What Happens When a Narcissist Can't Control Someone?

Narcissistic people often seek to control and manipulate others to satisfy their own needs for admiration, validation, and power. But when they encounter resistance or are unable to control someone, their fragile sense of self and sense of entitlement is challenged.

This video looks at some situations in which a narcissist might experience a lack of control and outlines some of their common reactions.

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[tanisharichardson]

When they can't control you they try to control how others view you

[bigcheech]

I defeat every narcissist in my life with one simple move. Walk away and never look back 🙏🏾

[victoriaclarke]

Narcissism is just so tragic on so many levels. Don't get me wrong the behaviour is next level awful but the whole NPD picture is tragic to all involved. It's pointless behaviour that never changes.

[findadventure]

The sad thing is that no matter what you do or say, a narcissist will never connect the dots. They will just tell everyone something is wrong with you, doing whatever they can to get “supply” from those that will listen now that you have gone silent. Believe me, silence is golden and the best revenge.

[EECSVT]

It's hilarious to watch them crumble when they realise they can't manipulate you. They're open mouthed that someone is impervious to their 'charms'.

[maxinedavieds]

Horrible people. Their dysfunction is off the charts. I made this mantra up awhile ago to help me stay focused while dealing with a narcissist sibling. “You can’t win with a narcissist. But you can’t lose if you don’t play the game!”

[lordfreerealestate]

It's like those estranged parents who are shocked their kids won't talk to them anymore. Or shocked their partner left them after all the abuse. They act like victims when the real victim decide they won't take it anymore.

[Kloops]

My covert ex husband is an expert at lying and gas lighting and controlling.
And boy does he ever have a vindictive side.
But I’ve fought like hell to get myself back. And I’m starting to finally like myself again.

[bereal]

That's it EXACTLY, they don't really care, they just care that they can't control anymore. They conveniently forget every nasty thing they've said to you and become the consummate victim!

[TheBigdog]

They're so weak. I truly feel sorry for them. From a safe distance, that is.

[teresaalvarado]

The final curtain for a narcissist is when they can't go back.
Nothing they can do to change the past.

[wayneelliott]

Mine didn't walk away despite my indifference. She stalked me relentlessly. Then launched a vicious smear campaign. It continues 5 years later. I haven't acknowledged her at all for four years. Her rage and hate is immeasurable.

[suzannebunbury]

More authenticity and narc repellent training, please ❤️
You’re a treasure

[anniemac]

Authentic people are prey for the be their scapegoat

[sandycares]

My experience in a nursing home of a female narcissist was hiding cups, little plates and cutlery. Roughly 20 of each hidden in the back of drawers and a cubby hole. I believe she was frustrated on trying to make certain staff members her source.

Upon discovering this I piled everything in her lap in her wheelchair and wheeled her to the kitchen. They were shocked and said they had been missing these articles.
She never changed expression, batted an eye or apologized. Her only reaction initially was an expression that said " shoot I got caught".
She was my mother.

[Jay-qlgp]

My mom is a narcissist. I was the scapegoat. I've since gone no contact. And the people who tell me, "But that's your mom!" are legion. One time at a family gathering she was complaining once again about how bad "I" was and how "I" was always doing something. Her cousin asked why, and then began to ask more and more pertinent questions. And she became more and more uncomfortable because her cousin was getting closer and closer to the truth. It caught her completely off guard. Because she wasn't wanting solutions, she was wanting sympathy.

[marilyntoews]

I’ve realized now that I’ve had narcissists in my life for 60 years and didn’t realize what was going on. I wish I would have learned all this sooner. It may have saved me mountains of grief frustration and anger. One has literally destroyed my family and one has destroyed my in-law family. I’ve seen relationships completely severed because of them. One sister in law had to sever her own relationship with her parents because the the narcissist sister had so convinced their parents of her own delusions. It’s so beyond sad.

[Znny]

Yes please, I'm interested in authenticity as a narc-repellant 🙋‍♀️

[jeffreyjackson]

"Looking for vulnerabilities"- I saw it immediately when she tried it. I put on my best pokerface and kept it moving.

[hazelmarieb]

Not my most recent discard but definitely the most usual reason I was devalued and discarded: I was respecting her boundaries too much. Yes. That. The cognitive dissonance is strong with narcissists. They WILL find a reason.