Narcissist will try to control you by using the kids as leverage and asking them for information

Narcissist will try to control you by using the kids as leverage. Live Webinar event 6/2

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware #narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( #NPD ) and I’ve been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the #Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

[cathy_clarinet]

Btw, demonstrating how to act, how to keep calm is something you could do a lot of. Remember a lot of the people that get involved with narcissists and don’t have good boundaries or self control, are like that because they didn’t see healthy behavior growing up. Poor boundaries and upset reaction might be all they know, all they’ve seen.

[Calicapenergy]

Yep my daughters father did this last week. He made it seem like he wanted to have our daughter spend the night but she actually asked.. than he didn’t give me a time frame of when to get her and calls out the blue saying I can come get her. I told him I wasn’t home and he was like you didn’t say you were going anywhere.. I told him. What I do is none of your business I’ll pick our daughter up when I’m finished. He hung up on me.. than when I get to my destination he says Nevermind I’ll keep her tonight lol .. BOUNDARIES are a must with them.

[tahomalewis]

I cannot tell you how accurate this is. I went throught it, and now my daughter is going through it while trying to co-parent. Please heed my warning that more is caught than taught when raising kids. Never stay for the sake of the kids. I was financially dependent on him for 20+ years...however, not anymore. It took a plan and moving with purpose. My daughter and I are both out of those situations and know how to properly handle co-parenting. This should not be a multi generational experience. Lee, thank you for showing this skit.

[shad]

Yes its insane thank you always for your help so hard when you got kids dont take the bait feel so sorry for the kids

[IntegraDIY]

Narcissist will also use dogs and cats, and any pets that were shared during the relationship 😵‍💫 to use as leverage to see you and control you

[trevor_mason_reed]

Yes, sir. My mom and dad are abusive af! Two coverts in a nutshell. My mom and dad dwell on the past, and they repeat themselves like a broken record. Nothing but chaos…

[cathy_clarinet]

That was a fantastic depiction. I shared that one 👍

[tkqddjp]

Absolutely they abuse the kids emotionally with distorted narratives and have passing info back and forth, say stories of I wish I was with my family and I'm exiled. Kids don't understand narcissism, can't read context in full as didn't see dad in full, are in grief for dad, feel guilty, hate family as excluding their dad. There is need for kids to learn this early Lee? Or think no? They are already in pain.

[jackidezell]

My daughter's dad literally said that and he's missed all 23 years of her life...

[KristonMahr]

Also you have to ignore tone of voice. Like this is seriously an important step for me because I've been demeaned and devalued from my parent and have become sensitive to tone of voice growing up

[lisamcshane]

Lee I would like to say happy Mother's Day to your wife and I hope she enjoys her day and thank you for helping us

[mercedesharrison]

It's crazy bc while this scenario is true it can also be true that you're the non narc parent and the other parent is a narc and quickly introducing kids to new supply like narcs do and you're questions, statements and shock can be viewed as narc jealously when you're really concerned about your kids. What remains tho are that narcs are so manipulative they can fit both sides of the bill so please people always look at consistent signs versus isolated incidents.

[BrotherToby]

Smh story of my life. She even tracks the days, minutes, and seconds that I have them for and tries to guilt trip me for having legit stuff to do IF I can't see them due to my schedule.

[triplejmom]

This is why you have a third party to communicate about co parenting. Email & not by phone. If they can’t control you they won’t want the kids.

[eljoy]

They might stop paying child support if you move on. They might put the children in dangerous or neglectful situations to exert control.

[anonymoususer]

That was a great skit and one of many reasons i only communicate in writing via OFW with my ex.

[ozarkghosthunter]

Me ex wife is VERY much a narcissist. I almost want to say even a sociopath.

[edvails]

That script seemed far too familiar. Although in my situation I said the parts about going out dating. After 20 years of marriage we separated and she moved her new partner into her house a week later. If I wanted to earn her back I could date her every other week to show my commitment. Got the lawyer did the divorce and I've had the kids tell me I need to be nice to mom because they have to comfort her when I disagree with her on things. Thank you very much for all the things that you're producing. Because it really helps to have that perspective and manage things better

[Ladyjojo]

Mine did that and weren’t he’s kids 😂
But used ex to cause problems etc.

[PoonamSingh-izms]

Beside counseling what medicine helps narcissistic person????