I used to be insecure and envy others. Here's my advice.

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[LanaBlakely]

Hi!! I missed you all. Thank you for sticking around. Please share something, ANYTHING, going on in your life recently.

[Ullahussain]

why is my envy increasing with age... i literally went from not caring to suddenly caring about everything 😓😪😢

[ShekinahFineArt]

"A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones" Proverbs 14:30

[notyves]

I hate the feeling of envy and jealousy, and I feel guilty for feeling those feelings instead of being happy for my friends

[Lxqiia]

a flower doesn’t compare itself to the flower next to it, it just blooms.

[TheCosmicNote]

“Comparison is the thief of happiness”.

[zainabkhan_]

there’s this girl at my school, you know pretty, trendy, and i guess popular, and she posted a photo on instagram. seeing it really made me feel envious and jealous because she looked so cool in it. she looked like how i wanted myself to look, if that made sense. everything from her athletic body, her cute clothes, her perfect skin, man it made me feel so insecure. but then i came here and instantly began to feel better, especially seeing the comments of other stories similar to mine. instead of continuing my jealously, i went back to post and wrote a nice comment for her. its so much better to praise and lift someone up, than envy and despise. i don’t even care if she sees the comment or not, it just felt so good to do something that the past me wouldn’t have done.

[itsandieferrer]

a good mental trick that i picked up from jenn im to help you get out of comparing yourself is by realizing that everyone is multi-faceted and you can't just cherry pick what you want from people. so if you say you wanna be someone else, you have to be ready to take everything that comes with being that person -- their family dynamics, their educational background, their hobbies and interests, any medical conditions. the game isn't so that you find something that'll eventually have you come out on top but to make you realize that no one is just a pretty face, a 10/10 body, or a great career.

[jahkugou]

I was literally sitting here stewing in jealousy, feeling physically ill over the fact that someone I like likes my coworker better than me. Shes tall, skinny, funny, smart, and absolutely beautiful. Everyone loves her. Even me. Shes everything I always wanted to be. I think this video was a sign trying to help me. Letting me know im not any less beautiful just because she is too.

[kokichioma]

I just want to find happiness in myself because being insecure holds me back so much from being my best self.

[klaudinegarcia]

In my culture we call this "crab mentality." Imagine many crabs in a bucket trying to escape and pulling each other down. That's exactly what resentment is.

[jktm]

I envy other girls a lot. I envy their bodies, their hair, their symmetrical faces, nicely shaped lips, height, relationships, how mature they look compared to me who looks like a child and not womanly enough. For me it got worse with age, I'm in my 20s and I care more than I did before. I don't have any of those things and I'm trying to accept myself but I am so annoyed and sad at the fact that someone can be so lucky and get the perfect genes and people automatically love them because they are attractive and some people like me have to work through 100 insecurities because I know I'm ugly and I wonder whether I'll ever be desirable for anyone.

[lajellybeans]

I didn’t have a normal childhood or adolescence. My teens and I didn’t get to live up life like a normal teenager. Never got asked out, never went to parties, had no social life.... So when I hear about people’s great childhood, or their fun teenage years, that makes me envious of them. I am 28 and still feel resentful for a life that I didn’t have....

[andreagomez-pxvh]

I always say “ADMIRE not ENVY, ASPIRE TO BE not BRING DOWN” simple as that

[silvia]

What helped me to stop comparing myself to others is the fact that we really don't know that much about the people we are comparing ourselves with. They might only appear to be happy - maybe they are miserable, depressed, or suffering in other ways when we are not around them. For example, I was heavier in high school and got bullied for that. I would have killed to look like Lana back then and yet it turns out she also suffered due to her body type in high school... Fact is, we never know the full story of someone else's life. That's why now I only compare myself to who I was yesterday!

[heyfella]

im jealous of literally everyone because i struggle with some mental health issues. I'm working so hard to live my life every day while they do it with no sweat on their backs. its so frustrating. but comparison is the devil. this is the only life i got and i just have to live with it.

[natalialives]

For me Social media ppl aren’t ppl I envy.
It’s usually ppl I see everyday, that reminded me daily of my imperfections.

[wildsean]

Only a minute into the video and you’ve already hit the mark for me: “Not only do I want what you have, but I don’t want you to have it.” This is me when I see someone with a whole life aesthetic that I want. 😭

[Akta]

We spend so much time looking at other people's lives instead of our own, it's kind of exhausting. I've overcome jealousy by realising I can admire something in someone else without feeling like I need to be/do the same

[vupmdwd]

My sudden envy and jealousy of younger girls and anything in happy couples I've noticed stems from childhood trauma and general life sorrows that continued on throughout my life. It's more a feeling of grief and loneliness for a life that I never had.