When A Narcissist Realizes You Refuse To Be Controlled

It is the height of arrogance when a narcissist decides that you need to be controlled. Dr. Les Carter describes how narcissists may react with dismay when you make it clear that you will no longer come under their control. But he then outlines multiple reasons for you to stay your course as you declare that you are choosing to move into a more healthy direction.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. In the past 40 years he has conducted more than 60,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[Shurmash]

When you start realizing that the more time you spend by yourself you begin to actually feel better and are in a better mood, that's definitely a sign that you need to move on.

[candacetharp]

I was told I was disrespectful. No, I was actually disobedient. The need for control is outrageous.

[Lafilledlapluie]

The funny thing is narcissists are so easy to injure. Once you realize that you don't even feel like participating in their madness. You'll find them constantly triggered or actually avoiding you

[mheiseus]

Once you stand up for yourself…. It’s gonna get worse before it get better. You have to learn to walk alone for a while because integrity is important here. Do not let them break you.

[mhmmwv]

The easiest way to get rid of the narcissist is to respect yourself...

[joanpind]

I would rather spend the rest of my life by myself then go through what I have gone through the last 15 years!

[mariacamelo]

I am 58. I would rather spend the rest of my life alone, than having to go through what I had to live for the past 13 years. No Contact is the solution. I am so much better off now.

[schizorap]

The dishonesty is so demoralizing, then when you call them on it they keep on lieing

[cynthiamiller]

When I sit boundaries up with the narcissist The narcissist replied that I was mentally and emotionally unstable that's when I realized I had my control back.

[EscapingTheMadness]

Your disrespectful to the narcissist when you start respecting yourself!!

[realhealing]

There's no fixing crazy. Save yourself! Leave the narcissist alone. No contact saved my life!

[rubyshoes]

When someone shows their true colours, believe them. 🙏🏻❤️

[trumpeterswan]

The narcissist erases people who don't conform to their rule book.

[parisaikens]

They can’t take what they dish out, they think they’re never wrong, they only want people to tell them want they wanna hear, and they’re very manipulative

[stanley-saxman-jones]

Narcissists want a “yes man” who would say “excuse me for being me”...and go along with their program...

[scotttully]

It got to the point where I didn't care anymore. "You don't get to control me" was the most freeing thing I ever said.

[jolly]

Less is more. The less you engage with them, the more happiness you can extract from life.

[billieburgess]

I went no contact with mine and the silence from them has been pure heaven.

[duhastkeinhertz]

Calling out a narcissist will enrage them. Telling them you wont stand for being controlled, will set them off. Just be ready for the rage.

[jackilynpyzocha]

I don't owe the narcissist apologies for saying "No!"