Dealing With Jealousy

We've all been in that situation before—felt that mix of insecurity and anger. In fact, anyone who's seen Kathy Bates in "Misery" knows about jealousy firsthand. Today on Wellcast, we're going to give you tips and techniques to taming the green eyed monster in all your relationships. The first step is realizing the cause. Do our WellCast jealousy exercise and let us know if you're getting any better at coping with jealousy in your life.

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[introvertforlife]

Jealousy makes me feel a similar feeling to heartbreak. That sharp fluttery pain I feel in my heart. It makes me ANGRY and depressed.

[l.w]

it's not "I hate that they're more successful than me" it's more like "why can't this be me"

[chazzat]

Jealousy is a horrible feeling, a perfect mix of anger, anxiety and heartbreak, even in minor situations its really uncomfortable

[anx]

the thing is: i get jealous so easily its just toxic at this point, im scared to tell my loved ones about it because i dont want to spread toxicity and dont want them to get hurt/not want to hang out with me because of me overreacting

[Maxxtendo]

When my friends become better than me at something I love, I tend to hate myself. Is that jealousy.

[Yoyo]

I don't get jealous, just really freaking depressed.

[luciaalegria]

Take a deep breath. It will all be okay. Jealousy is a temporary feeling. Everyone experiences it and it’s normal. You are absolutely perfect and amazing just the way you are. I’m jealous right now as I’m typing this, but I’m learning to control my emotions better. You can do it I believe in you <3

[m.m]

I'm so happy to see that i'm not alone with this problem. Thank you for the comments guys! You really make me to believe in hope in this situation! <3

[rdthegamer]

The jealousy of seeing ur crush with someone else like ur bestfriend...
Fkin hate when that happens

[elizack_]

When someone compares u to others, that's where u start comparing urself to others...
That's how my jealousy comes in

[mazu_kaze]

what makes me jealous the most
- People being photogenic
- Being smart than me
- Has better progress in their life
- Being popular and loved by others

Life's not fair for me

[fghgfnvfghghyjgghj]

I know that I'm jealous. But admitting it and being honest doesn't help. I'm still really jealous, and I can't help it. 😒

[KaeAlienuwu]

When I'm jealous, I just cry, then remember that moment of jealousy, then cry again.




Is there something wrong with me??

Edit: its been a year since i commented this but im ok now and hopefully those who reply to my comment is too, have a good day.

[agatasoltys]

Sometimes I just get so jealous of this one specific person. They have everything I want like good style, good friends, good personality, and I always feel like I'm comparing myself to them. I feel like no matter what I do they're always going to be better and always have more original and creative ideas than me. And I know that they arent perfect and that they have problems as well, but for some reason no matter how hard i try I still want to be like that person. I know that I'm the problem here, and that I just cant be that person. I can't become somebody else no matter how much I try. But I still feel bad about everything I do. I dont want to feel like I'm copying them but for some reason I still feel like I do even for small things like having the same style, or liking the same band. I just want to feel like my own person and stop trying to be someone else. I'm the problem here not them. I hate myself and cant figure out who I am and that's the problem.

[imurhope]

I get jealous WAY too easily. My best friend could literally just open the door for somebody else and not me and I would be jealous. This is why I have fights with my best friend. I feel like a horrible friend after I fight with my friend because I was jealous. Jealousy is a pain. It gets in the way of your relationships

[floopysandwhich]

I get jealous when my loved one is hanging out with someone else but me and I just feel like there doing some behind my back even tho I know they wouldn’t ;(

[troto]

When I get jealous I don’t take it out on others, I take things out on myself.

[luvysworld]

Reading the comments and watching this video really helped me finally open my eyes. I have seriously bad jealousy which mixes in with my really bad anxiety. I'm always jealous of other people's intelligence, beauty, accomplishments, talents, etc. I also have a boyfriend and every time he mentions a girl's name, I get that jealous feeling. But I read a few comments saying how they shouldn't let that jealousy feeling consume you and to see the bigger picture. This video as well helped me control the jealousy feeling too. I hope I get even better soon for I am still struggling every now and then.

[emilijaknezevic]

i’m jealous of other people’s successes, especially the ones of my friends .. this honestly makes me hate myself even more
edit:
hey everyone (: thanks for all the likes and replies
looking back at this comment i honestly can't say that much has changed. i know that sounds kinda depressing, but it's the truth. also, when i posted this comment I wasn't being completely honest. yes, i was struggling with intense jealousy and envy, but it wasn't because of other people's success, it was because i hated every part of myself. I thought i was ugly and i hated my personality. i was just embarrassed to admit that those were the things that were causing my jealousy. like many of u said in the replies as well as other comments, jealousy makes u feel crazy. you get possessed by intrusive thoughts and stuck in a dark place. i still obsess over certain situations. for example if i like someone, i have to find out if they're talking to someone or if they have a crush. and if i don't know, that'll become the only thing on my mind. I'm still very insecure and far from loving myself, but I'd like to think I'm on the road to self-acceptance. i used to justify my jealousy by thinking 'well I don't have jealous outbursts where i hurt someone's feelings'. i used to think that not acting on that jealousy and just holding it in was fine. I thought that that's just who i am and I'm unable to change that. but it's not true that you're not hurting anyone. you're hurting yourself. stop hurting your own feelings. you deserve to be happy and love and be loved. my best piece of advice for now would be to at least distract yourself. fill up your day so that u don't have time to think about these irrational things your brain comes up with.
that's all (:
if anyone wants to be friends lmk, and once again thanks for the replies <3

[dozyghoul]

To all the people in the comments,

you're going to find people prettier than you, smarter than you, more athletic than you, more talented etc. but there's no need to get jealous. Stop looking at other people and start looking at yourself and trying to live your life to your desire rather than trying to bring it up to par with someone else's.

Sincerely,
Fish Whisperer