How Jordan Peterson Deals With JEALOUSY & INSECURITY | Lewis Howes

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[AhmetKaan]

*“You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending”*

[BlueFace]

Someone said to me once: Either this person wants to be with you or they don't. Either you want me or you don't. If you want someone else, fine. It doesn't feel that easy, but it is that simple. Be strong in yourself, have confidence, don't compare yourself to others.

[anna_hbz]

I want my jealous thoughts gone. Envy is tearing my life apart…I feel absolutely bound and suffocated… After suffering with them for years, I’ve had enough

[ctbzfzu]

My insecurities have ruined my mind and relationships. I have so many regrets and disappointments in how I acted and wish I could have my last relationship back and start over. I have been working so hard.

[lorddieter]

“People will do and desire things they won’t talk about”— a fascinating quote

[Shivani-urte]

Love how the host just lets dr. P talk without interrupting! That's the respect he deserves! Love this

[erendiraolsen]

Sweet simple things
Good hygiene
Smelling good
Baby oil
Hugs and kisses
Making a simple meal for them
Flowers
Chocolate
Perfume
Fruit
Soft music
Coffee eg together
Popcorn
Massage away tension
A walk in the park together
Forgiving
Watching comedy, lol
Watching the sunset
Looking at the stars
Exploring new things
Experiencing new Memories
Remembering good memories
Singing to the other person even if you can't sing that makes it even better
Not waiting for the perfect time
Make the perfect time now
Love to live and live to love
Have boundaries
Respectful of each other
Read a book to the other one
Improve your surroundings
Declutter
Shower together
Have a fun day everyday

[erendiraolsen]

Love doesn't cost anything
Example: a smile when you're tired
A kind word of appreciation
A hug a supportive arm around your shoulder
Short love notes left on the fridge
Helping out with the housework
Going for a walk together even in the rain
Sharing an umbrella
Switching the phone off

[suzdwyer]

Yes I agree with most of this. My views are pretty traditional and I believe the society's approach and view of sexuality harms people a lot and causes a great deal of unhappiness. I think sex (including emotional intimacy) should be a sacred and special thing between a couple, and that this helps the relationship survive and thrive long term

[samfisher]

I love listening to Jordan Peterson he's so intelligent I've honestly become like so callous and so indifferent to the world I'm just incapable of trusting other people but he has been helping me get my life on track so that I can focus on myself this man is truly a godsend to me I'm so glad that I discovered his stuff and I sincerely hope that everyone can appreciate how valuable this man is to the human race.

[graveyard]

This talk is profound. Many people have shame of talking about porn and would not admit publicly they are watching it. It seems like a growing problem, I remember when it was first erotic magazines when we were kids, this moved to the triple x rated channels and internet pictures and videos later on. Porn gives false and very shallow gratification. The last words where Dr. Peterson mentions that "watching a sexual act where you are not involved says something about you" rang a bell. There are multiple causes of this to be possible to happen but if you are in that situation start taking care of yourself, do sports. Educate yourself. If you try changing all the small things about you that are under your control it is like magic how much your life can change. For people to see you as attractive and potential sexual partner you have to develop yourself so you have things to offer on the table. It is not easy. Or it seams it is not until you start doing it.

[thestudmuffin]

What I got from this video there’s acceptable jealous and harmful jealousy:
Harmful jealous: maybe you’re envious that someone better looking than you hugged or greeted your spouse. Spouse having a conversation with someone of the opposite sex. Envious of partners success.

Acceptable jealousy: partner is giving too much attention and is communicating too consistently with someone of the opposite sex even possibly finding them attractive.

My opinion: I have a traditional based mind set and I personally believe men and women don’t mix especially when they find each other attractive. You shouldn’t spend too much time with someone who you find attractive and you shouldn’t spend time alone especially. Set boundaries and talk about it just like Jordan spoke about its good to discuss things you’re ok with.

[jimflagg]

"You are on the same team, that is the point." So well said. You should never think of your partner as competition or someone you own. They are you team player. You need to provide assists and congratulations because when they win the team wins. If they are cheating then it is a different story. Cheating is saying you want to be on the other team.

[Zimboprenuer]

You can be a slave, a tyrant or you can negotiate

[chilloften]

Be terrified of those that say they get bored easy, that spells DRAMA.
Run!

[god-la-wins-verdad-]

I’m saving this video so I can reference it in the future.

[clamrider]

My high school sweetheart of 16 years ended up marrying one of my best friends. So I lost 2 important people in my life. It seems to be getting easier to deal with but it is still a painful situation when I think about it

[TheYlro]

Amen to that "pornography is not especially helpful to anyone". This is the truth!

[carolt]

Wow this was my life with my high school sweetheart. I was with him for 14 years since I was 14, had 3 children together. I feel like I did nothing put encourage him and I wanted him to be happy. I was scared because the odds were against us he had issues with drugs and alcohol, his mom passing, no family support on his side. I went to school throughout all this while I kept a full time job he was in and out of work but this was all throughout the years in which he was growing up an maturing. I felt like his mother and I understood that I knew the dynamics weren’t working but I stayed for the kids, I’m glad I did because if I would have left early on he would not have been the man he is today I say that because the men in his family are horrible no goals no job so he was headed down a dark path. I don’t like to say I alienated him from his family but he realized the more he would leave to Go hangout with them bad things would happen so he stopped going around them. He became more successful at work as did I. He was never happy, I made more money and I think that’s what ended up with him hating me. I never understood I was so motivated and wanted him to be happy. He cheated on me and completely abandoned us. Interestingly enough I became more successful since the break up almost 2 years now and he’s never been happy with me and say I’ve never done anything for him. It’s sad sometimes people will never realize they’re in their own way.

[OtubeShalhoub]

“You can be a slave or a tyrant, or you can negotiate. Those are your options.
And we default to slavery or tyranny, because that doesn’t take any cognitive effort”

-Jordan Peterson