how to make friends easily & keep them.

main: @simonesquared

[JessBess]

I agree, I need people who give me the same energy back. I agree with finding people with the same values, especially people that have healed, who are looking for emotionally stable relationships and healed their relationship with their femininity and masculinity. It seems rare to find people that don't follow the crowd these days, who can think for themselves and aren't offended easily.

[dearxdiary]

I swear ever since the pandemic it's hard to socialise with people and make friends. Really needed this. Thank you simone <3

[irina-tdyd]

Not gonna lie…Talking about the “old fashioned way” I wouldn’t like to tell me kids how I met my husband. Like… “hey mum how did you meet dad?”, “oh yes, he replied SMASH???! To my story and I fell in love” 😂😂😂

[doveslizleskiss]

what i understood quite recently is that for me, i couldn't keep friends because low maintenance friendship were making me feel like i don't have friends, but high maintenance friendship were too tiring to keep up with (i don't have the energy to go out with someone every day)
so i realised that i first need to figure out what type of friendship * i * am willing to offer and settle for, before expecting anything in return.
turned out, i prefer having online friends or friends that i go out with maybe once a week or every 2-3 weeks but we text every day!!! because for me texting is not tiring at all and when i always have a convo running on chat, i really feel like i have friends lol. like if you can relate :))

[julliard_]

this was EXACTLY what i needed to hear right now. Going into the new school year, I'm finding myself not quite annoyed, but not quite happy with my current friends, and I couldn't figure out why. They're good people, but something just felt off. After watching this, I was able to reflect and found that we had initially connected over interests alone, and now not only have we grown into new and different people with differing interests, but we don't share the same values.

Your videos are always so refreshing to watch! thank you so much!

[simrantuli]

going through a breakup, having only a few friends, this is exactly what i needed. thankyou simone, you always save the day <3

[SugarsugarFruity-hzlz]

It's sooo hard to make friends now. Even when you think you found "a friend" they leave the next day or arent consistent enough with their friendship. Such sadness....😩

[sophie_dang]

This topic is so important! Yes, the more you meet people the more you can look at socialising as a whole rather than being stuck on one individual and fearing what they think. A lot of things said here were just on point

[ece-hrfg]

sticking to the comfort and familiarity of old friendships is so much easier than distancing yourself and finding new people to connect with, but i've noticed this is something i need to do. i've outgrown my friend group and become miserable. i'm lying to myself by pretending i'd rather only interact with these people and others i meet on a surface-level and keep mostly to myself, when i still desire deep connections outside of what i have with my partner with people i align with. i'm glad i found this video, it was what i needed to truly see how much i need to let those friends go.

[ece-hrfg]

the comment about not meshing with everyone is so true, and i've been noticing this more and more. i'm doing an exchange semester in another country and i've been forcing myself to initiate small talk with people, just to see where it leads. so far nine times out of ten we end up having a pleasant conversation and sometimes it even goes further and i get to know a new person. but sometimes the other person isn't interested so the conversation abruptly ends. either way i've learned to understand it's all about mine and the other person's energies matching, and if someone doesn't want to talk with me that's not my problem so i move on. as an introvert i've never been the most comfortable when meeting new people, if i listened to my worries i probably wouldn't talk to anyone tbh. but forcing myself out of my shell this way has been really helpful to see there isn't anything wrong with me and i don't suck at socializing, i'm actually great at communicating with people whose energy matches mine. so i really reccommend this for my fellow introverts. it's super hard at first but it gradually gets much easier! and learning things about different people is really cool lol

[stobit]

finally someone talking on friendships 😭😭

[tohhnee]

Love this! I would love if u did a video about outgrowing friends as well. I feel guilty for not keeping up with my friends whom I feel I don’t vibe with anymore 😭

[hattiehall]

The last part. Yeah if you’re a good conversationalist, it’s so hard differentiating just getting along with someone, versus connecting to the extent of potentially being great friends.

[hint]

now i'm saying yes to everything, agree to go to any events this summer trying things with no judges, so thats makes me more energetic and have hight value and good speaker to almost evry one and even happier, it is like you have no time to be sad

[Marilyn-lrxt]

I remember asking you to share your tips for making friends a few months ago and you just published this video! it's super nice thank you very much Simone !!!! ❤❤❤

[IzzyMoonbow]

My problem is that I have a hard time maintaining friendships. I get along with people pretty well, but I don’t know how to get closer to people than just being aquatints with them

[teddybear]

Honestly this made me realize a lot of things! The girl I am friends with since a month overshares alot, relay on me to notify teachers when she's not coming in but when it comes to me she doesn't even check up. Also, the free time in uni, I tagg along with her but all she does is talk to her girlfriend and then blames me for not opening up...Wow! This video just popped up I guess it was the universe's sign for me? Jeez

[fangdrag]

why... i can't find people who reciprocate.. so like, i would always hit them up, and they will listen to me, they will do me favors, but they would never message me first or share things with me unless i go all my way to ask?

[Desrayyy_]

I give so much, and lately I’ve realised it’s better to mirror them

[johnvelasco]

Just sharing my reflections here. I’ve been through quite a stage of desperation in the past year and realized my people pleasing traits. I met a friend from an app a year ago, and as much as I didn’t know him very well yet (since we just met and all) I overshared a lot of my anxieties and issues with several people and some of my friends and other drama and stress I was surrounding myself in. As much as me and my best friend overshare quite a lot, oversharing with someone I just met in an app is not ideal, as the video mentioned. That guy I met bluntly called me out and told me I overshare too much about people. I turned into dramatics and never spoke to him to give space. I am learning that I still needed to heal and process the emotions I was feeling. At a point last year, I thought finding friends was difficult and I thought I had to demand friendship (ex asking someone hey can we be friends so you can be my therapist) but instead you earn friendship and you act on it as mentionned like a two way street. I just need to put myself out there and find the communities I belong in. I am determined to kill the negative voices in my head telling me that people hate me.

Overall, this video was helpful!