How to STOP Jealousy & Comparison | A Monk's Approach

TOP 5 TIPS to avoid jealousy & comparison | A Monk's Approach

With the amount of social media and the messages we receive on a daily basis, it is easy to fall into the pattern of comparing ourselves to others. If one is not mindful, this issue can negatively affect one's overall mental health. In this video, I wanted to share 5 tips that may help you decrease jealousy and comparison. I hope this helps :) #mentalhealth #monk #monks

0:00 Intro
2:40 See the good in others & integrate it
7:07 Anumotanaboon or "rejoice in your merits"
10:05 Spread loving kindness
14:20 Talk to them and ask them how
18:32 Everyone experiences suffering

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[nickkeomahavong]

Question of the Day: Do you struggle with jealousy and comparison? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

[TakeBackYourMind]

Top 4 things that helped me stop comparison:
- You can never TRULY know someone. So you're not actually comparing yourself to them, you're comparing the whole of yourself to your incomplete outside perception of them.
- Even if comparison were fair and rational, it still doesn't serve us. It's a useless train of thought, thinking that way gets you nowhere.
- You most likely don't want the other person's life, you just want a few qualities from their life. Maybe that's money, confidence or something else. But whatever it is, it's the quality you want, not the other person's life. So take the person out of the equation and just decide if want certain factors from their life in your life, if you do then make it happen. If you can't, learn to accept that.
- Everytime you get a comparison thought, mindfully observe it, tell yourself 3 positive things about yourself, then let the thought go through distraction. You'll rewire your thinking.

[liabinimelisulzurrun]

I’m my opinion deleting social media is the same a treating the symptoms but not the root of the problem. If we all learn from his words, we should be able to enjoy and look at social media without feeling jealous or comparing ourselves to others.

[canadianRadio]

I disabled my social media. Seems to help my brain immensely.

[oliverkhrisyahgabe]

I always remind myself with this quote "No one is you and that is your POWER".

[nicolafrost]

My late mentor always said: " Don't compare your inside with somebody else's outside".

[kokos]

Don't compare yourself to others, compare yourself to you. Instead of trying to be exactly like other people, try to be a better version of yourself. Try to be calmer, more grateful, more generous, more loving, more understanding, more forgiving, more joyful and happy and less jealous, less angry, less envious, less egocentric, less sad, less bitter...Everyday, try to be better than you were yesterday, even if it's just a little, it matters. It's a key to your healing.

[relax-n-reads]

As Mark Twain simply put it, "Comparison is the death of joy."

[crisjoseaguilar]

I’m only 17 but i feel stuck, alone, ugly and depressed! Thank you Mr. Nick, your wisdom is slowly transforming me into a better version of myself.

[brendahunter]

Jealousy is when you fear someone has stolen the affection of a loved one. Envy is when you think others have something that you can't have. Many people see things others have and feel envy as if they can't have it or better. If you see something that some one has and you want that, celebrate their good fortune and know you can also have it.

[ciscowarrior]

I learned to deal to go of jealousy by 1. blessing the person and wishing them more good. 2. filling my head/heart with the thought that my Creator would/could give me the same thing or even better sometime in the future.

[jeffarch]

“if you want to be miserable, just compare yourself to someone.”
— margaret sanger, holocaust survivor RIP

[arthurlincoln]

I looked at a tree in my garden today. Just standing, observing, listening, still, quiet. No need to do anything else. See the bird in branches. Hear the bees in the blossum. See the green if the leaf and the way every leaf allows light fall on the others.
I felt at complete peace just for a that moment in time.

[Angeify]

The desideratta says " never compare yourself with others, you will become vain and bitter. For there will always be greater and lesser persons than yourself".

[vish]

There's no enemy outside our soul, the real enemies live inside us Anger, hate, ego and greed. 🙏🙏🙏☸☸

[Kyouma.]

What really only matters is one question: "Have I gotten a bit better than I was yesterday?"

Your potential doesn't need comparison with others. It's already there. You just need to unleash it

[vhoy]

Charity begins at home. Home is the self. We cannot give love if we donot first love ourselves through patience, kindness, respect etc...

[avaceleste]

Let me just add: the background noises of nature and birds is amazing 💚

[rtj]

I used to get jealous easily then I found out I always ended my jealousy with underestimating others to make me feel better! But it's very bad thing to not treat everyone equally and kindly, then I started practicing Buddhism and read few books it's really help me to become good person and not compare myself with other dhamma really teach me to treat people equally and be happy about other people success!
Who reading this I wish u to get good health, happiness and prosperity ❤️🙏
Sadhu sadhu sadhu🙏

[carolinecarol]

Guys, I've been in a love relationship for 7 years now, and it's not just roses, poetry, rainbows, and birds singing; there are difficulties too. To think that everything is beautiful is an illusion