How To Resolve Conflict - Teal Swan -

How to Express Your Emotion



Emotional Wake Up Call



Byron Katie - “Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet”



Meaning; The Self Destruct Button



How to Heal the Emotional Body



David Bercelli - Trauma Release Exercise



Switch Perspectives





Conflict is both the invitation to expand our consciousness and the potential cause of complete destruction. Like a root that can either grow a fragrant flower or a poisonous weed depending on how it is tended. If it is poorly tended, it is the root of the damage that we do to each other on this earth. It is the heart of war. It is the destroyer of connection and as such, it ruptures relationships. In this episode, Teal provides a protocol for conflict resolution.



--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Teal Swan is a revolutionary for personal transformation and is one of The Most Spiritually Influential Living People in the world. As a renowned author, speaker and social media star, she travels the world teaching self-development and teaching people how to transform their emotional, mental, physical and spiritual pain.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Meditations, Books, Merchandise & Frequency Paintings:

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Beginning Song:
Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel

Please note that I do not respond to posts from this site. Please promptly reach out to a mental health practitioner near you discuss treatment options. My teachings on the subject of suicide are meant to supplement your treatment with a mental health practitioner and should not be in lieu of such treatment. The information contained on this site is not intended or implied to be a substitute for such professional medical or mental health advice. Always seek the advice of your own licensed and qualified medical and mental health professionals. The information provided in this site and in my videos should not be used for the diagnosis or treatment of any mental health condition. A licensed physician, psychologist, and/or mental health provider should be consulted for a diagnosis and treatment of any and all medical and mental health conditions. Please immediately call your physician, mental health professional or 911 for all emergencies.

[Lee-Leee]

I don't understand why she gets death threats. She's just a genuine personal putting out her perception of life. Take it or leave it. She's not forcing her beliefs on anyone. She teaches personal ideas and loving yourself. How can.anyone be mad at that lol

[Zaria]

I had to come back and comment on this one. After watching this about 3 times over these last couple of days, I was finally able to apply your teachings to a conflict within my relationship. My bf is in the military and puts a LOT of effort into his career, but not into our relationship (my perspective). I’m in the military too so at times I belittle his excuses for not having enough time for us. After using the change of perspective method I felt the overwhelming stresses that he deals with at work and I couldn’t imagine how I would be able to cope if I were in his shoes. We were able to come to a resolution 10x faster than usual and he expressed that he notices how much safer he feels with my willingness to understand, rather than ridicule his actions (or lack there of).

Thank you so much for reading. I hope you all get to feel the same sense of great relief and happiness we feel😌 and thank you Teal (and your amazing team)❤️

[seekingthemiddleway]

This is indeed how it should be in an ideal world where everyone is self-aware. Unfortunately many people see self-examination as an attack on their identity and these are the people we are most likely to be in conflict with, people who would never get past the first step. It may work in loving families and with benign employers or friends, but when in conflict with someone damaged (e.g. borderline or narcissistic personality disordered individuals) willingness to resolve conflict is more often than not perceived as weakness to be taken advantage of. In fact getting anyone who is not extremely self-aware to stick to a final agreement is easier said than done, because people soon fall back into learnt behaviour and unconscious patterns of reacting to negative emotions. Learning to have solid emotional boundaries to avoid abuse is therefore just as important. Sadly then this kind of conflict resolution can only work with people who already have developed the humility to actively try to grow emotionally. I wonder what percentage of the general population that is.

[Sigalhodbh]

I love you so much Teal!!!! You have truely changed, and are changing my life. And also my close circles. Thank you so much. You are a true inspiration.

[melissaoconnell]

Wish I'd seen this video 50 years ago.
You and those supporting you have such a wealth of understanding. Seeing this...and so many of your videos in my 'down' time, have me with streams of tears for the wisdom and meeting - somewhere in Rumi's beloved field 'between right and wrong'.
I am grateful for you Teal Swan and all those who've taught me more than I ever did, could or would consciously acknowledge - from realms of little understood worlds and inexplicable time lines - into recognizing what it takes to see both the giant steps and quantum leaps it takes to live authentically, while remaining open to others and integrating ourselves toward alignment. Thank you for finding the strength and courage to share your intuitive gifts and speak with clarity and compassion...giggles and all for the often seen absurdities in it all. 💗🙏♾🔭✨

[Mancubb]

We must choose love over our own egos sense of survival

[bi.o.]

I usually agree with you, Teal––like one-hundred percent, honestly moreover, you said that people, drowning into victim consciousness don't want a resolution with the opposing party simply because they want validation and I've been a victim by all forms of emotional abuse (shaming, gaslighting, smear-campaigning, scapegoating, isolating, 'chastising', constant, sarcastic remarks and so on) since I was insecure and I was raised by parents who were wholly insecure, had power struggles, needed constant validation, et cetera.

I disagree with that statement and even tried re-watch that part after watching the entire video––although I've always wanted incessant validation myself, I did strive for a resolution with those who've abused me, in the past. I understand that I have been a powermonger (due to feelings of powerlessness), but I even––CRAVED a resolution with them I swear, to the point of resisting my own authenticity, which was my mistake. I'm not trying to play the 'martyr' here and nor am I trying to look like the 'good guy'. 


I think a lot of other victims also desperately wanted a resolution as well, but the other party sometimes wants to perpetuate the issue and to render us, victims to being uncommunicative. It's not always, but in many cases the opposing party (the emotional abuser) doesn't want to even care for a resolution at all. I wish you elaborated upon that point; that's all!

[ghassansah]

please talk about the fear of rejection and gender

[tiaturnbullchampionscoachi]

It was actually somewhat relieving to see so many comments about people who see that conflict resolution seems to be impossible. There are simply people who are getting what they want when they don't attempt to resolve conflicts. This is why the neurotic codependents are the ones who usually go to get help because they're the ones being used the most. For people that actually do want to resolve conflict with dignity and respect some other people who I have found helpful to study are Harville Hendrix\Imago process, Marshall Rosenberg\nonviolent communication, of course Byron Katie who you already mentioned and Stephen Covey\ 7 habits. If someone comes from a dysfunctional family not only do they need to change their core beliefs but they also need to find principles to live by so in order to change every individual really needs to do some research and work of sincere focus on their own inner process. A life skill I find invaluable is learning assertive negotiation skills. Swotch perspectives can be hilarious and fun if people atent defensivrly closed in right\wrong. My mom and I used to do it and often we ended up laughing which brought us closer. BTW, Eckhart Tolle helped us to not be attached to role story expectations. "Im the mom so...." A doughter is supposed to.." We would say " That's my story and I am making it up!" Then laugh.

[lorab]

Wow! Love part about Begin without one side as the underdog. Wish I had this video 55 yrs ago! Need to watch again. Thank you Teal

[gingerhealerstefany]

So enlightened, so wise. Endless thanks, so helpful!

[QSnarf]

There are some people with whom it does more harm than good to resolve conflict, but I think this is what you're talking about. You talked about this in the video you recently did about toxic spirituality. I have to be very careful about the people with whom I choose conflict resolution, since there are a lot of people out there who will throw spiritual shit at your feelings instead of just dealing with your feelings.

[ATunson]

LOVE IT!!! Ironically I had a conflict to address today and listened to this clip as a guide on how to respond. I found that resolution wasn't going to occur bcuz I was the only one who wanted it. I also found sympathy for the other person bcuz they are so stuck and damaged that the ideas of this video are so far from their ability of comprehension. I also feel VERY fortunate to be elevated in my heart and spirit that I have not allowed anger and life to have robbed me from loving peace and goodness MORE than conflict and disarray. It takes two for any other Teal's advice to work; and compassion. Without compassion, we as humanity are doomed. Those of us wise enough to see this must lead and show what conflict resolution and harmony looks like!

[hopespringseternal]

when dealing with narcissists/sociopaths....
NONE OF THIS APPLIES.
the only way to "deal" with these sorts is to avoid them altogether.

[garywilson]

I ALWAYS ENJOY YOUR TEACHING, TEAL!

[brethahuncho]

Teal we are kindled spirits I told my sisters exactly everything you said to my sister and her girlfriend, how I knew this I really don’t know I just tap in and speak ! And it flows from some other worldly plane

[marinakonstantopoulou]

Teal you are unique and the way you analyse various topics is surprisingly helpful. Thank u!
Could u please make a video about the inner conflict we feel when a problem arises between logic and emotions.
Is there a guide to understand that can help us choose the best “internal tool” to use, in order to find peace?
Wishing the best to you 🌸🌺

[elizadahmen]

I love you so so much Teal!! Thank you for inspiring and teaching me everyday. I can't express how grateful I am for your guidance.

[shanekanhai]

I've reached the edge of my life. its scary. I've never been here before do I jump or do I stay and continue to fight my everyday and night endless struggle. I really don't mind jumping. sound good right now.

[timlester]

thanks teal this is what i've been trying to address my ex seems to be on a power trip and is keeping me from pursuing my education and has the police harassing me as well as others :] thanks for giving me some ideas to help resolve these negative issues :]