month of talking. Everything seemed to be going great until suddenly a family member of hers passed away. I also then tried to make us official which she said yes to. She went on a vacation for like a week and a half which we didn’t speak and when she got back we met up and she said we couldn’t do this.

I still feel like we had something good and like she never gave it a chance for anything to work out but I’m worried that if we speak again the same issue might occur at some point. It seems like she definitely leans avoidant and it’s been about 30 days of no contact.

[Dylan-bdym]

I suggested a break in December with my ex as she was very shallow in her communication and let me know the dark for over a week. She turned the break in a breakup. We haven’t had contact ever since 8 months now.

What’s weird though that she suddenly removed me from Instagram and blocked me on WhatsApp after a few months to be unblocked and blocked again in a timespan of a few days. She also used profile pictures I took. Any idea what this could be?

[tanisham]

It's interesting how your tips are from the angle of the dumped making mistakes to lose the DA, when it's proven that the DA often dumps for no reason other than their own insecurities. How are the dumped making mistakes? Check out Welcome to the Other Half where both sides are presented fairly.

[kayluv]

What if they call and or text?? Do i stay in NC or can i keep it simple? Reply and keep it moving?

[aoisan_off]

If we were in a long distance relationship and everything was going well, and he kept on complimenting me and saying that I am the prettiest person he’s ever seen, and he wished to end his life with me and he used the excuse of the distance to break up especially when he was the one saying that distance was not an issue does that mean he has a avoident attachment ?

[marguskiis]

Men come back usually because they don't have much options. Not women.

[MotivGrow]

What is the likelihood of getting an ex back that has broken up twice?.. 10 year relationship