When you tell a narcissist they're hurting you...

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The Royal We has helped Millions to escape the grip of narcissistic abuse. Here’s a deeper look into what narcissistic abuse looks like and steps to heal from it:

Narcissistic abuse looks like:

Lack of Empathy: Narcissists often show little to no empathy for others, making it easy for them to manipulate and exploit. Narcissists use various tactics such as gaslighting, love bombing, and devaluation to control and dominate their victims.

Common Tactics Used in Narcissistic Abuse:

Gaslighting: Making the victim doubt their own reality and sanity.
Love Bombing: Showering the victim with excessive attention and affection to gain control.

Devaluation: Undermining the victim’s self-worth through criticism, belittling, and emotional neglect.

Isolation: Cutting the victim off from their support systems to increase dependency on the abuser.

Triangulation: Using others to create jealousy or competition, keeping the victim feeling insecure.
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

How to begin healing from narcissistic abuse:
Understand that you have been enduring narcissistic abuse. This awareness is the first step toward healing.

Get Help:

Establish No Contact or Low Contact:

Limit or completely cut off communication with the narcissistic abuser. This helps you gain emotional distance and begin your healing journey.
Rebuild Your Self-Esteem:

Engage in activities that boost your confidence and self-worth. Surround yourself with supportive, positive people who value and respect you.
Educate Yourself:

Learn about narcissistic abuse and its effects. Knowledge is empowering and can help you recognize patterns and avoid future toxic relationships.
Practice Self-Care:

Prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Regular exercise, a healthy diet, adequate sleep, and mindfulness practices can all contribute to your recovery.
Set Boundaries:

Develop and maintain healthy boundaries in all your relationships.

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[phyllistouchstone]

If you told the narcissist that you are hurting, they will love it.

[Sally-ihls]

Silent treatments and discard is same as murder, they murder your soul

[Redeemed]

A narcissist's "compassion" is pity and condescension, NOT genuine compassion.

[triciad]

They murder with words and actions. Not just words

[flightydancer]

You tell them they are hurting you, and they do that more! Twisted!

[DesertLifeme]

Truth! It will be a weapon for them. The narc left me with the biggest fears I ever had. It was pure evil. He used it to destroy me.
They were- being a single mom, penniless and homeless. I have faced my fears and God took care of us. I learned it was a blessing he left us. Nothing to fear with God.

[juliad]

The worst thing you can do to a narc is leave and never look back. Take away the drug the need desperately - YOUR ATTENTION. And how much they love using someone as special as you, to esteem themselves. 🤯💥 BOOM!

[melly]

It turns them on to hurt you and they already know that's what they're doing.

[wissn]

You can't express anything to them. They will deflect and poke you into another argument. Then berate you about other subject matters that have nothing to do with originally conversation.

[ragegamer]

She discarded, avoided accountability, her rebound is sure in for a treat!!

[lindafolks]

Another thing I heard that made sense was, “An evil person cannot be good and a good person cannot be evil!”
The evil person can pretend to be good, but not for long!!
Your Holy Spirit intuition will tell you pretty quickly before their mask falls off!
I pray others who are not healed/delivered yet, realize, not to gaslight themselves, get away, and seek help!!🙏🙏🙏🙏

[dumpmail-xzqp]

Narcs are so petty that they are just waiting for any opportunity to get something to weaponize against you.
In my case, when I tried to discuss the issue when she tried to bread crumb me, she would pretend to do better but then later on not only did she go back to bread crumbling, she intentionally did go worse while being all smiles and unconcerned because she got other supply and a enabling family encouraging her this type of behavior and when I wasn't putting up with her bs anymore and just wanted to move on, she actually tried to mock me by smearing to other ppl.

[venuspsychicmasseuse]

Their definition of compassion is actually not compassion its a flex in power over

[suesipp]

so true so true~~ all you get is a bunch of gas lighting~~

[embermiller]

Made that mistake with a friend a year ago. She raged, blame shifted, lied, and started the smear campaign. I walked away, and went no contact.

[rickymartin]

I made the mistake of letting her know she was hurting me. That made her do it more, she later admitted she was trying to make me leave. I didn't know what a narc was back then. Instead of leaving my home and family I started getting reactive verbally. To the point that she left.

[anitaaustralia]

I told him how much he hurt me. Show compassion?? OMG> I literally screamed crying saying, "You're hurting me!" He didn't stop...ever. No care at all. No empathy

[ynthxlp]

My narcissistic brother uses money to “flex” power over people. He can throw money, (I’ve seen him throw actual money) at problems so he looks like such a generous person yet hasn’t really sacrificed anything unless there’s something in it for him. I’ve been used and betrayed by him- never again.

[lindafolks]

💯 Truth!!
Wow! How incredibly warped these demon, reprobates are!!
If you don’t separate from them, they will ultimately get so incensed with anger, they will physically harm you or worse!!
Their enablers are equally to blame!
They are accessories to trying to unalive their target and equally criminal!
God bless you Kevin!🙏❤️🕊🌟🎶🌹💝

[alexp]

I wrote a letter to the narcissist telling him he hurt me..biggest mistake ever. He called my family to seek pity for himself . Then I was left with a feeling “how dare me upset him!?” ..and that I was the problem..sorry would have been nice but never mind..what a scumbag!!