How I learned to make more friends

Algorithm Babble: This is a video about how I learned to make more friends. It helps you get better at making friends, and improving social skills, and it's a self improvement video. Hey it's Better Ideas welcome to Joey. Ok bye.

[maltsday]

They should teach social skills in school, it's so important in every part of your life...

[carmelalala_o]

"Your like by everyone but love by no one" it hits sooo hard.

[melithegamer]

I’m 23, introverted with severe social anxiety and autism. When I meet new people there’s no way for me to be myself. It takes a while for me to be comfortable and once I’m starting to get there finally it’s too late :/ I’m trying hard to change. Thanks for making these videos.


** Came back to make an edit almost 2 years later to tell you I've made a couple of friends, and that it gets better. It really gets better.

[WhirlOmar]

This is how I was when I was in my late teens and early twenties. I recently read my journal of those days and I was so mad at my younger self for writing about being so depressed because I was stuck home with hardly any friends. It's such a waste of good energy. What they say is so true. Don't worry about it and focus on the things you love and your friends will arrive in your life without you even looking for them. It DOES get better.

[sanjeevakaalex]

"Once you feel you are ignored by someone, never disturb them again".

I find this useful

[elliephant]

Alternative title: how not being honest to people is ruining your life

[Nadrisk]

it sucks when you're not the best friend to any of your best friends

[chineseboxer]

"In order to have friends, you have to be one."

[gabrielgrigore]

Making friends is not hard
Keeping them over the years is
Don't worry if you only have one true friend. Most people don't even have that.

[draw]

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

[diablmaster]

5:37 You missed the most important third option, which in my opinion is vital for deep friendships:
Someone doesn't fully agree or may totally disagree but sees how you think and appreciates it and respects it.

I don't think a deep friendship can be one where this happens on every point but I think there has to be some times where you have interesting disagreement. Indeed, in my own life I have noticed many occasions where disagreement and conflict has resulted in a deepening of friendship.

[joshuahummel]

I have social anxiety disorder, but this video helped me. My favorite takeaway from this is that you can make friends just by inviting people to stuff. All you need to do is add people (e.g. to snapchat) and then send DM flyers or post to your story inviting them, whether you met them at a job, class, party, etc. Once you do this a few times at random, you'll get to know some of them who frequently want to join you in your events or whatever your theme of interaction is. These people will share common interests with you, and hopefully you'll eventually have enough of a selection to find your besties and really get to know them!

[benjefferson]

when he said, “Liked by everyone but loved by no one”

i felt that

this is an edit (2 years later) i got through it pretty well, i have a lot of friends and i am very happy with the version of myself

just let time pass, dont take bad decisions, everything will arrange itself eventually

hope i helped some people ❤️

[abhinarayan]

Useful points from the video:
1)Be the one who initiates social interaction or events, don't wait for other people to invite you
2)Show your geniune, true and authentic self to others, never just agree with whatever. Voice your opinion
3)Be comfortable with rejection that way you can meet more people and increase your chances of forming deeper bonds.
4)Go to the places where you think you can find people who have the same interests as you.

All the best for anyone who is reading this :)

[rachaelannewalker]

I loved this. I’ve always been an extremely bubbly outgoing person and had a tight group of friends growing up. But since college, those have all drifted and I find it hard to get close to anyone now, as I feel like I’m a bother or overbearing. And it’s not even a confidence thing, but I’m such a people pleaser that I hate making anyone feel uncomfortable and I don’t share the jokes in my head or certain opinions because I want to make everyone comfortable or I’m afraid I’ll say something that will create discomfort. This has something that’s been on my mind heavily lately, as I’m getting married next year, and I’m realizing I no longer really have a set group of die hard friends to stand next to me, but just close friends as invites. And that’s no one else’s fault but my own.

[sarathomas]

I was taught to always be nice to everyone brcause you never know what their growing through.
I think I took it to the extreme because when you said "liked by everyone loved by no one" I FELT THAT IN MY SOUL.

LIKE DANG

[daydrmrofficial]

I think people still think social anxiety is being shy, no its deep rooted fear of people and social interaction. And yes you can still make friends that way but that doesnt make it go away tf.

[RustyCrayon]

I decided to not reach out to my friends anymore because it felt like I was always the one who had to initiate talking and inviting them to things. It wasn’t until I did that that I realized they don’t really care about me :(

[rivolinho]

If I had to give one bit of advice on this to someone in their teens or early 20s, it would be to keep up your friendships with extended family that you are close too, cousins etc.
I drifted away from my extended family and placed much more emphasis on my school/college/work friends. As you get older, you'll find that many of those people drift away, simply because the thing that brought you together isn't there anymore. Most people also place platonic friends very low down the pecking order of priorities.
Family on the other hand have a blood bond. They will give a shit about you when it counts. Don't ditch them.

[legionx]

I learned to make friends by being chill, talking calm, using common sense and having a high sense of humor so others don't identify me as "boring". When it comes to making friends, find people who are trustworthy, chill, and incredible nice. These type of people will help you in the long run and last for decades. They will show loyalty, honesty, and most importantly true friendship. Always make sure you lead a good first impression, it's like finding a really solid ground to build a skyscraper.